Ppd help

So it's been 5 days since I've had my little one and it's getting worse by the day. I have a two year old and it's tough cuz baby is up all through the night and sleeps during the day. I breast feed and lately I been thinking that I haven't been making enough so I tend to cry. My fiancé works night shifts so he sleeps during the day, and I'm pretty much on my own with the two, we live with my mother but she works during the day so from day to night I find myself crying cuz I feel helpless. I can't care for my older one and play outside with him like we used to, and when baby cries I just find myself trying to do everything to calm him but sometimes nothing works. I feed him then he act like he's going to sleep and once I lay down to sleep he's up and crying again. I just feel like I can't do nothing right. I also feel bad for my oldest cuz he no longer has all my attention. And then with my fiancé, I feel like we're drifting cuz we have no time for each other anymore. I need some advice on ways to cope with this? I just feel like giving up, all sorts of thoughts cross my mind I just don't kno what to do.

I'm sorry for what you're going through. Keep in mind, though, that at 5 days pp, your milk may not be fully in yet. Also, your hormones are going crazy right now. Do you have any friends or family that can watch your kids for a little while so you can have a moment to yourself? At this point, it's probably too early to make a diagnosis of PPD, since you just had your baby. I hope things get better, though. <3

What kinds of thoughts are crossing your mind mama? You really should talk to your dr. Don't fret on the bm. Its normal for bf babies to eat often cause they're so tiny and digest fast. Plus it's new for him. And it sounds like you really need some sleep to see if that helps before you decide it's ppd. But if you're having bad thoughts like hurting yourself or others or feeling hopeless you should talk to your dr right away.

sorry your going through this. i dont have two but i felt pretty much the same way when i had my baby... my SO worked all day 8a.m. till 8p.m. and i was all alone. My me time was the 15min i got to take a shower. when he got home he was so tired and had to do it all over the next day. my doctor told me you cant diagnose it PPD before two weeks. Fortunately after two weeks or so i was back normal. maybe some family or friends could come over and help you

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee:</b>" I'm sorry for what you're going through. Keep in mind, though, that at 5 days pp, your milk may not be ... [snip!] ... it's probably too early to make a diagnosis of PPD, since you just had your baby. I hope things get better, though. <3"</blockquote>




No I don't. It's just me my boys, fiancé, and mother. All my other relatives live on another island. I just feel helpless like I can't make my son 3 meals a day, watch him, and tend to the baby all at the same time. I get 3 hours of sleep at the most each day.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" What kinds of thoughts are crossing your mind mama? You really should talk to your dr. Don't fret on ... [snip!] ... But if you're having bad thoughts like hurting yourself or others or feeling hopeless you should talk to your dr right away."</blockquote>



Sometimes I feel like giving him up, at the moment I'm literally in tears. I just get so frustrated it feels like when it comes to the baby I can't do anything right. I try to sleep when baby goes to sleep but because he makes noise in his sleep I'm constantly up and checking on him. And he has a stomach virus at the moment so I'm always checking his bed and diaper if he's wet or if it leaked through.

<blockquote><b>Quoting aubriesmom:</b>" sorry your going through this. i dont have two but i felt pretty much the same way when i had my baby... ... [snip!] ... two weeks. Fortunately after two weeks or so i was back normal. maybe some family or friends could come over and help you "</blockquote>




I was like this with my first but it wasn't as bad as it is now, i wasn't diagnosed with ppd the first time I think I just gotta try and hang in there. But no matter what I do I can't hold back the tears

Quoting Zayne's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" What kinds of thoughts are crossing your mind ... [snip!] ... on him. And he has a stomach virus at the moment so I'm always checking his bed and diaper if he's wet or if it leaked through."

I'm not trying to dismiss your feelings, but I think a lot of moms feel like this at first. I know I did. I cried ALL the time, and for no reason. Motherhood can be overwhelming. I can imagine it's a big adjustment going from 1 child to 2. You're learning the baby, and the baby is learning you. It will take some time for things to reach a new norm. I say try your best to hang in there for a few weeks. Hopefully as you develop a routine and your hormones start to go back to normal, your emotions will quiet down. But after a few weeks, if you're still feeling like this, talk to your doctor. Also, if at any time you start to have thoughts of harming yourself or your baby, call your doctor ASAP. Don't be ashamed if you need to seek help. It's not your fault.

You're not alone mamas, it's hard at first . But it will get better. That's the only way I keep myself going. It's time to bond with your baby though so just try to enjoy him while he is little . Hope you that helped or you feel better soon!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zayne's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting aubriesmom:</b>" sorry your going through this. i dont have ... [snip!] ... with ppd the first time I think I just gotta try and hang in there. But no matter what I do I can't hold back the tears"</blockquote>

If u feel in your heart it's more than baby blues hormones or sleep deprivation there are meds u can take while Bfing. I know it's hard to make that decision but at the same time it takes about 2 weeks- a month for them to work. So the longer u out it off the longer you feel this way and suffer if you're almost positive it's ppd. If u aren't sure then hold off 2 more weeks and try to get SO to help more on his days off.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee:</b>" I'm not trying to dismiss your feelings, but I think a lot of moms feel like this at first. I know I ... [snip!] ... of harming yourself or your baby, call your doctor ASAP. Don't be ashamed if you need to seek help. It's not your fault."</blockquote>




Thank you, your advice is really helpful. And it kind of puts my mind at ease

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Zayne's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting aubriesmom:</b>" ... [snip!] ... if you're almost positive it's ppd. If u aren't sure then hold off 2 more weeks and try to get SO to help more on his days off."</blockquote>




I just feel like that when I try to Put him down and he gets up right away crying. I know I'll never give my baby up but it's just a thought that crossed my mind. I know it's not his fault or my sons but it seems as though crying it off makes it go away for the time being. Just till it happens again and he's up and crying. I think it's cause I just want to give up bf and feed him formula that way my SO can feed him too while I rest. I do pump but not that much is coming out. Maybe 1oz out of each breast at the most.