re: Am I over reacting?

The only reason I had ask at all was because my husband and I were curious on weather it would have ever been a problem for us and no it wouldn't be. This was one problem ladies lets not condemn him for a mistake even with it being a rather large one. He isn't sleeping with her sister and having a baby with her best friend all at the same time. But I do agree that this is something that he should have cared a little more about you and the babies well being. I would not want to be walking any distance 8 months pregnant holding a 2 year old!

Well Dh had agreed that I should not be driving the vehicle that tends to break down. Since he NEVER picks up ds or has him in the vehicle he agreed that until all the problems are fixed with the car that I will be driving his truck. And as for his dad, he claimed he got onto him which I know he didn't. Me and his father have a very rough relationship. I honestly CANNOT stand his dad. He is not only rude, arrogant and obnoxious but a HUGE HYPOCRITE. I told dh that if his dad really wants me to respect him, that he needs to stop acting like you are to do whatever he wants you to do no matter what Your family needs. When he's with his dad, his dad acts as if his son doesn't have any responsibilities but to hang out with him. Anytime he's with his dad and Im on the phone with him he seems to get jealous or something. I told dh his dad needs to come to terms that you have your OWN FAMILY and that you need to start putting us FIRST. He agreed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" Well Dh had agreed that I should not be driving the vehicle that tends to break down. Since he NEVER ... [snip!] ... I told dh his dad needs to come to terms that you have your OWN FAMILY and that you need to start putting us FIRST. He agreed."</blockquote>




Did he apilogized for acting like an smurf? Is this the first time he acts like this?

Quoting ~*VINTAGE LOVE*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" Well Dh had agreed that I should not be driving ... [snip!] ... He agreed."</blockquote> Did he apilogized for acting like an smurf? Is this the first time he acts like this?"

Nope he doesn't see what he did wrong. Like Idk he was like you had someone to come help you, there was nothing else I could do. I said I understand you were on a boat fishing. It was 11 a.m. when I called to tell you what was going on. You simply just said can we talk about this later as I was still broke down with our son in a parking lot. Then after having my friend show up jump my car off I was driving and my car died, and along with it so did the breaks and power steering. I called you hours later when I FINALLY got home which was about 2:30 p.m. to explain where my car was then how it might get towed or have a HUGE fine, Your dad in the damn back ground telling you to hang the smurfing phone up. And you simply acting like you could care less because I was interrupting your fishing trip. Then going on to tell me that you would be back to look at the car around 5 p.m. and that you had to go. He didn't get back till dark. He left my house around 6:00 a.m. to go fishing. I didnt expect him to DROP EVERYTHING. But I did expect him to care a little more, and If it were me on that boat and him broke down I would have cut the fishin trip a little early to avoid the car being towed or getting a ticket we couldnt afford.

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" Nope he doesn't see what he did wrong. Like Idk he was like you had someone to come help you, there was ... [snip!] ... broke down I would have cut the fishin trip a little early to avoid the car being towed or getting a ticket we couldnt afford."</blockquote>




So he didnt seem concerned at all. It worries me what if you call him one day thinking you in labor would he give a smurf if he is with his dad when that hapends. He needs a wake up call and a few slaps. Is he scared of his dad? Is your Mil in the picture?

Quoting ~*VINTAGE LOVE*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" Nope he doesn't see what he did wrong. Like ... [snip!] ... with his dad when that hapends. He needs a wake up call and a few slaps. Is he scared of his dad? Is your Mil in the picture?"

He was like your lucky I brought my phone on the boat. It frustrates me that he doesn't get why I was upset. He did somewhat apologize because alot of things lately have really been screwed up. Like he's been super unthoughtful and insensitive about. He has a huge problem being a follower. He acts like he's still trying to get his dads love. I'm not wording that right. But he tries to please his father sooo much. Maybe like he's still wanting his dads approval. He does need a wake up call. Yeah I don't even think it crosses his mind that I am 34 weeks pregnant. Hopefully labor doesn't come soo but Labor isn't something that you can control. He has A LOT of growing up to do. And I'm hoping it will happen soon!

Quoting ~*VINTAGE LOVE*~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" Nope he doesn't see what he did wrong. Like ... [snip!] ... with his dad when that hapends. He needs a wake up call and a few slaps. Is he scared of his dad? Is your Mil in the picture?"

He has his mom and Stepmom. I somewhat get along with both. But one is just a workaholic his real mom but I do get along with her somewhat. When me and dh were having major issues, because of basically the same smurf, I broke down crying and was like if I knew this is what he thought marriage was then I wouldn't have married him. In front of his mother. She goes to say well Hailey honestly you need to lower your standards. I just shut up because I wasn't going to bash her son to her. His stepmom is like 70 something years old is stuck in the olden days and is a little crazy. She always tells me that she stabbed shanes dad with a fork! bahaha. His dad is a stupid cheater, and now a drunk. Oh and claims to be this amazing Christian who lives by the bible.

<blockquote><b>Quoting That Girl.:</b>" He has his mom and Stepmom. I somewhat get along with both. But one is just a workaholic his real mom ... [snip!] ... fork! bahaha. His dad is a stupid cheater, and now a drunk. Oh and claims to be this amazing Christian who lives by the bible."</blockquote>



Wow that alot to take in. I am so sorry hun. Hope things get better. He will realize one day I truly hope he does.