re: thanks a lot smurf

Update:

Got a call from him last night, he got in a car accident, he was beyond gone when i talked to him. Told his mom about it and all she could say was "is the car driveable?".

Quoting Stevie Renae™:" Update: Got a call from him last night, he got in a car accident, he was beyond gone when i talked to him. Told his mom about it and all she could say was "is the car driveable?"."

Does his mom know about his drug problem?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" Does his mom know about his drug problem?"</blockquote>



Yeah, she doesn't want him staying with her so he doesn't pawn all her stuff again. So she's letting him stay with his dealer.

I agree with most of the others that you should give him the choice between his family or the drugs. Just remember that you didnt make him do the drugs & you cant make him stop them either. I wouldnt want me or my kids around that so I wish you luck

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" I agree with most of the others that you should give him the choice between his family or the drugs. ... [snip!] ... make him do the drugs & you cant make him stop them either. I wouldnt want me or my kids around that so I wish you luck"</blockquote>


I gave him the choice he chose drugs yet everytime he feels down he says he misses us and wants us but then goes right back to drugs.

Quoting Stevie Renae™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" I agree with most of the others that you should ... [snip!] ... him the choice he chose drugs yet everytime he feels down he says he misses us and wants us but then goes right back to drugs."

Don't give into that. I know it's the hardest thing in the world to do when you love someone. But it will never get better if you make things easy for him.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's mommy:</b>" Don't give into that. I know it's the hardest thing in the world to do when you love someone. But it will never get better if you make things easy for him."</blockquote>

My mom keeps telling me to get over him but my thing is how am i suppose to get over someone i didn't even want to be separate fro in
The first place?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stevie Renae™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's mommy:</b>" Don't give into that. I know it's the hardest ... [snip!] ... to get over him but my thing is how am i suppose to get over someone i didn't even want to be separate fro in The first place?"</blockquote>


It takes time. I've been in your exact situation. But you just have to realize you can't change him. He has to do it himself. And by you taking part in trying to make him feel better when he's down, you're hurting no one but yourself. It's prolonging your healing. I'm sure he'll come around eventually. My ex did. But when he finally did, I had moved on.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Stevie Renae™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's ... [snip!] ... It's prolonging your healing. I'm sure he'll come around eventually. My ex did. But when he finally did, I had moved on."</blockquote>


I saw him last night, he gave me fifteen bucks for diapers, and there was no damage to the car so that obviously didn't happen. I didn't bring Parker I didn't think he needed to be around him. He looked messed up. Funny how he got paid yesterday but said he only had fifteen bucks left.

Quoting Stevie Renae™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Audra's mommy:</b>" Don't give into that. I know it's the hardest ... [snip!] ... to get over him but my thing is how am i suppose to get over someone i didn't even want to be separate fro in The first place?"

He sounds like trash to be honest.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" He sounds like trash to be honest."</blockquote>


Now he is before all this he wasn't. I just need to get over him but don't know how. I feel like no one will want me now especially with two kids.

You didn't do anything to make him do this. You can not blame yourself or stress over it especially if youre pregnant.. I Hope that he gets clean.. not just got you but for his babies too.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryansmommy!  :</b>" You didn't do anything to make him do this. You can not blame yourself or stress over it especially if youre pregnant.. I Hope that he gets clean.. not just got you but for his babies too."</blockquote>


He won't hes already said he doesn't want help but still wants his kids, ha well you cant have.it both ways.

Just make sure you keep it that way. my "BIL" is the same way and it sucks for his kid but he choose this life and you can move on and do bigger and better things without him! Everything will work itself out!

Quoting Stevie Renae™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" He sounds like trash to be honest."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... this he wasn't. I just need to get over him but don't know how. I feel like no one will want me now especially with two kids."

There are plenty of guys that would