I'm going to vent. You can read about it.

Its been a long day, you and your child spend the day playing at a friend's house.

When you get home, it seems like all you're doing is yelling. You ask 3, 4, 5 times for them to pick up their toys, help you pick up the toys...whatever. You do a time-out, you do 2 time-outs...those don't work. You raise your voice again.

Finally the 3 year old is helping pick up the toys. WTF kid...I didn't even get any of these damn toys out, yet I'm supposed to pick up all of them. I couldn't just leave them, these toys are taking over my house and all I ask is that they be thrown in some toy boxes in the corner.

^^^This is what happened to me yesterday. I (stupidly) invited a guy I was dating over for dinner. He witnessed the whole thing.

A couple of hours later, after my son is in bed...he tells me "You yell at your kid a lot." I guess being an every-other-weekend-warrior, he knows a thing or two about what its like to be a parent 24/7  

Sometimes I get frustrated, sometimes I yell. It happens to everyone, you feel overwhelmed and you do something that later, you regret. I wish I hadn't yelled at Gabriel, and just taken a 5 minute break from the situation. That being said, this guy really pissed me off. How dare you pass judgement when you haven't been around long enough to do so  

You have no idea what its like to be me, and if you were that concerned about the situation, you could have tried to HELP me with my son; not continue sitting on the couch, watching football.

Another one bites the dust.

Advice or input is accepted. I've already made up my mind about the guy though...its been about a month of dating and he has done something at least once a week that pisses me off or hurts my feelings. That shouldn't be happening, I should still be on cloud 9.

You should for sure still be on cloud 9. Leave him, for sure. You don't need someone to make you feel worse when you're in a tough situation. You need someone to either help comfort you/help the situation, or just keep quiet. He did neither of those things, and obviously just made it all worse.

Yup. Leave him.

DH's best friend is constantly complaining that I tell at my 2 year old too much. His daddy spoils him so when he come home he's a little brat and doesn't listen. TOTALLY understand...

1. Why are you introducing your son to a guy after only dating him a month?

2. You've only been dating a month, maybe he didn't feel comfortable stepping in and "dealing" with a child he has just met.

3. Many men can't help but only be "every other weekend warriors"....

what an smurf at least you found out now instead of a few months down the line that hes a judgemental twat . youll find someone

Leave the guy alone... that will be another kid to yell at... he doesn't live ur life and u knw wut is best for ur children and he shouldn't be a part of it if he is just pissing u off everytime.... i go through my phases like that too and the hubby knws eitherr to stik by me or shut it.. lol... good luck in the future hope u find someone that is going to help u emotionally and physically!!!

Quoting mama erica.:" You should for sure still be on cloud 9. Leave him, for sure. You don't need someone to make you feel ... [snip!] ... help comfort you/help the situation, or just keep quiet. He did neither of those things, and obviously just made it all worse. "

He ended up storming out of my house.

I couldn't help myself, I just exploded and asked him "Well, what in the smurf would you do? I got on his level. I did time-out. I did every smurfing thing I could smurfing thing of. Why don't you tell me what the smurf you would have done?"

^Just lots of F bombs, he then walked out of my house and told me that I wasn't going to sit here and talk to him like he was some smurf...<--Again, had to bite my tongue, because all I am thinking to myself is how much of an smurf he is.

Instead of telling me how wrong I was, he should have helped me in that situation. You're totally right Erica. I think I'm just lonely and wanting to find someone that will be good for me and Gabriel.

I shouldn't settle.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" 1. Why are you introducing your son to a guy after only dating him a month? 2. You've only been dating ... [snip!] ... stepping in and "dealing" with a child he has just met. 3. Many men can't help but only be "every other weekend warriors"...."

1. Because I don't usually date people. Its hard for me to find time to spend with anyone without my son here. This is probably the 4th time he has been around my son, and maybe the 2nd time where its only been the 3 of us. My son doesn't know we're dating, he thinks he is just a friend. Thanks for judging.

2. You don't have to "deal" with him. When I'm trying to do a load of laundry, wash dishes from the dinner I just made, and clean my house...as a PERSON, its a nice gesture to ask me if I need any help. If you see your friend, struggling with their child, and household chores....do you sit on the couch and just watch TV?

3. Cool story bro, those men can start handing out advice when they've walked a few feet in my shoes.

Seriously an ass. I don't like yelling at kids or anyone for that matter but no one is a saint and sometimes our emotions get the better of us. Good thing he showed his true judgmental colors now instead of later. It would be different if he would have helped you with DS or talked to you later about your frustrations...but no, he failed. I recently stopped talking to a guy I was seeing and he also failed. I was having intuitive feelings that it just wasn't gonna work and I'm glad I listened. That's my advice always- listen to your heart and your head.

<blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" He ended up storming out of my house. I couldn't help myself, I just exploded and asked him "Well, ... [snip!] ... right Erica. I think I'm just lonely and wanting to find someone that will be good for me and Gabriel. I shouldn't settle."</blockquote>




I think you're really rushing in to things. The last thing I'd want is parenting advice from someone who has no idea and has been around a month. Maybe your son wanted attention. He's 3 that's kind of what they do.

Quoting XDaniGirl:" Yup. Leave him. DH's best friend is constantly complaining that I tell at my 2 year old too much. His ... [snip!] ... my 2 year old too much. His daddy spoils him so when he come home he's a little brat and doesn't listen. TOTALLY understand..."

I'm glad someone does! lol

Quoting **milfshake**:" 1. Because I don't usually date people. Its hard for me to find time to spend with anyone without my ... [snip!] ... and just watch TV? 3. Cool story bro, those men can start handing out advice when they've walked a few feet in my shoes."

Sorry, I had no idea that you weren't actually asking for input or advice, you just wanted everyone to talk about what an smurf this guy is.

Quoting **milfshake**:" He ended up storming out of my house. I couldn't help myself, I just exploded and asked him "Well, ... [snip!] ... right Erica. I think I'm just lonely and wanting to find someone that will behegood for me and Gabriel. I shouldn't settle."

I disagree. You've been dating him a month, he should absolutely not be helping you discipline your kids.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Sorry, I had no idea that you weren't actually asking for input or advice, you just wanted everyone to talk about what an smurf this guy is. "

I just get sick of the condescending comments you tend to litter around this website. If you aren't going to give me constructive advice, you can leave...

Actually, I don't want any of your advice...you're always just a snobby smurf. You can just leave...none of your advice is desired.

Lets see since my son father doesnt watch him or keep him over nights any more for going on 3 months, I seem to have less patience for everything, i yell at him more, time outs more because im so tired from working and then coming home to deal with the winning and throwing toys and such. Of course i feel bad afterwards and i tell him that i love him and that mommy is sorry for being mean. My boyfriend now catches me before i loss it and tells me take a deep breathe think about it and then deal with it. The time i takes me to yell at my son to pick up the toys or whatever i could of done it my self and be done with it and saved a time out and such. I most of the time help him pick up so he knows he needs to put them back after playing.

Its hard being a single mother and yes we try to feel the loneliness with another guy but in all honestly its not going to make thing better if he is being an ass and such make sure he is a good guy to bring around your son and always to help relieve some of the stress and not cause more.