re: PLEASE HELP

Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:" She needs to be able to get to the potty. You can't lock her in the room and then be disappointed if ... [snip!] ... said get the alarmed gate. That way you can have you cake and eat it too...Now why can't she use the potty next to her room????"

its desinged for a handicap person and way too dangerous for her. she can use the one up here but im affraid to have her walk up all the stairs by herself at night.

Quoting baby mama bunny:" its desinged for a handicap person and way too dangerous for her. she can use the one up here but im affraid to have her walk up all the stairs by herself at night."

No, you can buy a potty chair to go in the bathroom for her to sit on until she is old enough to go to the other one alone. OR, you can take her to the pot prior to bed and then you wake up @ 2am and 5am , to take her to the potty......I usually just buy one that goes in the bathroom...not the one that goes on the toilet until they are at least age 5. That way she can use it w/o help. Just be sure to put child locks on the cabinet doors and keep the bathroom door open.

They also have locks to keep her from playing in the big toilet too. I never needed them though.

Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:" No, you can buy a potty chair to go in the bathroom for her to sit on until she is old enough to go ... [snip!] ... age 5. That way she can use it w/o help. Just be sure to put child locks on the cabinet doors and keep the bathroom door open."

I know I can put a potty chair in the handicap bathroom but im afraid for her to go in there

if she has serious sleep issues you should take to her pedi about giving me melatonin to help her sleep, dont lock your kid in there room you should be setting clear boundaries and making sure she feels safe.
Would you feel safe is someone locked you in your room?

Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" if she has serious sleep issues you should take to her pedi about giving me melatonin to help her sleep, ... [snip!] ... you should be setting clear boundaries and making sure she feels safe. Would you feel safe is someone locked you in your room?"

I have. My daughter is a little behind and is having some behavior issues. The my pedi says she will be fine and caught up. She said that shes a difficult lil one. She will be meeting with groups of people to help her and I.

Quoting bia.:" ' Why was she still in a crib at 3, anyways?  "

there's absolutely nothing wrong with utilzing a crib as long as possible.

but.. OP.. as another said.. it's illegal to lock her in. CPS could get called if you leave her like that.

with my daughter.. I had to resort to that short term.. as in.. I'd sit outside her door wtih it locked. She'd try a few times, cry a little, give up and go to sleep. THen I'd unlock it. My ex called CPS on me.. they said this is ok as LONG as I am NOT leaving her unattended and locked in.. which I NEVER did.

Quoting baby mama bunny:" I have. My daughter is a little behind and is having some behavior issues. The my pedi says she will ... [snip!] ... be fine and caught up. She said that shes a difficult lil one. She will be meeting with groups of people to help her and I. "

Your daughter can't get caught up if you are the one keeping her behind. From what I am reading, you are scared of everything. You are too over protective . That is good and bad thing. You are making excuses to not try anything people are telling you to do. Put your fears to the side (not away). Let her sleep in her room since you refuse to let her sleep with you. Then, if you need, you stay downstairs like the other mom said (until you know for sure she is sleeping). Get the alarmed gate and the monitors, so you will be wakened if she tries to sneak out. Put the child safety locks on the bathroom cabinets and toilet. Put a child toilet in there and start your routine. IT IS...going to be really hard at first but it MUST be done. I don't care if you need to sleep down stairs, for the first 6mo, until you are comfortable enough to go up the stairs w/o her. IT is your job...Get on it. No Excuses. We have all done it. Sorry so harsh. I have been watching you shoot down and come up with an excuse to not to try anything. What is a NO, is locking her in her room, unless you do like this last lady said and sit outside her room then unlock it prior to going to bed. Good luck mama. Best wishes.

Quoting snglemama:" there's absolutely nothing wrong with utilzing a crib as long as possible. but.. OP.. as another ... [snip!] ... it. My ex called CPS on me.. they said this is ok as LONG as I am NOT leaving her unattended and locked in.. which I NEVER did."

so is it okay to "lock her in" just so she gets the point then once she lays down crack her door open? I almost feel if I dont have it locked im leaving her unattended

Quoting VERONICA. MOM OF 6:" Your daughter can't get caught up if you are the one keeping her behind. From what I am reading, you ... [snip!] ... you do like this last lady said and sit outside her room then unlock it prior to going to bed. Good luck mama. Best wishes."

No shes has development issues. The doc said she needs professional help that I cant do alone. I know what you mean though. Theres no where for me to go downstairs bc of my gma and the caretakers and etc. I wish I could get her too lay with me until she feel asleep but she would stay up until about 6am and wake up like an hour later. I realize that eventually she would go to bed earlier. But my DD is the type of child that if you change ANYTHING at all you have to get her into routine all over again. So I'd rather start her in her own bed now. Downstairs just seems so far to me. I feel that if she wakes up and explore downstairs for half the night that Ill be neglecting her.

Quoting baby mama bunny:" so is it okay to "lock her in" just so she gets the point then once she lays down crack her door open? I almost feel if I dont have it locked im leaving her unattended"

yea... but honestly,, more effective to just sit there and keep putting her back to bed.

Quoting snglemama:" yea... but honestly,, more effective to just sit there and keep putting her back to bed. "

idk if i should put a night light

First of all it is NO ones business why she's still in a crib at 3! Seriously?! Some kids won't stay in their beds and the feel safe in their crib, and parents DO need to sleep at least occassionally - To lock the door from the outside this is illegal.but what about removing the door and using a baby gate? or the baby proofing door handle covers. Also definitely a baby monitor if you cant hear her and shes on a different floor. You should be able to reason through this with her unless you feel there is a reason she couldn't comprehend, Are there other behavioral issues? Does she seem frightened or just does not want to stay? Solid bedtime routine is the best bet, and it may take a good week of sitting outside her room till shes asleep (bring a book and perhaps ear plugs lol   Do not talk to her once you've tucked her in - just keep putting her in bed - firmly but gently - no eye contact or talking - Reward charts work well for some kids - something she can see - with stickers perhaps

Mom of 4

Quoting Mom2cstbm:" First of all it is NO ones business why she's still in a crib at 3! Seriously?! Some kids won't stay ... [snip!] ... - no eye contact or talking - Reward charts work well for some kids - something she can see - with stickers perhaps Mom of 4"

Ive had her on a bed time routine for a while now. I guess I just have to start over again. What would poofing the door handles do? Shes a little behind so instead of acting like shes 3 she acts about 1 1/2. She will be caught up just not yet.

Quoting baby mama bunny:" Ive had her on a bed time routine for a while now. I guess I just have to start over again. What would ... [snip!] ... handles do? Shes a little behind so instead of acting like shes 3 she acts about 1 1/2. She will be caught up just not yet."

It makes it so she can't get out of the room after it is closed. She can crack the door but she can't get out. Kids would fall asleep at the door for a a few weeks until they catch on that they was not getting out, then they would just go to bed. I used it for my boys until potty training.
However, I like alarmed child safety gates better or door alarms, so if she opens the door , it will go off. This way she can get to the potty and you will be wakened when she does.