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*Poof be gone*

It won't stop. I was in a controlling no trust relationship for 4 years. I broke it off with him.

It won't stop, trust us!

Has he been like this since the start? If so, I'm sorry you stayed with him and had children with them because leaving will be much harder now. If no, why did he get like this if you did not cheat? If this started out of no where, I would think he's the one that's cheating and his conscience is getting to him?

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Yeah, if he's been like that from the beginning and 4 years later he hasn't changed...chances are it's never going to change.

I couldn't do it. I couldn't deal with DH not trusting me.

it wont stop, it will only get worse. And the next thing you know he will try to not allow you places without him and not want you to talk to anyone including your friends b/c of his issues. Every problem he has will automatically become your fault. And if you're like me you'll end up having to lock yourself in the bathroom to try to get away from him while he's in the middle of a drunken jealous rage. Do yourself a favor and let him go. When I finally did, after years of dealing with this, I seriously finally felt free again. I felt like my life was just beginning instead of being over with already, which is how he made me feel. We have a child together so I still know somewhat of what goes on in his life and he hasnt been able to keep any other g/f either b/c he was doing the EXACT SAME THING to them.

***POOF***

Quoting green mama☮:" I wish I could just get up and leave. I'm a sty at home mom an the only thing I own is my clothes and child and a car...I feel trapped."

I was too b/c he didnt trust me enough to work!!! Do you have family or a friend you could stay with to get on your feet?

BTW---- the whole time he was so jealous and suspicious over me he had been cheating himself....

It won't stop until you make it. It's nothing you're doing wrong, he's just insecure. MAKE him secure.

Sit him down, talk with him, and tell him how you feel when he does things like check your phone. Ask him why he feels the need to. Ask him what you can do to help him feel better about himself.

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Quoting green mama☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:</b>" It won't stop until you make it. It's ... [snip!] ... caught. I realty could care less if he checks my phone but he's so sneaky about it like he's really going to find something..."

Really sounds like a guilty conscience to me....What I did was get a job, even though he gave me hell for it and i moved out even though I was still broke a month or so later. I just had to get away. Yes it was hard, and for a time I did need govt assistance, but it was definitely what was best for me and my child at the time

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Quoting green mama☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *mommy to 3*:</b>" Really sounds like a guilty conscience ... [snip!] ... He's just super insecure and I guess controlling. He doesn't mind me working but I have before and constantly got questioned."

I never thought my Ex was either. I figured with him working full time and me pretty much always knowing where he was he never had the chance.I was wrong. Your SO may not be cheating on you, but even if he's not its not a healthy relationship. My ex would show up at my work to make sure I was there or he would call several times during my shift. He tried to get people at our apartment complex to spy on me while he wasnt there. It wasnt always like that, but over the years his controlling ways escalated.