re: obnoxious noise comlaint-wwyd?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" You shouldn't really care that much about his wireless handle. Who cares? There is nothing against ... [snip!] ... Teach him outdoor noises vs indoor noises. He is of an age where he can fully understand this and it shouldn't be an issue."</blockquote>

You come teach my neighbors? Their kids run indoors for hours a day. I wish that was an exaggeration. Up and down the hall. Hours. Starts at 5 am every day.

Quoting Not tellin:" You shouldn't really care that much about his wireless handle. Who cares? There is nothing against ... [snip!] ... Teach him outdoor noises vs indoor noises. He is of an age where he can fully understand this and it shouldn't be an issue."

well since then he has learned three rules, no throwing no jumping and no slamming doors.

Im not the one that stays home with him, like i said. I do request on nice days that rick take him to the park and stuff. we try to do other things when i am home too. If i could be the stay at home person and do it my way then maybe things would be different but idk. im not so i feel like i cant really say anything usually.

Quoting Peyton's~Mom:" Smurf, there have been times where I'll hear him screamin at the top of his lungs (he lives alone), then ... [snip!] ... then he'll slam his apt. door as hard as he can and it shakes ours. That's freakin pisses me off. Ugh, I'm ready to move!"

damn what a douche, i would want out too heh.

Quoting Jerri _:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" You shouldn't really care that much about ... [snip!] ... Their kids run indoors for hours a day. I wish that was an exaggeration. Up and down the hall. Hours. Starts at 5 am every day."

Your neighbors are smurf parents! lol

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" well since then he has learned three rules, no throwing no jumping and no slamming doors. Im not the ... [snip!] ... and do it my way then maybe things would be different but idk. im not so i feel like i cant really say anything usually. "

You very much have a say!!!! You are just as much the parent as he is and just because you work away from the home doesn't mean you have less of a vote. My daughters were in pre-school at 3. Can you find one to enroll him in? Even if it is just part of the day?

Quoting Not tellin:" You very much have a say!!!! You are just as much the parent as he is and just because you work away ... [snip!] ... less of a vote. My daughters were in pre-school at 3. Can you find one to enroll him in? Even if it is just part of the day?"

well we are having a bit of a money issue, the waiting list for public schools is really long.

rick is looking for a job currently, (has been for four months  ) and when he gets one to be honest-and i feel like a smurffy parent but i cant wait till logan gets some daycare/preschool. it will be a good environment with him. he is an only child so he will be able to play with other kids, and have structure in his day which we cant seem to offer.

idk, its kinda like, i know how i want him raised, but im not the one doing it so i cant be the one to say. if you were a SAHM and your SO came home complaining about how things weren't cleaned properly, how PTing was going or how you think the kids aren't getting enough outside time-well idk i think that would be smurffy. I think rick is doing okay, logan is smart, mostly well behaved (just gets excited sometimes) three year old. who am i to say he needs to do anything differently? KWIM?

i dont think it will get us kicked out, as we have for the most part changed logans habbits. or at least the worst of them anyway....

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Your neighbors are smurf parents! lol"</blockquote>


Indeed. They have 6 kids in about 1300 sq ft. I think hes the highest ranking in the building since he is building leader. How they expect him to lead 17 other families when he can't control his own is beyond me.

Quoting Jerri _:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Your neighbors are smurf parents! lol"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... since he is building leader. How they expect him to lead 17 other families when he can't control his own is beyond me."

DAYYYUM.

ha

Quoting cunning cuniculi:" well we are having a bit of a money issue, the waiting list for public schools is really long. rick ... [snip!] ... think it will get us kicked out, as we have for the most part changed logans habbits. or at least the worst of them anyway...."

I am a SAHM. There are a few things that my husband has concerns with. Particularly with our son. The girls are older so you can imagine that he does everything they do. Right down to wearing a tutu and high heels. He was constantly worried that I was going to mess up our son. Well, we are grown adults so it came to a head where we had to sit down and have a "parenting plan" revision. Our son is only 2 so it is not like he has many options to meet other boys his age. We have enrolled the girls in dance and I use that time with him to do more "boy" type things. I drive cars with him, play "catch" ect. Things that he wants to do but because he has sisters, they don't want to do.

It really is all in your delivery.

Apply at head start. If you are in a financial situation, they will accept him and keep him for 2 years. The waiting lists aren't that long because it is a federal and grant funded program. They always have room.

Really the only time my upstairs neighbors bother me is if the kid is stomping and slamming things after 11pm all up until 2-4am. They have for the most part stopped, thankfully. I am so happy that I don't live upstairs because to be honest, me and LO run through the apartment a lot. I don't even care if they are running throughout the day either, just late at night. Because I understand kids will be loud, but please don't let your kid keep my kid up all night, know what I mean? You said you've mostly corrected his behavior so all should be well, he can't expect a 3 year old to be quiet all day long.

Quoting Jerri _:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" Your neighbors are smurf parents! lol"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... since he is building leader. How they expect him to lead 17 other families when he can't control his own is beyond me."

WTF?!?!?! that is far too many people in too little of space!

Quoting Not tellin:" The better question would be "If you knew your child was loud and could be disturbing, why didn't you take the first step to contact the neighbor and make an initial apology?"."

This. Kids dont need to be silent, but they need to be respectful. Dont throw, dont stomp, dont yell, etc... I require that and I dont have neighbors. Its common courtesy even in your own home without neighbors.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" This. Kids dont need to be silent, but they need to be respectful. Dont throw, dont stomp, dont yell, ... [snip!] ... stomp, dont yell, etc... I require that and I dont have neighbors. Its common courtesy even in your own home without neighbors."

 

Just wondering, have you looked into any free playgroups your husband could take your son to? Or are there any "Daddy and Me" kinds of places? It does sound like he has energy to burn but I also understand that getting kids out to play isn't always possible. Do you have any friends who would be willing/able to take your son out for a bit? I'm guessing the job search thing isn't easy when you have a LO to chase after.

As for your upstairs neighbor, I would go talk to him. Be polite as can be (hard to be nasty to somebody who is so nice)...bring him a cheap 6 pack of beer as a peace offering. Ask that he come to you with any complaints so you can try to take care of them in a more civilized fashion.You can't fix a problem if you don't know there is one. Assure him that you are trying to rectify the situation (he may have noticed a difference) and request that he change the "apartment 9" thing. It may be hard, especially if he's just a full-fledged smurf for the fun of it, but sometimes our inner bitch has to be locked away...for the safety of everybody LOL.

Hope you get it sorted out!