re: "Just think positive"

Oh this made me cry...my best friend gave birth to her still born son at home and three years later is still smurfed up from it...she was diagnosed with Derealization..basically her brain switched something off and she is pretty much numb to everything...she doesn't completely believe that her world is real.....seeing her suffer still haunts me...I got pregnant the year after and thought everyday I could miscarry...I made myself sick...no one could make that go away and I didnt even lose a child prrviously. That suffering of losing a child I truly believe is the most profound that you can possibly endure.

I'm so sorry  I guess I feel that way when people talk about Karma. I'm a loving person and I try not to hurt peoples feelings and I try to be positive. So my husband died because......... Or maybe I have the wrong outlook on Karma. I don't believe in it anyway. I don't believe in making things happening by being positive either. I think it's healthy to be positive but I believe that are life is already planned out for us and positive thinking does jack to change it. Hang in there, sending you hugs 

I had a pregnancy with a lot of complications. I thought maybe my son could have some issues at first. Everyone would tell me "Just think positive". So after a while I got on board with the think positive mumbo jumbo. It didnt work for crap! The most terrifying thing happened in the end...I lost my son. He had none of the issues I had been afraid of. Thinking positive doesnt always work and if somebody tells me this my next pregnancy Im gonna go apesmurf.

  Sometimes the most well meaning of intentions hurt the most. I'm sorry that people have unintentionally hurt you. Sending prayers and a warm hug your way!

Quoting laxmommy:"   Sometimes the most well meaning of intentions hurt the most. I'm sorry that people have unintentionally hurt you. Sending prayers and a warm hug your way!"

This is so true!!! My bff mom asked me if I worried that my dh rode a motorcycle. I said yes. She said oh God wouldn't do that to you twice (he was driving back to Spokane from Seattle about a 4.5 hr ride) . WTF I freaked afterwards. I still have a hard time when he rides it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting seattlemama3 *NMD*:</b>" This is so true!!! My bff mom asked me if I worried that my dh rode a motorcycle. I said yes. She said ... [snip!] ... back to Spokane from Seattle about a 4.5 hr ride) . WTF I freaked afterwards. I still have a hard time when he rides it. "</blockquote>


I can't believe shed say that to you. The first time was so random as well. I'm sure it's one of those things that makes you realize you can't prevent tragedy. It happenes "taking risks" or not. The world is so random and it's so difficult to understand gods plan.