re: For crying out loud!

I am sorry, I am sure you just need a little break. Hope you get one soon. If you ever need to vent to me without judgmental people getting on your ass feel free to message me on here or on fb. <3 I am here for you.

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" going to the dr on tuesday for it. "

Good luck, I hope you can find some sort of relief. If you ever need to vent, you can PM me.

Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" Ya know.. everyone has hard days. I have hard days, too. But I've never found myself "smurfing fed up" with "dealing" with my kid.  "

If it was one hard day great...it hasn't just been one hard day. As soon as I get everybody on a good schedule get them to where they listen they ahve to go to douche bag's house and then they turn into little smurfing brats that don't do smurf and want to destroy everything in sight. I'm sick and tired of it. I can only do so much. I can only work so much. I can only spend sooo much time with them. I can only stretch myself so far between them work and school. I misewell give up because obviously I'm not good enough.

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" If it was one hard day great...it hasn't just been one hard day. As soon as I get everybody on a good ... [snip!] ... them. I can only stretch myself so far between them work and school. I misewell give up because obviously I'm not good enough. "

Why doesn't anyone in your family want to have them over for the night or something? I don't get what you mean by they don't want to "deal" with them. So they have set visitations with their dad?

Quoting ❥ Meℓi:" I am sorry, I am sure you just need a little break. Hope you get one soon. If you ever need to vent to ... [snip!] ... to vent to me without judgmental people getting on your ass feel free to message me on here or on fb. <3 I am here for you."

Thanks love. I'm just stressing. I'm soooo tired, but as soon as I try to even take a nap or lay down or anything if it isn't one of them getting up it is the other, or it is somebody knocking on the damn door.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" I didn't give them a choice they are in their room for the night. It doesn't help that they got up at 5:30 this morning and who knows if he actually gave them a nap. "</blockquote>




Im sorry   just try to relax. go take a bath..read a book..anything that might help you wind down. Hopefully tomorrow will be better for all of you. if you ever need to talk you can PM me.

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" If it was one hard day great...it hasn't just been one hard day. As soon as I get everybody on a good ... [snip!] ... them. I can only stretch myself so far between them work and school. I misewell give up because obviously I'm not good enough. "

Just take a deep breath and relax mama. Hopefully you can get some help with things Tuesday. Just remember, they are still somewhat little and will keep pushing your buttons. Good luck ((HUGS))

Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Why doesn't anyone in your family want to have them over for the night or something? I don't get what you mean by they don't want to "deal" with them. So they have set visitations with their dad? "

Because everybody in my family works. My mom works over nights which means she is exhausted all the time. My dad works 80 hrs a week, my brothers don't do babies, my sister lives an hour away and works over nights and just makes up excuses to why she can't take them but expects me to take my niece when she needs somebody to watch her. And yes they have set visitation so I take that opportunity to actually make min wage for 2 days. YAY?!?! He only has them for 24 hrs a month. It is spread out over 4 days.

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" 3 and 2 and nope, sure as skippy don't. Nobody wants to deal with these kids. I don't want to deal with ... [snip!] ... his house. I'm just tired of doing it on my own. I'm tired of my anxiety being through the roof. I can't even sleep anymore."

omg they are 2 and 3.. children do this.. i did it by myself and had smurf like this happen all the time.. my oldest is a pain in the butt.. but i try and breath it out and go back.. its a floor they are cloths it happens.. instead of becoming pissed laugh.. but first get down on level with them and tell them no we dont do that.. kids are free souls getting mad about something as little as that is childish. sorry.

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" Because everybody in my family works. My mom works over nights which means she is exhausted all the ... [snip!] ... opportunity to actually make min wage for 2 days. YAY?!?! He only has them for 24 hrs a month. It is spread out over 4 days. "

I feel you, I never get a break either. Nobody can really watch DD for me. Her father never sees her, my mom is always tired from work and my sister I don't talk to anymore. All of my aunts, uncles and cousins are in other states so I am on my own.

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" If it was one hard day great...it hasn't just been one hard day. As soon as I get everybody on a good ... [snip!] ... them. I can only stretch myself so far between them work and school. I misewell give up because obviously I'm not good enough. "

Dude, they are not "little smurfing brats" they are TWO and THREE. They're babies! If you can't handle this, maybe you should seek some help... This is the kind of crap that two and three year olds' do. It's not just your kids. They just don't get it! You can't blame them for that... especially if their dad isn't being consistent with them! They need to be parented, not sent to bed so you don't have to "deal" with them...

Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" Dude, they are not "little smurfing brats" they are TWO and THREE. They're babies! If you can't handle ... [snip!] ... their dad isn't being consistent with them! They need to be parented, not sent to bed so you don't have to "deal" with them... "

Well maybe I should have beat their ass? Would that make you happy then? And no they don't usually act like this so yes they are little smurfing brats tonight. And I didn't send them to bed so I didn't have to deal with them....I sent them to bed because they are tired and it was 15 minutes before their bed time and they had already been warned about being sent to bed after they got out of time out and had it explained to them what they did wrong.

Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" Dude, they are not "little smurfing brats" they are TWO and THREE. They're babies! If you can't handle ... [snip!] ... their dad isn't being consistent with them! They need to be parented, not sent to bed so you don't have to "deal" with them... "

I agree with this. I don't know what you're going through and I think it's smurffy that someone in your life doesn't care enough to give you a break, but you also have to put yourself in your kids' shoes. That kind of mentality isn't going to help your frustration, it's making you view it as me vs. them when you should all be on the same team. It's probably hard for them to see you so stressed and anxious and deal with going back and forth between the "crack head" and you. I'd imagine that would be the reason for acting out when they come back.

Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" Dude, they are not "little smurfing brats" they are TWO and THREE. They're babies! If you can't handle ... [snip!] ... their dad isn't being consistent with them! They need to be parented, not sent to bed so you don't have to "deal" with them... "

She is venting.... and she is getting help Tuesday, she already stated that. Her putting them to bed is better than getting hit or abused. I feel she did what was right. Neither of us are/were there to judge her on what she did. Nobody knows if she talked to them and they didn't listen, only she does.

While I agree they are babies, the best thing for her to do in that situation was probably put them to bed 15 minutes early and let off some steam.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :</b>" Dude, they are not "little smurfing brats" they are TWO and THREE. They're babies! If you can't handle ... [snip!] ... their dad isn't being consistent with them! They need to be parented, not sent to bed so you don't have to "deal" with them... "</blockquote>




Jeez don't take this smurf so literally. & yea, 3-yr-olds can definitely be smurfing brats, lol.

I hope you get anxiety meds soon, I'm sure you'll feel a lot better then   I know how that feels. I know it's hard but please try to remember that they are little & really aren't trying to do this stuff to hurt you. & they would NOT be better off w/ their father!!