re: Mother at 19...

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanessa91:</b>" I was 17 & a senior also. I had my son a few months before graduating. I'm now almost 22 & expecting a little girl. I know I'm a great mom & I wouldn't have it any other way"</blockquote>




Me either (: personally being a mom at such a young age helped me handle a lot of stuff. Granted I didn't handle some stuff well but that just goes along with being a teenager lol. I suffer from depression and my first pretty much saved my life so I'm not sure where I would be without him...

Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" It doesn't always, but statistics do prove that waiting until one is more mature is more beneficial ... [snip!] ... to understand the gravity of the situation.... whereas a 32 year old would have much more life experience and understanding."

This.

Even the difference of a few years is massive. At 18, I had just graduated high school and was working a minimum wage job. At 21, I have a 401k, some years of college creds and a job that w/differential, I make about 15/hr. But that still isn't enough to support a kid where I'm at.

Age does matter, but some people like to fool themselves into thinking otherwise.

Quoting XDaniGirl:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vanessa91:</b>" I was 17 & a senior also. I had my son a ... [snip!] ... a teenager lol. I suffer from depression and my first pretty much saved my life so I'm not sure where I would be without him..."

No offense, but I've suffered from depression and worst, and having a baby does NOT solve problems. In fact, it creates them.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" No offense, but I've suffered from depression and worst, and having a baby does NOT solve problems. In fact, it creates them."</blockquote>




I had a lot bigger problems than raising a baby. It has created some problems but for the most part he saved me. I wouldn't do anything stupid because I want to watch him grow and not make him be stuck with his stupid dad for the rest of his life.

Still want to know how old her kids are.

There's also a difference between being a new mom at 19, and being a mom of two 5 year old's at 19.

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" Well my opinion, there's a difference between looking like you're 16 & a mom than actually being 16 & a mom lol."

People who see that aren't going to know I'm NOT 16 and judge me the same.

FFS, went to the midwife's office and the nurse asked if my husband was my dad because I didn't look old enough and she thought I was a kid.

Quoting AmberTastic!:" Still want to know how old her kids are."

  

im 19 and im pregnant with my 3rd child it doesnt matter because im the one raising them me and my boyfriend have our own house...... it doesnt matter what people say as long as they arent the ones raising you'r children then why should it matter how old you are

Quoting Squid Kid:" People who see that aren't going to know I'm NOT 16 and judge me the same. FFS, went to the midwife's ... [snip!] ... the midwife's office and the nurse asked if my husband was my dad because I didn't look old enough and she thought I was a kid."

The way I see it, people will judge whether you're 16 or 35 so smurf them! I meant it more as in it's better to look 16 but be older and have better resources than a 16 year old would have for a child than actually be 16 and struggle.

Quoting Sweetie-Pie:" The way I see it, people will judge whether you're 16 or 35 so smurf them! I meant it more as in it's ... [snip!] ... to look 16 but be older and have better resources than a 16 year old would have for a child than actually be 16 and struggle."

I dont let it bother me. If you look at my profile, you'll see why *I* get judged as a mother even though I'm in my mid 30's. I know I put my kids first and do what I have to do and sacrifice everything to make sure they are happy. Others may not know that, but meh... what can I do, except keep being a great mom.

Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" I dont let it bother me. If you look at my profile, you'll see why *I* get judged as a mother even though ... [snip!] ... everything to make sure they are happy. Others may not know that, but meh... what can I do, except keep being a great mom."

your really sweet , & speaking the truth .. thank you.

Quoting Mama+1 Princess:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sweetie-Pie:</b>" It sure does."</blockquote> Hmm. Okay. I'm not going to argue you have a right to believe what you want."

lol just ignore her she alredy posted the same coment twice lol she is bored an want to argue lol

Society with always critisize young mothers.. That I don't know why.
A lot of younger mother's are better parents than older ones.
Just keep doing what you're doing, and ignore the haters.  

People stare at me just being pregnant, and i'm 20 years old.. But look 17 lol.

Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" I dont let it bother me. If you look at my profile, you'll see why *I* get judged as a mother even though ... [snip!] ... everything to make sure they are happy. Others may not know that, but meh... what can I do, except keep being a great mom."

I'm not judging anyone. I personally was a teen mother myself therefore I know how hard it is so I try to encourage young girls to practice safe sex or no sex at all. I'm glad that you're able to look past people's ignorance and go on living your life as the wonderful mother you are. I am the same way, I could give two smurfs about what people have to say (excuse my language). I know I am a great mother because my daughter shows it every day so whatever people have to say amuses me. I laugh it off and continue on with my life. If you're not paying my bills, feeding me or smurfing me your opinion does not matter lol.