re: I told her that her dad lied to her...

Quoting ma ♥:" She didn't have to say anything regarding the parade. She could have just hugged her, apologized, & ... [snip!] ... like "ohh well I'm sure next time you go to daddys he'll have something really fun planned"... or something like that."

Guess so. I don't see an issue with either.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" She said that the parade wasn't cancelled. Was she supposed to lie too?   "

No but since the child was already upset about the situation it didn't have to be said at all. If the child had asked her mom if she went to the parade then yeah tell her you went, but why say that when the little girl was already upset that her dad canceled plans?

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" She said that the parade wasn't cancelled. Was she supposed to lie too?   "

She could have just been supportive and told her daughter "I'm sorry you didn't get to go" and let that be the end of it.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Guess so. I don't see an issue with either."

It just sounded like a fast attack on the father. Kinda like, "Ohhh so sorry your pathetic father thought it was too cold at the parade to take you, but we went & it was a complete blast!"

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Guess so. I don't see an issue with either."

I just don't think it's fair for her to say "Your dad lied to you." You know what? I've lied to my son before. There have been times when I told him Pizza Hut was closed bc we drove by and didn't have time to stop, and that was the best way to prevent a melt down. That doesn't mean somebody should tell him I lied to him and drive a wedge between us. Unless there is abuse or neglect, one parent shouldn't try to undermine the other or get in the way of their relationship.

Quoting Chuck Bass:" I just don't think it's fair for her to say "Your dad lied to you." You know what? I've lied to my son ... [snip!] ... us. Unless there is abuse or neglect, one parent shouldn't try to undermine the other or get in the way of their relationship."

   

Quoting Alixandria:" My nearly 6y/o daughter spends the weekends at her dads with him and his new girlfriend (I actually don't ... [snip!] ... thought it was too cold to go but that they would NEVER cancel the ceremony just because it was cold or raining or snowing."

I am not sure why you would have told your 6yr old child that her father lied to her. If she was upset that she couldn't go in the first place you should have comforted her not involved her in the irritation you have with her father at that moment. Quite honestly, that was very mean spirited. Not only is she upset that the parade was "cancelled" but now, she will have trust issues with her dad because of that little statement! Awesome job!

Our ceremony was moved in doors because it was 5* today. The parade was a no go based on the weather. Things do get cancelled and changed. As her mother, your responsibility was to comfort her thru the situation and not say anything bad about her father. Allow her to make her own decisions.

Quoting Chuck Bass:" I just don't think it's fair for her to say "Your dad lied to you." You know what? I've lied to my son ... [snip!] ... us. Unless there is abuse or neglect, one parent shouldn't try to undermine the other or get in the way of their relationship."

If she actually said your dad's a liar I wouldn't think that was right. She told the truth though, it wasn't cancelled and they wouldn't cancel it for being cold. He should have just said that they weren't going because he thought it was too cold for them to go. That's really not that hard, he could have helped her learn to deal with disappointment.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" If she actually said your dad's a liar I wouldn't think that was right. She told the truth though, it ... [snip!] ... it was too cold for them to go. That's really not that hard, he could have helped her learn to deal with disappointment. "

Agreed. He could have handled it better. She is of an understanding age. However, she shouldn't have told her child or implied that the father lied to her.

She really didnt even say he lied to her in the way im reading it.. All she told her was that they went and that they woudnt cancel the ceromony no matter what the weather and she even said sorry that Daddy thought it was to cold to go. So stop making her feel worse then she prob already does.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" If she actually said your dad's a liar I wouldn't think that was right. She told the truth though, it ... [snip!] ... it was too cold for them to go. That's really not that hard, he could have helped her learn to deal with disappointment. "

Thank you! This is exactly how I feel about it. I never ONCE came out and said 'well hunny, your daddy lied to you and he's an effing douche bag and lies to you all the time'. I *know* she'll figure it out on her own soon enough because he 'makes plans' for them EVERY weekend and she NEVER comes home with good news. Things are ALWAYS cancelled... In fact I think this is the first time I've EVER said anything.

Quoting Shanon Hutchens:" She really didnt even say he lied to her in the way im reading it.. All she told her was that they went ... [snip!] ... and she even said sorry that Daddy thought it was to cold to go. So stop making her feel worse then she prob already does."

Thank you for this. I was feeling kinda badly but in all honestly, I NEVER said 'daddy lied to you'. I honestly only said that yes it was cold but we went (with out one year old son I might add so it was NOT too cold for my 6y/o) and that I was sorry she didn't get to go.

Quoting Alixandria:" Thank you! This is exactly how I feel about it. I never ONCE came out and said 'well hunny, your daddy ... [snip!] ... NEVER comes home with good news. Things are ALWAYS cancelled... In fact I think this is the first time I've EVER said anything."

Look, nobody is saying that he did the right thing. He sounds like a jerk.

But the subject of this post IS "I told her that her dad lied to her" so what did you want us to think? From that statement, I assumed that you um.. told her that her dad lied to her.

Either way, I think you could have just told her you were sorry she didn't get to go and then taken your frustration up with him.

Parents suck when they cancel plans constantly. He's not off the hook for being a jerk. However, I've seen that disappointment in my childs eyes from his own sperm donor. I just can't fathom adding more to that disappointment.
And it looks like you edited your post. Because the part where you specifically said he lied, has been taken out.

Maybe he legitimately did think it was too cold for her outside, could that have been the case? I know I wouldn't have brought my kids out if it was raining and cool. Who wants to stand in the rain and freeze your butt off?