Quoting baby mama bunny:" I have. My daughter is a little behind and is having some behavior issues. The my pedi says she will ... [snip!] ... be fine and caught up. She said that shes a difficult lil one. She will be meeting with groups of people to help her and I. "
Your daughter can't get caught up if you are the one keeping her behind. From what I am reading, you are scared of everything. You are too over protective . That is good and bad thing. You are making excuses to not try anything people are telling you to do. Put your fears to the side (not away). Let her sleep in her room since you refuse to let her sleep with you. Then, if you need, you stay downstairs like the other mom said (until you know for sure she is sleeping). Get the alarmed gate and the monitors, so you will be wakened if she tries to sneak out. Put the child safety locks on the bathroom cabinets and toilet. Put a child toilet in there and start your routine. IT IS...going to be really hard at first but it MUST be done. I don't care if you need to sleep down stairs, for the first 6mo, until you are comfortable enough to go up the stairs w/o her. IT is your job...Get on it. No Excuses. We have all done it. Sorry so harsh. I have been watching you shoot down and come up with an excuse to not to try anything. What is a NO, is locking her in her room, unless you do like this last lady said and sit outside her room then unlock it prior to going to bed. Good luck mama. Best wishes.