re: I'm going to vent. You can read about it.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Funny how when I don't give advice/input/comments that people want, I'm a judgmental bitch....hmmm. ... [snip!] ... bitch....hmmm. Doesn't sound to me like you are looking for a boyfriend, you are looking for a father for your child..."

Seriously, just don't even go there.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Funny how when I don't give advice/input/comments ... [snip!] ... you are looking for a boyfriend, you are looking for a father for your child..."</blockquote> To the last part, BINGO!"

Hey guys thanks...I realized my mistake and I'm going to fix it.

I lost my son's dad a few months ago, and I'm just lonely. I settled and rushed into something that I shouldn't have. I introduced my son to a guy I only dated for a month. I shouldn't date anyone ever since I don't have the support system that allows me to.

I'm just glad I have you people to put it so delicately that maybe I didn't make the best decision.

<blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" Thanks Erica *hugs* Funny how I posted this in single parenting, and all I'm getting is advice from people who aren't single, and are co-parenting. Either or. Oh BG, I haven't missed you  "</blockquote>




Cause I've never been single. Right. Love your assumptions. I've NOT been single for a year. I've been in your shoes.

Quoting **milfshake**:" Hey guys thanks...I realized my mistake and I'm going to fix it. I lost my son's dad a few months ago, ... [snip!] ... system that allows me to. I'm just glad I have you people to put it so delicately that maybe I didn't make the best decision."

  I'm sorry girl.

It'll all be OK. You live and learn, ya know? This experience wasn't a waste. You learned something from it. You can take this time to pull the two of you together (you and Gabriel), and the rest will fall into place for you guys. There is so much time, I promise you. And that totally doesn't mean you can't have fun along the way, because you sure can, and you deserve too.

<blockquote><b>Quoting mama erica.:</b>" Oh dear god, seriously.. If a good guy saw she was frustrated and wanted to help calm the situation ... [snip!] ... to help calm the situation down, there are plenty of things he could've done without taking over, or acting like the parent. "</blockquote>




It should never be expected that he does. It's not his place regardless.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" Thanks Erica *hugs* Funny how I posted ... [snip!] ... Cause I've never been single. Right. Love your assumptions. I've NOT been single for a year. I've been in your shoes."

Um no bitch...you have been NO WHERE CLOSE to where I've been. But thanks, come again.

Take your hormonal, asinine comments elsewhere.

Quoting **milfshake**:" Thanks Erica *hugs* Funny how I posted this in single parenting, and all I'm getting is advice from people who aren't single, and are co-parenting. Either or. Oh BG, I haven't missed you  "

Haha, well you know I am currently not single, but I have been there (sort of...) with a child, single, dating, so on and so forth. <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" Um no bitch...you have been NO WHERE CLOSE to where I've been. But thanks, come again. Take your hormonal, asinine comments elsewhere."</blockquote>




Oh, I forgot you know everyone's life.


You're extremely ignorant.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mama erica.:</b>" Oh dear god, seriously.. If a good guy ... [snip!] ... or acting like the parent. "</blockquote> It should never be expected that he does. It's not his place regardless."

Says you.

My (now) husband was great with my daughter when he first met her, and in situations where he thought he could help out, he did. Proved to me how awesome of an amazing person he is, and Father he would be. And I was right. *Meh*

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting **milfshake**:</b>" Um no bitch...you have been NO WHERE CLOSE ... [snip!] ... asinine comments elsewhere."</blockquote> Oh, I forgot you know everyone's life. You're extremely ignorant."

Why are you fighting this so hard? This obviously isn't the easiest of topics for her and you're just being a straight smurf.

Quoting mama erica.:"   I'm sorry girl. It'll all be OK. You live and learn, ya know? This experience wasn't a waste. ... [snip!] ... I promise you. And that totally doesn't mean you can't have fun along the way, because you sure can, and you deserve too. "

I'm glad that I know I'm not crazy, because you're in here and you totally get me.

I can't date anyone because I have no resources to help me with Gabriel. I met this guy, it started off well, and I invited him over when I had other friends over. It isn't like I've been spending all this time with just him and Gabriel   Playing house and acting like he is going to me by son's new daddy...what the smurf.

This was an instance when I needed help, and as a fellow parent...I would think he would want to help me instead of sit back and watch me struggle. Thats the red flag to me...and then have the balls to criticize me about how I mishandled the situation.

Quoting mama erica.:" Why are you fighting this so hard? This obviously isn't the easiest of topics for her and you're just being a straight smurf."

I wouldn't want to know her life  

And yes, straight stank hole.

Quoting **milfshake**:" I'm glad that I know I'm not crazy, because you're in here and you totally get me. I can't date anyone ... [snip!] ... and watch me struggle. Thats the red flag to me...and then have the balls to criticize me about how I mishandled the situation."

Honestly, I don't see what the issue even is about wanting a bit of help. If a girlfriend of mine was over and saw me seriously struggling, she would offer to help. If he is over as a friend in front of your son, and sees you getting upset, why can't he help a bit too? Meh, I don't know. Clearly it's different strokes for different folks.

But I for sure don't think you're crazy, and I think you're dealing/feeling a lot of things right now. And it's no ones place to make you feel bad about your situation.

<blockquote><b>Quoting mama erica.:</b>" Says you. My (now) husband was great with my daughter when he first met her, and in situations where ... [snip!] ... he could help out, he did. Proved to me how awesome of an amazing person he is, and Father he would be. And I was right. *Meh*"</blockquote>




But he still didn't HAVE to. I have an amazing SO as well that loves my son to pieces and has since they first met. It still doesn't mean I was gonna try and force him to do anything or make him feel bad about not stepping up cause I felt he needed to. I didn't expect anyone to do that because its not immediately their place in a relationship. A new relationship is delicate enough on its own and when you add a toddler in the mix, it changes everything.

Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mama erica.:</b>" Says you. My (now) husband was great with ... [snip!] ... a relationship. A new relationship is delicate enough on its own and when you add a toddler in the mix, it changes everything."

You should share that story at parties.