done

.................................

I believe in trusting your gut.

Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" I believe in trusting your gut."

This!

ETA: Big hugs! I hope everything works out. <3

My gut instinct has never been wrong....

I would talk to him about it

I believe that your gut doesn't lie. My Dh started a job where he works 30-48 hour shifts straight, and he's only home for a day and a half a week and we are still very...active.

If it's just the sex thing that has you wondering then first think if he has been under any stress or changes. He might even be hiding why he's stressed out (men are good at that). Smurf like that can lower a sex drive. I wouldn't jump to conclusions about it.

I felt like SO had cheated. I just had a guy feeling about it and it made me constantly question what he was really doing and all that stuff. After a talk with my sister I decided to just swallow it and let it go. He did give me any legit reason to think he had cheated and I thought I was just being overly paranoid. My sister even said it probably just came from being cheated on before. A few months later I found out he had cheated.
Trust your gut. Talk to him. If he denies it then explain to him why you feel like he could possibly be cheating. And you need more from him and see if there is something more he needs from you.

Does he seem depressed at all? We went through something kind of like that, and then I found out DH was cutting, and thinking of suicide. We made an appt and he was put on some anti depressants and he is back to his normal self.

I agree about trusting your gut but on the other side I wanted to say I know for a fact my husband isn't cheating but we never have sex anymore. He's stressed and tired from work, and when we finally get a chance to crawl into bed he just wants to watch tv and sleep. We have fought about it because it just doesn't feel right for him to not want to, but that's a different issue because I do know he's loyal. I hope the same is for you and that y'all can work through it  

Quoting Tristan's Mommy!:" Does he seem depressed at all? We went through something kind of like that, and then I found out DH was ... [snip!] ... cutting, and thinking of suicide. We made an appt and he was put on some anti depressants and he is back to his normal self. "

No. He doesn't seem any different. He's actually been somewhat happier since he started this other job because he HATED his old one and this one is something he actually enjoys.

go with your gut.
my husband and i have gone through some rough times.
There was a situation where i just had that gut feeling and found out the truth.

yea   and then the more I thought the more things fit together and the more right I became until the truth came out. Blows.

My gut has never been wrong either. Our bodies have weird ways of telling us things.

In April, when I was 6 months pregnant, I caught my SO trading dirty pics with some girl. The whole month before, I had started making jokes here and there that he was "talking to his other girlfriend" and stuff like that. I found the phone I had t the time, and looked at the texts and one said "I feel like you're not interested in me and that you don't want me any more." The day I found it, I was actually just going to use his Internet because I reside in the stone ages with mine and have NEVER had Internet, lol. But his messages were open and I went through really quick. First time I swung at him. I did it twice. I have a pic of me from behind of what I looked like when I was 6 months pregnant. And as one of my best friends says "he is bat smurf for even looking at other girls" lol. I looked damn good, for being that far along.
But yeah, I knew before I found proof. Damn near killed him too.

So should I just come out and say...hey are you cheating on me? I've never had to have this conversation, I've never been cheated on or felt this way, ever. Ugh!