obnoxious noise comlaint-wwyd?

so we have been having a hard time getting logan to go to bed. he is home all day with SO, who isn't the best at enforcing schedules. i work so not much i can do about that.

so rick has been putting him to bed and leaving him in his room (hes 3 years old) and kinda ignoring him so he will go to sleep. well he walks around and plays with his toys, yells for dad, sings, bangs on the wall, etc for a while.
well it went on until midnight on OCt 29th, i got home and went to go to the bathroom and i could hear him. we get a knock on the door, the guy upstairs complaining.
its all good, we feel like smurf get on logans ass about being quiet. kinda feel like smurffy neighbors, who wants to be *that* neighbor. so for the rest of the night and next day we keep on logans ass about noises. anyway we get a letter in the mail dated from the day before (the letter was from the day, a few hours before he came down) saying that there is a complaint of "pounding throughout the day" blahblahblah, interfering with peaceful enjoyment, reminder of lease agreement, blahblahblah.
K now im kinda irritated, the way it seems is that he got all pissy and upset and went to management before even letting us know we were bothering him. all he had to do was say something, we arent here trying to piss anyone off. and now we are doing the best we can...
so since then we keep on logans ass about jumping, throwing toys and slamming his door. we are too late catching him sometimes but its a lot better.
anyway today rick is setting up a new router or something and sees someones login for wireless is "smurfs in apartment 9 shut the smurf up".

like seriously?
how passive aggressive and rude is that?

I want to make a complaint to the management. I have woken up several times from thumping and barging into logans room to yell at him when its either something outside or from another apartment. I have had dreams about it... its seriosuly bugging me. so now it is affecting my peaceful enjoyment, not to mention he is attacking my reputation by using a public source to bash me. as far as im concerned he might as well put a poster on the complex doors calling us smurfs.


idk what do you guys think?
i want to write the apartment company and share my concerns.

Honestly, if you do it now, it will look like you are being petty.

I think it's time you look at your child's bedtime routine. It's obviously not working, and ignoring your child for hours at a time may end up getting you kicked out of your apartment.

I'm sort of in the same situation, except we haven't gotten a noise complaint. We live upstairs and have an smurf neighbor downstairs. He's always yelling at us (through the floors) to shut up and to stop. And he's really yelling at my 3 year old. I always feel like we're walking on eggshells in our own home. Our son can't run or anything w/ out him yelling. Sometimes I have to keep him out of the kitchen bc I'm afraid that DS is going to make the slightest noise. I hate living this way, I feel like I'm not letting DS be a kid and play and run in his own home. He's only 3 and he really doesn't understand that there is someone below us, and doesn't really understand why he's getting in trouble for what he thinks is "playing". It sucks and it is stressful always worrying about him making a noise.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Honestly, if you do it now, it will look like you are being petty. I think it's time you look at your ... [snip!] ... It's obviously not working, and ignoring your child for hours at a time may end up getting you kicked out of your apartment."

um...idk i think i disagree. i was willing to leave both complaints at that, and try my hardest to enforce better noise control. ive held up my end, and now we find this smurf? the router thing is whats pissing me off the most.

thats smurfing petty.

and i am affected, it is seriously making me not want to live here, though everything else about this place is awesome.

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" um...idk i think i disagree. i was willing to leave both complaints at that, and try my hardest to enforce ... [snip!] ... and i am affected, it is seriously making me not want to live here, though everything else about this place is awesome. "

Yes, it is passive aggressive....but ignore it.

Management probably won't take your complaint seriously because it will look like you are just "getting back" at the other guy.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Honestly, if you do it now, it will look like you are being petty. I think it's time you look at your ... [snip!] ... It's obviously not working, and ignoring your child for hours at a time may end up getting you kicked out of your apartment."

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Remember, this is apartment living!! Unless you are in luxury apartments with sound insulation or concrete walls, you will hear some noises. Try to adjust Logan's routines. The slamming and thumping would tell me that he has far too much energy and it needs to be burned off. Take the kid to the park for a few hours daily. IF it is too cold, find an indoor play area or teach him to roller skate. Something to burn off the energy so he is less likely to be overly energetic.

The only way to not have noise complaint issues is to get a house. lol Even then you run the risk of smurf neighbors.

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" so we have been having a hard time getting logan to go to bed. he is home all day with SO, who isn't ... [snip!] ... complex doors calling us smurfs. idk what do you guys think? i want to write the apartment company and share my concerns."

