Quoting SingleMomSwagg♥:" I feel like, Even if he left.. I know that I am in the right direction to take care of myself and LO ... [snip!] ... ext) Can be done here..not 900 miles away like he was talking about. Hes just gotta want me and LO at his side..in the process."
I get everything you are saying. Completely. Cause like you, I am a very strong independant women who is madly in love with my sons father.
But age has taught me a few things. And making someone stay with you, or trying to convince them of all the things you said, the things you know and realize...is not the way to do it.
You dont want him staying, and then 5 years down the road resenting you for making him feel like he had to stay. If hes home sick, if he thinks home is where he needs to be, then let him go. If he comes back...work on it then.
Trust me, any man who can leave their child (besides military etc) is no man, and you and you'r daughter are better off without him.
If he can man-up and figure out his smurf like his license, a job, and that taking care of your daughter is something you just do, not something you dont want to do.....then what the hell do you want him around for anyway??
Cause you want better for your daughter??
I think one of the best lessons life taught me, was to know the difference between who my man is, and the man I wish he was.