re: Kids in the family you don't like

Quoting FroggysMommy:" My Mom was originally paying for a phone for my niece and nephew. My nephew is almost 14. We agreed ... [snip!] ... case Kaitlyn is meeting up with bad people." I DO worry that shes going to give her information out to a predator and get hurt!"

Does her mom know all this? Why hasn't she taken the phone away?

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" Does her mom know all this? Why hasn't she taken the phone away?"

Oh she knows. I think my sister is in denial about how bad kaitlyn really is. She feels bad because Kaitlyn is "different" but I say over and over... that its going to be a problem.

When Kaitlyn was looking up inappropriate stuff on her phone I got on her and said "I was barely 19 when I had Lily... I hadn't graduated.... I had a messed up life and I barely made it. Kaitlyn, you DONT have the capacity to have a child. I don't regret Lily but don't end up like me, except even younger!" I got so much smurf from my brother in law for my pregnancy but he doesnt do ANYTHING at all. Smurfing smurf. My sister works her ass off and is expected to parent 100% while her dick of a husband doesnt do smurf. Makes me mad. But it's rubbing off on the kids and they WILL pay for it.

My niece and nephew are selfish too. They expect others to do things for them at a costly number (like having a phone, or me giving her my camera, or giving her my sleeping bag for camp. I gave her my old sleeping bag today... I was NOT going to give her a 100$ sleeping bag to bring and ruin!) They are into money, and money only. If they see a price tag of "100$ shoes" they like it more than the same shoes that may only be 10$. My stepdad gave my nephew some Sketchers that didn't fit him, he bought them and they didnt fit him. My nephew said "They aren't nikes, I wont wear them. I like Jordans." I called him a selfish ass because of how he acts. My Mom offered to get him shoes and my nephew said "Oh the Sketchers dont fit and they are for babies." I almost lost it. He saw a pair of nikes that only had a few sizes left, all too big. He pushed his foot to the front of the shoe and said "Oh they fit" but I wasnt buying it. I made him walk and they were sliding off of him like clown shoes and he said "Oh they will work just fine." My Mom started crying, and I said "Look, you wont wear $30 Sketchers that smurfing fit because you are a selfish little ass, but will force yourself to wear nikes that are 5 sizes too big because all you care about is the brand!!!" My Mom gets so hurt by how they act. I wear beanies, jeans, hoodies, t shirts or tank tops. My nephew calls me a boy ALL the time. And my niece only wears boy clothes now and says "Im a tomboy so Im supposed to wear these things, even boxers. I cant wear underwear. I cant wear girls clothes." I was shaking my head.... their image is SO freaking important.


I could go on and on. They are selfish and mean. And then I have the child that is happy with a picture printed out with some old crayons and will cuddle up to grandma and color together. That's her "present" she loves. That's why we dont care about spending money for Lily because she doesnt ASK. But then my niece and nephew expect it all.

Then they abuse the privileges by doing what they are doing... bitching about what they dont have and hurt other people and then destroy things they want.

That reminds me. Once my niece was here and found my daughters piggy bank. As she was leaving, she closed the door and said "By the way I stole Lilys money, hahahahaha!" and ran to the car. I followed her and was YELLING "YOU SELFISH LITTLE BRAT...GIVE HER BACK HER MONEY!!!" And she was looking at her mom saying "I just said bye, I didnt say anything." I was seeing red I was so mad. Then we find out she threw the money on the ground next to the door.

So now we hide things that may be stolen because of how they act.

It SUCKS to live like this... they were good kids, well my nephew was. My niece has ALWAYS been this way.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" Oh she knows. I think my sister is in denial about how bad kaitlyn really is. She feels bad because ... [snip!] ... of how they act. It SUCKS to live like this... they were good kids, well my nephew was. My niece has ALWAYS been this way."

Oh lord. My nephew is like that, he always has to have expensive shoes, and he is a total dick to everyone, he's 13, on probation, and has been to juvie TWICE, and he still acts the same. I blame his parents. They wont spend the money to get the medication he needs, and treat him like smurf. He's the way he is because of them.

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" Oh lord. My nephew is like that, he always has to have expensive shoes, and he is a total dick to everyone, ... [snip!] ... parents. They wont spend the money to get the medication he needs, and treat him like smurf. He's the way he is because of them."

My niece needs help... the whole family has said that. My sister is in denial though. I try to be nice and AM nice most of the time. My niece is in special ed and I say "That's cool Kaitlyn, you get even more help than anyone else and if people make fun of you, it means they are jealous of you not getting help and they dont get to have a personal helper when they have questions." Or my niece has VERY thick glasses. So I say things like "COOL! We are the only ones with glasses... can I find a pair of glasses like yours and match you?" To make her feel better.

But then she's just MEAN to Lily. About her encopresis, about being little. Kaitlyn is a little bigger and she gets on Lily, "You are so tiny, you are so little and underweight" and scoffs at her. Lily does NOT like her weight to be an issue, she hates how little she is. So then she feels bad, and Momma bear gets mad!

I don't dislike the kids in my family. I have very little to do with my side of the family anyway.

SO step mom's grand kids can get annoying. They're pretty behaved though. I just chalk their annoying-ness into them being typical kids.

I have a 13 almost 14 yr old cousin, that well I like her, but she just annoys me. lol

She is the most serious child I have ever met, never had a sense of humor even as a small child. Always so serious. lol
She has always been a smart kid. she crawled at 4 months old walked at 7 months, talked in full sentences by 13 months old. At 16 months she could say her whole alphabet forwards and backwards without skipping a beat. lol

She never liked to actually play, just learn. And very serious. At almost 14 now, she is still 100% serious all the time, and it bugs me, lol not that she is smart but the fact that she is too serious and you cant even joke around with her at all and never could. lol she is 100% annoying all the way. She can find every plausable cause to find what you say or do to be wrong scientificaly and its well annoying. lol

Love her to death, I just fint it really hard to relate to her. lol

I dont like my cousins. I hate saying that but I dont even want to be in the same room as them. They are so beyond the point of spoiled it makes my head spin. Complete smurfing brats. I can tell stories but I have too many of them to type in one sitting. They are so into grown folks business and smart mouthed, you forget they are kids.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" Do you have any kids in your family that you don't like? If so, how do you deal with it? I feel bad, ... [snip!] ... she does and says... it's just smurfing HARD to like her.   And I feel horrible, because I used to adore her and my nephew!"

I try not to think that way.
There is one child I'm not a huge fan of..
I try to remember it's not his fault though. His parents seriously don't raise him right or pay enough attention to him and make way to many excuses for his actions and I mean the list goes on. I try to remember, that when I get feelings of anger toward him.

There's definitely a few kids in my family I don't like. I have a cousin (6) who is completely spoiled and has the worst attitude. She always tells the other kids that they're poor and doesn't share toys or anything. I feel terrible saying it about a child but I really can't stand her haha

I dislike most of the kids on my husband's family..Idk if it's cultural or what but they're very disrespectful to each other and violent..to deal with it i very rarely see them lol