Baby Shower

Okay, here it all goes. I've been babysitting this lady's 6 kids for about 6 years now and her latest daughter is my god daughter. We are very close and she is considered a second mother. The godmother of my little girl, Isabella is my best friend and since she lives at school she will not be hosting my baby shower. The lady I have been babysitting for is going to be hosting it, or so I thought. I am 6 1/2 to 7 months pregnant and I know it's early for me to be looking but I recently started helping her look for a nice place, since my list keeps growing and growing. The other day I sent her a text message stating a place and the price and when she calculated it out it rounded out to be about 600.00 without the cake and decorations. I understand she doesn't want to spend that much but the way she worded her text messages to me made it seem like she didn't even want to do it and she's just putting it off until someone else wants to. She even told me she wouldn't work with my boyfriends family and mine, she would only work with mine, which I took really really offensivly because my boyfriend and I have a strong relationship and I have one with his family as well so why not include the grandmother and great geandmother and the aunts?!

So I talked to his sister who in the early months said she wants to do it for me, then the other day after telling her how I felt and showing her these text messages she told me that it was a bit nasty written to me and that she understood why I was so upset. She then told me her mom and herself wants to do the baby shower for me and they picked a date and everything and now I'm afraid and not sure what to do. I haven't talked to the lady I babysit for due to my work schedule (I am a recreational therapist and can't use my phone at work and work till 5) and now after talking with his sister and mom I want them to do it and we are suppose to do my registry next weekend when we both have off. Any suggestions? That would be great. I feel like I'm stuck in a situation where if I tell the lady I want his family to throw it she might take it offensivly and shove me away and be mad..


And sorry it was so long  

you expected someone to shell out over $600 for a frickin baby shower, and you think SHE was rude!!  

It sounds like the first lady will be relieved by the way she is acting.

Just tell her that you appreciate her generosity, but you SIL and MIL decided to being planning one for you, and tell her if she still wants to participate in planning, she can be in contact with them. If not, the tell her that you can't wait to have fun with her a guest at the party.

I didnt even have a baby shower to avoid all of that so you could do that. But 600 is way too much for a baby shower. You might not even recieve that much back in gifts.

<blockquote><b>Quoting AndreaDanae:</b>" I didnt even have a baby shower to avoid all of that so you could do that. But 600 is way too much for a baby shower. You might not even recieve that much back in gifts."</blockquote>



I agree with that cost being over board. Why not have it at someone's house, and make home cooked food (veggie tray, fruit tray, spinach and artichoke dip, mini sliders, chips and salsa, etc... that sort of stuff.)

I am sure she will be thrilled not to have to throw you a baby shower. If someone is throwing you a shower and you start acting like a spoiled brat, odds are she is going to be rude.

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:</b>" you expected someone to shell out over $600 for a frickin baby shower, and you think SHE was rude!!  "</blockquote>




  

Smurf,I would rather have the 600. Spending that on a shower it crazy.

Seriously?! 600 friken bucks?! I'm sorry but that's way to smurfing much!
Plus, you're ASKING her to throw you a shower, if I'm correct? Usually people offer to host your shower, you don't ask them to do it for you.
Plus, a host spends what THEY want. Food, venue, decorations, cake, plus a gift for your baby.
& your list keeps growing and growing?! With what?
A baby shower is to celebrate a new life. It's not a shindig to be greedy.
You most likely won't even get half of the people who is on your invite list to even come. Plus, if I were you, I wouldn't expect a million and one gifts either.
It is good to plan early, since my MIL & SIL have planned everything already for my shower. But still, I never asked them to do anything and they got to decided where it is, how much they spend, etc. I'm just in charge of making the party favors since I'm a crafty bitch ;)
Why are you even looking into a venue? Have it at someones house. You just sound greedy to me.