re: He wants another baby....

Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" SO and I make between $7000 - $10,000 a month depending on overtime and bonuses and we just work as ... [snip!] ... you're only young still ... I would tell him exactly how you feel but not discount the idea entirely for a few more years yet. "

we covered that. I have several friends in Australia. I have a good idea of how things work. Thanks for covering what's already been covered.

Quoting **§~~emily~~§**:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>"   "</blockquote> !! Lol I thought making 3-4 k a month was good geeze"

Ugh! I know!!! when I'm working, we make about 4500 a month and we just barely cover bills. Heck, an extra 1000.00 would make things so much more comfortable!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" we covered that. I have several friends in Australia. I have a good idea of how things work. Thanks for covering what's already been covered. "</blockquote>




Wow aren't you lovely ... Sorry i accidently skipped one post.

<blockquote><b>Quoting The (super kinky) Master:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" we covered that. I have several friends ... [snip!] ... covering what's already been covered. "</blockquote> Wow aren't you lovely ... Sorry i accidently skipped one post."</blockquote>




Yeah I read that and thought..
Really not necessary.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Monkey Nuts:</b>" I think what you purposed is very reasonable. You don't want to force yourself into having another child ... [snip!] ... would happen if you couldn't conceive a child together because of your fertility issues, would that be a deal breaker for him?"</blockquote>




No he's already said if we couldn't have kids he would be fine with that and we could look into adoption(something I'm totally for)

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs Somerhalder:</b>" Honetly i wouldnt consider it, u guys havent been together for that long yet and a baby is a huge thing. Enjoy just being together. I wouldnt even be buying a house with him yet"</blockquote>




Oh we aren't planing to have one NOW, he wants to try in around 9-12 months, whereas I'd rather wait 9-12yrs lol, but realistically I think I'd consider another one on 2.5/3yrs but that's a MAYBE. I've just never been a big 'I want a family' kinda person....

He already had plans to buy a house next April/May prior to us getting together, we aren't technically buying together because we both agree we should be married before both our names go on a house, it's just him buying it and me moving in haha.

I think if it were me.... I'd wait. Honestly, I wish I had of waited longer before having Charlotte. Amelie was still so little when Charlotte was born. It was full on and stressful. Our relationship had to take a back seat to parenting. Only recently we have been able to start having proper time together again. I do miss those weekends when Amelie was with her dad, and SO and I could do the things we wanted. I think, if Charlotte wasn't an oopsie baby, we would have waited til now before adding a second. In saying that though, things are how they are, and I do love having the girls close in age.
When I had Amelie, I was doing it all on my own, she was a horrible clingy baby. She was very demanding (still is. lol) and it was hard. I had little to no support. I moved out of state, so I had no family. Things were very very different when I had Charlotte. SO was great. Charlotte was the easiest baby.... she was the best sleeper, and she was just so relaxed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Jekka~:</b>" I think if it were me.... I'd wait. Honestly, I wish I had of waited longer before having Charlotte. ... [snip!] ... when I had Charlotte. SO was great. Charlotte was the easiest baby.... she was the best sleeper, and she was just so relaxed."</blockquote>




That's what I'm hoping to get next time round haha

How long had you and Jon been together before you found out you were pregnant?

I guess 1 upside to Endo is that the chances of an oopsie baby is pretty much zero haha

<blockquote><b>Quoting Manda♥Bella:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs Somerhalder:</b>" Honetly i wouldnt consider it, u guys ... [snip!] ... because we both agree we should be married before both our names go on a house, it's just him buying it and me moving in haha."</blockquote>



Ohh well thats good then. When ben and i bought a house together everything turned to poo!

I think if u waited a couple of years then that will be a good gap between the baby and bella, she will be at school and she can help u with little things. Tayla was always a good helper for me.

Quoting Manda♥Bella:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Jekka~:</b>" I think if it were me.... I'd wait. Honestly, ... [snip!] ... you found out you were pregnant? I guess 1 upside to Endo is that the chances of an oopsie baby is pretty much zero haha"

Like 8 months or something   waaaaaay too soon. We had only been living together for 2 months.
It's so frustrating that we got an oopsie baby, but now we are trying for one, we can't conceive.
You're still young, and pretty early in your relationship I'm guessing. Just enjoy being a couple. You will miss your child free weekends when they're gone. lol. But give it a couple of years, and you will probably start hating those child free weekends. I love child free time... but I hate not having them here of a night.

I think you need to discuss this with him, explain how you feel and give it time unless your 110% sure you won't want another child ever. You make the call and talk to your SO.


I didn't feel the need to explain my situation so I deleted my post. Good luck (:

Quoting [P&T's Mama]- Baking#3:" I think you need to discuss this with him, explain how you feel and give it time unless your 110% sure ... [snip!] ... to prevent it. Pills and condoms didn't work so here we are, but I wouldn't change it. You make the call and talk to your SO."

??? you didn't know that your ex did NOT use a condom? how is that even possible???
you say you didn't want another baby..so why didn't you put the damn condom on yourself? that makes no sense. none at all.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Brandi Rene~:</b>" ??? you didn't know that your ex did NOT use a condom? how is that even possible??? you say you didn't ... [snip!] ... you say you didn't want another baby..so why didn't you put the damn condom on yourself? that makes no sense. none at all. "</blockquote>



He had the condom and we were in the process of starting I trusted him to not do it without a condom he didn't want another baby either so no I didn't put it on I didn't want sex at all it hurt like hell I just wanted it over. Sorry I trusted the guy I guess. It doesn't have to make sense to you. I was only offering help