re: What's the longest you 'n your dude..

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" Well, know that you two recognizing these things to begin with is a really good sign. The fact that you're ... [snip!] ... that you're working towards a more stable relationship is an even better sign. A lot of people can't do either of these things."

Thanks   those are my thoughts too, but it's good to hear from someone else! Just over all being more positive people has helped.

About a year ago myself and my Fiance had one of the biggest fights yet, I can't really remember what exactly it was about - but I know it involved his family and the fact that they didn't agree on us dating which put a bit of pressure on us.
I was living with him at the time, we had this fight, we both said things that we regretted. We didn't talk for about 3 weeks, close to a month before he begged for my forgiveness.
We've had petty little arguments after that but we always just seem to work it out a few hours later, probably because we've both matured with age, I guess.
I've read majority of the comments on here and most of them are really true. Also, if he doesn't love your Son as he loves his own daughter - there's something wrong. I mean, maybe this is just me but if my Fiance had an older child to another woman, I would be ecstatic about it and want to love them equally, as if the child was my own.
You definitely need to discuss it all with him, and hope it all works out! I hope he realizes he's the one in the wrong and says sorry - because some people don't realize that they do wrong.
Best of luck with it.  

Quoting KNZ.:" Ugh, haha, just, alot. I mean, i'm used to small annoyances from him, and even big ones, i usually keep ... [snip!] ... the other ones, haha, but i mean, those were two of the 'lesser' things if that can give you an idea of what's been going on. "

I know what you mean haha, I keep most of my smurf in PTOTs too!

Damn... I mean I'd be mad too!

a month of barely talking to eachother, but a different time for one week, where I actually moved out during that time

No longer than 3 days at worst

about 2-3 days the longest usually a few hours and he always says he is sorry

The longest? Um I can't really remember. Usually one of us just cracks a joke or something and we're back to normal.

Our fights usually last an hour or less. I usually go into our bedroom and lock the door that way I can cool down and we can both think about what happened. Then he usually comes in when he is ready to talk about it and usually I am cooled down. If I'm not I will tell him and he will come back in a few minutes later.

My ex wouldn't speak to me for days at a time. He would avoid me at all costs, even going so far as to stay out overnight so he wouldn't have to come home and see me (even though it wasn't me that caused the issues, he tried to make it seem like he was punishing me). We were married for a long time, so this was something that I "stuck it out" with for awhile. I'd say the longest was a week, and that was at the end of our marriage before we separated. He was already sleeping in the living room and had been for about a month. Ignoring me was just the icing on the smurf cake.
My fiance and I don't fight. Sometimes he says or does something that gets under my skin and instead of calling him out on it, I withdraw and pull into myself. He senses it and will usually say something within an hour and then we'll talk. We've never given each other the silent treatment, and we've never had a fight. I guess since we've both come from relationships that were nothing but fighting because of the other person, we've just decided that we won't let that happen to us. It takes a conscious effort to communicate and it takes guts to be able to lay it out when you feel like you've been wronged and you don't know how the other person will react to being called out (which is why I usually pull into myself...I called out my ex a few times on things he had done that hurt me and it ended up in some of the worst fights ever...with holes being punched in walls and belongings being smashed and trashed).

I'm also of the mind that one should not apologize for things one is not guilty of. That was a bad habit of mine and it made my ex think I took responsibility for all of our problems and he bore none whatsoever. I still have to work on it, but I'm doing well with not taking on things that are not my fault. I will apologize for where I've been wrong (DF still gets shocked when this happens lol). However, I will not accept responsibility for someone else's actions and words that have hurt me. I won't say I was the cause because people should be able to control their words and actions and not blame others for what they do or say. That said, if you truly feel hurt by his words and actions, speak to him about it, but do so in a non-confrontational way. See if you can have someone watch the kids so you can be alone to talk. Maybe on neutral territory if being at home makes it comfortable enough for an explosive argument. Things need to be discussed, but try to be the calm and rational one, even if he is not.

Maybe the longest time it was bad was a week, we still spoke but I stayed extremely angry with him.