This week on babby daddy drama.

You can find orginal backstory and the Other updates HERE. I suggest you read all the way back So you have the full goings on.
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2363109.html

Ok so, After everything that has been posted. This last week, he has been coming around and staying in my room at night. I asked him lastnight what are we doing..and whats going on. He said he wants to work on things and try giving me the benifit of the doubt on our situation. So ikd if hes actually being true and things are going in the right direction and we are gonna get through this tough time together or if hes just giving up..and staying for the wrong reasons (Feeling trapt, guilt ect.) Not sure if i should be catious and keep walls up.. or if i should accept things for what they are..accept him and keep building. I just dont want this to happen all over again later on..

how much swag do you have?

Quoting ℳary ℐane:" how much swag do you have? "

ALOT. lol.. considering i basicly turned the situation in my favor getting everything set up for if he did deside to leave that we wouldnt really need him.. and also.. my lastname thanks to my dad .. (Swaggarty) actually has the word SWAGG in it.. so you know..  

Quoting SingleMomSwagg♥:" ALOT. lol.. considering i basicly turned the situation in my favor getting everything set up for ... [snip!] ... really need him.. and also.. my lastname thanks to my dad .. (Swaggarty) actually has the word SWAGG in it.. so you know..  "

Ahh makes sense! lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting SingleMomSwagg♥:</b>" ALOT. lol.. considering i basicly turned the situation in my favor getting everything set up for ... [snip!] ... really need him.. and also.. my lastname thanks to my dad .. (Swaggarty) actually has the word SWAGG in it.. so you know..  "</blockquote>



Awesome last name lollol  

Quoting heygirlheyyy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting SingleMomSwagg♥:</b>" ALOT. lol.. considering i basicly ... [snip!] ... my dad .. (Swaggarty) actually has the word SWAGG in it.. so you know..  "</blockquote> Awesome last name lollol  "

Yeah, we where doing that "Got Swagg" thing before the rest of the world knew what Swagg was.. >_>

Well that was all interesting.

Let me ask you ONE thing.

do you control your future, or does he?

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" Well that was all interesting. Let me ask you ONE thing. do you control your future, or does he?"

I feel like, Even if he left.. I know that I am in the right direction to take care of myself and LO with out him. I just dont want him to leave..I know in the short little two years we have been together we have been stuck in some pretty sticky sitiuations.. and im trying to show him that its NOT US with the problem.. its all been situational.. im also trying to make him reaslize its not US.. its the fact he is homesick, and hes well.. panicing becasue he feels hes nothing.. hes just barley 21 with a kid.. no real career or anything like that..so hes freaking out.. trying to explain to him.. that when you love someone, you make the best of whatever smurf life gives you and you carry on.. you dont take out the rest of the worlds bullsmurf on your family and the people that love you. So no, to answer your question.. he doesnt controll my life..i can do this with out him.. but i choose to have him here.. and i WANT to have him here.. and WANT to share a life with him.. i just dont know if he wants the same... Becasue i WANT him to say here for the right reasons. Everything he wants (his car, career ext) Can be done here..not 900 miles away like he was talking about. Hes just gotta want me and LO at his side..in the process.

Quoting SingleMomSwagg♥:" I feel like, Even if he left.. I know that I am in the right direction to take care of myself and LO ... [snip!] ... ext) Can be done here..not 900 miles away like he was talking about. Hes just gotta want me and LO at his side..in the process."

I get everything you are saying. Completely. Cause like you, I am a very strong independant women who is madly in love with my sons father.

But age has taught me a few things. And making someone stay with you, or trying to convince them of all the things you said, the things you know and realize...is not the way to do it.

You dont want him staying, and then 5 years down the road resenting you for making him feel like he had to stay. If hes home sick, if he thinks home is where he needs to be, then let him go. If he comes back...work on it then.

Trust me, any man who can leave their child (besides military etc) is no man, and you and you'r daughter are better off without him.
If he can man-up and figure out his smurf like his license, a job, and that taking care of your daughter is something you just do, not something you dont want to do.....then what the hell do you want him around for anyway??
Cause you want better for your daughter??

I think one of the best lessons life taught me, was to know the difference between who my man is, and the man I wish he was.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" I get everything you are saying. Completely. Cause like you, I am a very strong independant women who ... [snip!] ... I think one of the best lessons life taught me, was to know the difference between who my man is, and the man I wish he was."

That was really well said. Thank you.

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" I get everything you are saying. Completely. Cause like you, I am a very strong independant women who ... [snip!] ... I think one of the best lessons life taught me, was to know the difference between who my man is, and the man I wish he was."

But see, everytime..i offer him the train ticket home.. he tells me No.. for a while it was "Eh, hold off on that im not sure" then it was "Maybe after the first of the year" and now this week its "No..i wanna give you the benifit of the doubt and try to make this work"

Quoting SingleMomSwagg♥:" But see, everytime..i offer him the train ticket home.. he tells me No.. for a while it was "Eh, hold ... [snip!] ... after the first of the year" and now this week its "No..i wanna give you the benifit of the doubt and try to make this work""

Sorry Im blunt.

Stop being EVERYTHING. Trust me girl. I was the same way (not with my sons father, in my past) You know what he said when he left me? I was TOO independant. Like WTF? thats a negative? To have a women who can care for herself, take care of smurf and progress through the worst? Pfft...its thats true, then smurf him....who needs a man like that right?

If he wants to go, he can find his own way there. If he wants to disrespect the mother of his child who is supporting the WHOLE family and giving him a place to live, dont let him! Put your foot down! Dont let him have sex with you, dont let him do smurf if hes 'not sure' what he wants. The best thing you can do for him, you and your daughter...is tell MAKE him go take his time. Make him go figure out if you and her are 'worth' it.

Trust me, the minute you lay it down that this is YOUR life and you are not going to let him walk all over your heart and emotions, he will do a 180 a stop toying with your heart.