How do I deal

with my in laws as my sitter when they refuse to listen to me when it comes to discipling my children and naptimes?!
I am working and I cant just quit my job, but I make no where near enough to be able to afford daycare at all. Ive talked ot my mother in law about this several times in the past 6 weeks and she keeps telling me she will do the things I want for my children but ends up not doing it.

Going through the same thing   It's really hard to be a working Mom. I feel like the option is either quit your job or try to afford daycare which sometimes is just not an option.

How do you know she's ignoring your requests?

What specifically? The only way you can really control it is to have someone else watch them, you can't really make her do what you want when you're not there.

And what are they doing/ not doing.
If you cannot afford proper childcare for your children and you need to depend on someone, then I wouldn't do to much complaining. Only time I'd have a bitch fit is if there was any harm happening to my child.

Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:" Going through the same thing   It's really hard to be a working Mom. I feel like the option is either quit your job or try to afford daycare which sometimes is just not an option."

Quitting my job would be the only option. I have no other.

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" And what are they doing/ not doing. If you cannot afford proper childcare for your children and you ... [snip!] ... then I wouldn't do to much complaining. Only time I'd have a bitch fit is if there was any harm happening to my child. "

Eh, I disagree. I'm a Mom and I've been a nanny and I feel like it's only decent to at least mostly follow what the parent wants. When my Mom watches my son she'll let him skip naps and drink juice all day and it literally makes him psychotic. It makes it really hard on the parent if other people are overriding what the parent is trying to do.

Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:" Eh, I disagree. I'm a Mom and I've been a nanny and I feel like it's only decent to at least mostly ... [snip!] ... makes him psychotic. It makes it really hard on the parent if other people are overriding what the parent is trying to do."

Yes it is but you can't force them to. Especially when you've talked to that person about it multiple times, obviously they are going to do what they want.

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" And what are they doing/ not doing. If you cannot afford proper childcare for your children and you ... [snip!] ... then I wouldn't do to much complaining. Only time I'd have a bitch fit is if there was any harm happening to my child. "

I'm complaining not because of the free child care but because of the fact that if I am teaching her one thing and expect them to follow my rules, I need help from all grandparents to help inforse the rules so she doesnt get confused. Shes not giving them naps, and tells me that they didnt nap, and she straight up told me she would not spank them, which is what we do because just time out doesnt work with her. She needs structure, and when someone tells me theyre going to do something I expect them to do it.

Quoting Monkey Nuts:" How do you know she's ignoring your requests?"

I ask her, and she tells me she doesnt do it. She doesnt make them take naps, theyre 3 & 1, and she refuses to do any discipling, and lets them get away with anything. Which in turn makes it hard for me trying to discipline and make her mind, and makes her cranky by the time I get them at the end of the day.

Quoting Dallas & JaKobee's Mommy:" I'm complaining not because of the free child care but because of the fact that if I am teaching her ... [snip!] ... out doesnt work with her. She needs structure, and when someone tells me theyre going to do something I expect them to do it."

You can't make her spank.   I would never spank any child, ever. If that's a requirement of yours and she doesn't want to do it then you need to find someone else. That probably makes her really uncomfortable.

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Yes it is but you can't force them to. Especially when you've talked to that person about it multiple times, obviously they are going to do what they want. "

I know. I was just saying that it is difficult and it sucks that people aren't decent enough considering they offered and no one forced them (I'm guessing) to watch the child.

Quoting Dallas & JaKobee's Mommy:" I'm complaining not because of the free child care but because of the fact that if I am teaching her ... [snip!] ... out doesnt work with her. She needs structure, and when someone tells me theyre going to do something I expect them to do it."

I spank my children, but I think if I gave a sitter or other family directions to spank as discipline they'd be uncomfortable with it?

Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:" I know. I was just saying that it is difficult and it sucks that people aren't decent enough considering they offered and no one forced them (I'm guessing) to watch the child."

They probably are not forced, but feel obligated to.

Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:" Eh, I disagree. I'm a Mom and I've been a nanny and I feel like it's only decent to at least mostly ... [snip!] ... makes him psychotic. It makes it really hard on the parent if other people are overriding what the parent is trying to do."

I agree, I am their mother, and I think my requests for my children should be carried out as best as possible, and its nothing hard really.