re: done

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" So should I just come out and say...hey are you cheating on me? I've never had to have this conversation, I've never been cheated on or felt this way, ever. Ugh!  "

I was a snooper. I'm not gonna say it was right. But it's never steered me wrong.

does he have time to cheat on you?

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" So should I just come out and say...hey are you cheating on me? I've never had to have this conversation, I've never been cheated on or felt this way, ever. Ugh!  "

with my DH I sat down and said "either you're cheating on me, you're upset/unhappy with me about something and just prefer to go it alone, or there is something emotionally, hormonally, or physically wrong that we need to sort out. Either way, this is affecting the marriage and we need to talk about it". If he is cheating I doubt he'd come out and say anything but it might raise some red flags in the conversation if he is and wasn't expecting it to be brought up (caught off guard = less time to come up with BS)

Quoting CRSx2Mommy:" I was a snooper. I'm not gonna say it was right. But it's never steered me wrong. "

this is how i found out.

Quoting Spyro:" does he have time to cheat on you?"

Well, he's off every weekend and works 7am-3pm during the week. I know about every other day give or take he goes to his friend's house for about an hour or so to work on their mud trucks...I always assume he's really there, but I mean, I guess he could be going somewhere else. I don't really know.

Quoting Mrs.Rachael +2:" with my DH I sat down and said "either you're cheating on me, you're upset/unhappy with me about something ... [snip!] ... flags in the conversation if he is and wasn't expecting it to be brought up (caught off guard = less time to come up with BS)"

Yeah..that sounds like a good way to put it. That's probably how I'll put it to him too.

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" Well, he's off every weekend and works 7am-3pm during the week. I know about every other day give or ... [snip!] ... mud trucks...I always assume he's really there, but I mean, I guess he could be going somewhere else. I don't really know."

eh... when I was having an affair I was at "the gym" for an hour....

Quoting CRSx2Mommy:" eh... when I was having an affair I was at "the gym" for an hour.... "

Maybe next time he says he's going to Randy's I'll give him time to get there then ride by and see if he's really there or not before I say anything then.

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" Maybe next time he says he's going to Randy's I'll give him time to get there then ride by and see if he's really there or not before I say anything then."

Good idea. GL girl I hope it's not the case. Smurfing sucks.

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" So should I just come out and say...hey are you cheating on me? I've never had to have this conversation, I've never been cheated on or felt this way, ever. Ugh!  "

just tell him how you feel.

that you feel like there is something going on. you feel like he is cheating and explain why.
then see what he says.

honestly if that gut feeling is still there after you guys talk or days later. I would go with your gut.

Quoting CRSx2Mommy:" Good idea. GL girl I hope it's not the case. Smurfing sucks. "

Thanks. I hope not either, but we will see.

I mean I know this isn't ideal, but could you possible snoop? Does he have a FB you have access to? A cell phone with texting, etc? I mean, it could help.

Quoting Mrs. God of Thunder:" I mean I know this isn't ideal, but could you possible snoop? Does he have a FB you have access to? A cell phone with texting, etc? I mean, it could help."

Yes. I have his password to his FB, email and everything and I could look through his phone. I've honestly been thinking about doing it.

ive been there and done it. found stuff i didnt want to. i cant even describe the feeling. it was like a sickening empty stomach pulling face getting hot and feeling like the world is crashing down. i reallllyyy hope you dont find anything. i really hope he really is just tired. i am praying for the best for you.

Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:" Yes. I have his password to his FB, email and everything and I could look through his phone. I've honestly been thinking about doing it."

Good luck, hon. I hope it's not reality.