I would definitely write the manager, You have a three year old, there is no way your going to be quite all the time, if he doesnt like it then he should move out, that comes with the territory while living in an apartment, I lived in an apartment for years with a four year old and a new baby, they made all kids of noise and I never got complaints, actually I had one women bring me some Popsicles for my daughter while she was teething and crying a lot, she said they helped her kids,( how nice was she?) anyway my point is people need to be more understanding when they know you have a young child, and should most certainly not be bashing you or being vulgar about it...have you tried talking to him about it? like nonchalantly bring it up saying 'yeah sorry about all the noise, I have a little boy that likes to test me..." or whatever, some times when you make it a point to explain why there is nose people are more understanding...just a thought

Quoting Peyton's~Mom:" I'm sort of in the same situation, except we haven't gotten a noise complaint. We live upstairs and have ... [snip!] ... he's getting in trouble for what he thinks is "playing". It sucks and it is stressful always worrying about him making a noise."

right? ive had dreams where he gets mad at us,

every noise logan makes i freak. even noises that arent him.
hell even noises from the complainer dudes apartment. that pisses me off even more because im all on guard, listening for noises and all i can hear is them. its not that they are particularly noisy, ive noticed them before and never cared. its just any noise now has me freaking out, and when i realize its them i get pissed off.

eggshells, and neighbors that hate us for no reason? we arent here trying to piss anyone off. we did change things so logan is quieter for the most part-i mean he is a three year old.
now anyone who trys to find a wireless connection is exposed to that bullsmurf?
isnt there something against that like degradation of character or something?

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Yes, it is passive aggressive....but ignore it. Management probably won't take your complaint seriously because it will look like you are just "getting back" at the other guy."

yeah thats what i figured, but still i am legitimately upset about this.
it shouldnt be allowed for him to slander my name...

Is your name smurf in apartment 9? Hes not doing anything to your name. He's making a statement/request...albeit an smurf thing of him to do.

Quoting mommy287786:" I would definitely write the manager, You have a three year old, there is no way your going to be quite ... [snip!] ... or whatever, some times when you make it a point to explain why there is nose people are more understanding...just a thought"

you see, that neighbor was awesome!
i wish people would be more understanding. Its like he didnt even complain directly to us until he was already beyond fed up with us.
we are already enemies in his eyes it seems so idk.

when he came down and complained i thought about sending a fruit basket or something as an apology, the written thing kinda upset me, like why would you let it get that bad before mentioning it?
but i was still cool...this router thing just pisses me off so bad.

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" right? ive had dreams where he gets mad at us, every noise logan makes i freak. even noises that arent ... [snip!] ... wireless connection is exposed to that bullsmurf? isnt there something against that like degradation of character or something?"

Smurf, there have been times where I'll hear him screamin at the top of his lungs (he lives alone), then he'll slam his apt. door as hard as he can and it shakes ours. That's freakin pisses me off. Ugh, I'm ready to move!

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" right? ive had dreams where he gets mad at us, every noise logan makes i freak. even noises that arent ... [snip!] ... wireless connection is exposed to that bullsmurf? isnt there something against that like degradation of character or something?"

You shouldn't really care that much about his wireless handle. Who cares? There is nothing against the law about it. It is only a representation of his character. Mature people don't do that type of crap.

Yes, he is three BUT he does have some excess energy that needs to be burned off. He is a very active toddler and a boy at that! Play with him, and show him how you play quietly. I have 4yr old twins and a 2 yr old little boy. You better believe my house can get loud from time to time. That is typically when we all have some "cabin fever" going on. It is never loud and crazy on a regular basis. The twins are girls so they aren't as crazy as my son but, there was two of them at once plus a baby. It is time that you start focusing on his needs and rather than "getting on his ass", show him how to properly play. Teach him outdoor noises vs indoor noises. He is of an age where he can fully understand this and it shouldn't be an issue.

Quoting Jerri _:" Is your name smurf in apartment 9? Hes not doing anything to your name. He's making a statement/request...albeit an smurf thing of him to do."

his statement/request was made through the complex.

he is being an smurf. no its not my name directly but i can gaurantee after seeing that people will have opinions about us that they wouldnt have. people will be more prone to listen for us making noise and complein etc.

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" you see, that neighbor was awesome! i wish people would be more understanding. Its like he didnt even ... [snip!] ... why would you let it get that bad before mentioning it? but i was still cool...this router thing just pisses me off so bad. "

The better question would be "If you knew your child was loud and could be disturbing, why didn't you take the first step to contact the neighbor and make an initial apology?".