Is it normal?

I found out last Wednesday that I was pregnant. I began heavy/clotting bleeding yesterday. I had been TTC for over 2 years. I'm devistated. I know that my "baby" wasn't really a "baby". I'm typically a rational person. I know that there was something wrong with the pregnancy. I know I should be grateful that it happened as soon as it did. My due date would have been really close to my birthday. I'm lost. I'm so depressed it literally have to pull myself out of bed. Does this EVER get easier? Does it ever go away? I never felt this way with my first chemical pregnancy. Any advice would be welcome.

It'll get better. It took three miscarriages for me to carry this long and they were all later on. I am so sorry you're going through this   Have you gotten any testing done?

I had an ectopic pregnancy 4 years ago and it does get easier. It took a while, and it was hard at first, but it does get easier. I suggest joining a support group (either online or irl) mine helped me a lot. I'm sorry for your loss.

<blockquote><b>Quoting shelbylynn [20 WEEKS!]:</b>" It'll get better. It took three miscarriages for me to carry this long and they were all later on. I am so sorry you're going through this   Have you gotten any testing done?"</blockquote>



I had my beta HCG the same day I started bleeding and it was 44. I was 14dpo. I'm supposed to go back Monday and have my levels drawn again. My nurse seemed unconcerned as I wasn't soaking a pad every hour. She also stated that I could be miscarrying a multiple (I was seeing a fertilty dr, and I had 4-5 possible
Follicles for fertilization). But it just seems like its too much to hope for.

Thanks everyone.

Quoting Mrs. Clemens:" <blockquote><b>Quoting shelbylynn [20 WEEKS!]:</b>" It'll get better. It took three ... [snip!] ... dr, and I had 4-5 possible Follicles for fertilization). But it just seems like its too much to hope for. Thanks everyone."

You don't even know if you miscarried yet?? You're just assuming?! Hope for the best!! It may be nothing and you could still be carrying!

<blockquote><b>Quoting shelbylynn [20 WEEKS!]:</b>" You don't even know if you miscarried yet?? You're just assuming?! Hope for the best!! It may be nothing and you could still be carrying!"</blockquote>




Well, consi I was only 4 weeks along and I'm having a full flow, I thought it was safe to assume that I was having a chemical pregnancy.

I think it's different for everyone. For me, it wasn't so much that I was losing a baby, as it was I was losing the possibilities.. and that we were trying so hard, and this meant that we'd have to start all over, again.

I am sorry for what you're going through.   Hugs.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" I think it's different for everyone. For me, it wasn't so much that I was losing a baby, as it was I ... [snip!] ... trying so hard, and this meant that we'd have to start all over, again. I am sorry for what you're going through.   Hugs."</blockquote>




This is exactly how I feel. It's having to start over. After 2 years.

I'm sorry for your loss.  

It does get easier. That's not to say every day is a good day, though. I still have my bad days. Particularly when one of my friends announces that they're pregnant. It's like a slap in the face. Everyone I know IRL has baby after baby without any issue. I come here for support, because I don't know anyone IRL who has the issues I have. I hope your next pregnancy is a sticky one.