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youmissedit.sorry!

I just want to say I'm sorry, but I wouldn't believe the whole, I'll tell you whats up when you get back thing.

My dad told that to my mom so he wouldn't feel guilty about smurfing other women while she was in texas with her dying mother (my grandma).

when DH was trying to join the navy they told him that we needed to be married or he had to sign his rights over because something about how they no longer allow "single parents" to join since if something were to happen like you got deployed and the person you have as a guardian can't follow through with watching your child then you're screwed and can't leave and that screws the military over...it could be different or it could've been that the recruiter was a smurf.

Sounds like he wants an excuse to cheat while you are gone! SmUrf him I say if he wants to work things out then you are togther working on them... he can sleep in the living room.

If he needs a break a "see other women" break tell him you are sure you can do better! Hell the Army will be full of eye candy for you!

This is just my oppnion.

First off, I wouldn't leave without finalizing what you two are going to do with the relationship.
If you two are married, and if you're going active- maybe he knows you'll be getting good money with him being a dependent and all that?

And yes, you can be a single parent in the military. A girl I went to boot camp with is still on active duty and just had her second child- and she is single. It's hard, but the military accommodates you- there are even day cares on bases.

I'm sorry you are going through this. But I would not trust him. If you still here and he's already hanging out with other woman, with inappropriate intentions, imagine what will happen when you're at basic training, you'll also be gone again for another good amount of time during your MOS school. [your job training, I don't know what the Army calls it.]

Good luck mama.

Screw him. There are better fish in the sea than him! Trust me!

Quoting applelove:" Sounds like he wants an excuse to cheat while you are gone! SmUrf him I say if he wants to work things ... [snip!] ... break tell him you are sure you can do better! Hell the Army will be full of eye candy for you! This is just my oppnion."

NO, don't smurf him.

Quoting applelove:" Sounds like he wants an excuse to cheat while you are gone! SmUrf him I say if he wants to work things ... [snip!] ... break tell him you are sure you can do better! Hell the Army will be full of eye candy for you! This is just my oppnion."

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Quoting applelove:" Sounds like he wants an excuse to cheat while you are gone! SmUrf him I say if he wants to work things ... [snip!] ... break tell him you are sure you can do better! Hell the Army will be full of eye candy for you! This is just my oppnion."

Sadly, it isn't cheating if they aren't "together".

Op, i'd just leave him. The way he's acting, he doesn't give a smurf. And yes, you can be a single parent and be active military. My neighbor is a single parent, and was active with a 8 year old daughter.

Quoting Mermaid Hathor Elaina-Wed:" NO, don't smurf him. "

Whaa?

Thank you ladies I really appreciate all your replies!

I am sure it is not easy, but I have heard of single parents being in the military. Sounds like he just wants a break to screw around while you are gone then come back when you are getting a regular paycheck >.< Def don't need the crap in your life. Do you have family around that might be able to help with your child?

Quoting D335 NUT$:" Thank you ladies I really appreciate all your replies!"

I really hope that whatever happens is for the best! Good luck, and you're about to start a new chapter in life, don't let him hinder your or hurt your decisions.

Good luck in everything. If you need some motivation, I'd love to write you! I remember what it's like to go through training, those letters were what got me through the days. If you want to just let me know!

Quoting Unique Mama:" I am sure it is not easy, but I have heard of single parents being in the military. Sounds like he just ... [snip!] ... paycheck >.< Def don't need the crap in your life. Do you have family around that might be able to help with your child?"

OP, I don't know if the Army is the same, but do you still need to give temp custody to someone before you leave? Is it going to be BD?

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" Sadly, it isn't cheating if they aren't "together". Op, i'd just leave him."

If they are legally married then him smurfing anyone else is considered cheating, whether he considers them on a 'break' or not.