My daughter gets these horrendous "zits" in her ear. They are massive red things that fill with puss and blood and they are incredibly painful, it SUCKS. So far the only thing that works well besides popping and draining which is even more painful, is a hot compress and regular wipes with alcohol to try and dry it out I hope you get some relief soon!
If you breastfeed, put a little bit of breast milk on it, it works wonders lol. I had a pretty big and painful zit on my chin and I rubbed milk on it and it stopped hurting right away and by the next day it was gone.