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Your baby sleep when you brought them home ? There room if they had one or yours ?

In their own cribs in their own room.

With me. He has never slept by himself for a night. He has taken naps without me though.

Quoting Justine's Mama:" Your baby sleep when you brought them home ? There room if they had one or yours ?"

The twins slept in the bassinet next to me until they were about 2 months old. then the two of them got too big to be in there together. Then they went to their beds in the nursery (well they shared one of the cribs for a while, twin thing). My son slept in the bassinet nest to me until he was 5 months old (that is when he started lifting up. I nursed so it was easier to keep the kids near me.

I have not had my baby yet, however the plan is having the bassinet in our room until 5/6 months and then moving her into the.crib in her room. I just figure I have to get up every couple hours and her room is on the other end of the house so might as well make it a little easier on me until we can hopefully get a routine down.

When someone asked if I wanted to use there bassinet and I said no I got a dirty look. I said she was going to be in her crib & if I don't want her alone I might sleep in there. I don't want SO to be woken up all night when he works a smurf ton and be exhausted. I just wondered if people usually keep them with them or something.

In the beginning, because we were staying with my Dad for the first 2 months of LO's life, he slept in the same room as us in a bassinette. Then when we brought him to the house we're in now, we had him in his pack and play at the top of the stairs outside of our room (It's safer than it sounds, I promise...lol) Just recently, he's been in his own room in his crib, but only because the pack and play bassinette is only safe up to 15 pounds, and he was just over 14. I love having him in his own room though. When we travel, he has to sleep by me, and I hate it! He's such a noisy little dude in his sleep, that he keeps me up at night...haha

Quoting Justine's Mama:" When someone asked if I wanted to use there bassinet and I said no I got a dirty look. I said she was ... [snip!] ... up all night when he works a smurf ton and be exhausted. I just wondered if people usually keep them with them or something."

WHAT? That is crazy! My husband was a USFS Wildland firefighter when all the kids were born. With the twins his duty station was 103 miles from our house. He would be down right exhausted sometimes but he helped me make those babies, he helped me take care of them. I nursed so all he had to do was change a diaper and burp a baby after I finshed one so I could move on to the next. Sleeping with them in the same room made it so much easier for the night feedings and for the paranoia that comes in with being a first time mom. My husband now works in the oil field. You can bet he is dog tired when he gets home. So am I! Being a SAHM sounds easy but it is a lot of work especially when you don't get a break. Guess who gets up to have breakfast with his kids? He also will get up and take the girls to preschool. Besides, a newborn is only the first stage of disrupted sleep. That will now be a rest of your life thing! lol I still get up and do the mommy wander to check on the kids to see if they are all breathing. They are 4 and 2. Pretty sure they are fine. Not to mention that more often than not, someone will creep in my bed with me.

You shouldn't be sleeping in her room either. Your bed is with your husband. You have a relationship there that needs to be nurtured as well. Seperate yourself too much and you will have problems in the relationship.

In the bed with me and SO.

DS slept in his Pack n Play Bassinet in my room until he was 6 months. Then we moved him to his crib in his own room. The first week was sooo hard for me but he slept so much better in his crib.

Quoting Not tellin:" WHAT? That is crazy! My husband was a USFS Wildland firefighter when all the kids were born. With ... [snip!] ... there that needs to be nurtured as well. Seperate yourself too much and you will have problems in the relationship. "

Haha...In the beginning, I tried to get SO up with me to talk to me while I nursed, because I was so scared of falling asleep while nursing, and killing LO...but when SO is tired, he's useless lol...so I found it easier to let him sleep, instead of eventually feeling resentment towards the baby, because SO pissed me off. Now, when I hear LO crying to eat in the night (and by 'in the night', I mean 8am -- we're late sleepers...lol) I just get up, feed, change, put back to sleep, and SO has no idea. I'm sure it would be a whole different situation if we had twins though....jeepers, the thought of that freaks me out! Kudos to you guys for handling that responsibility  

Quoting Ms.Eagles:" Haha...In the beginning, I tried to get SO up with me to talk to me while I nursed, because I was so ... [snip!] ... if we had twins though....jeepers, the thought of that freaks me out! Kudos to you guys for handling that responsibility  "

He got up with our son too. He can be useless if he is tired too but it is not an option to not step up and lend a hand on his kids. lol

Quoting Not tellin:" He got up with our son too. He can be useless if he is tired too but it is not an option to not step up and lend a hand on his kids. lol"

That's what I thought at first, but I'm such a control freak, that I think I messed up. Hard. Whenever SO changed a diaper, it would be all crooked and leak....so I got in the bad habit of checking his diapers and looking over his shoulder, and he caught onto what I was doing. So he got mad and refuses to change diapers anymore   Obviously if I'm not around, he won't let LO sit in a dirty diaper, but if I'm in the house, I'm on diaper duty...oh well, that's the time I get most of the baby smiles and laughs anyway   His loss...as far as feeding, LO is EBF, and I hate pumping, so that's all on me anyway...haha. Once LO gets a bit older (he's 5 months now) then SO knows (or at least better know) to step up a bit more, but until then, I'm happy with the way things are now  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Not tellin:</b>" WHAT? That is crazy! My husband was a USFS Wildland firefighter when all the kids were born. With ... [snip!] ... there that needs to be nurtured as well. Seperate yourself too much and you will have problems in the relationship. "</blockquote>



That is awesome advice!!! I want to print this out and stick on my fridge so my SO can be reminded of what I expect from him   lol.

Quoting Ms.Eagles:" That's what I thought at first, but I'm such a control freak, that I think I messed up. Hard. Whenever ... [snip!] ... then SO knows (or at least better know) to step up a bit more, but until then, I'm happy with the way things are now   "

I can't lie. I was that way too. I had the "I am the mommy and I know exactly how to do it right and you will do it my way" mentality. The thing is that it actually lowered his confidence in caring for our children. I will never forget when I told him to get a diaper on Olivia right away after he was done changing her. His dad called so he was packing around a 4 week old baby who had just been breastfed with no diaper. Guess what? She smurf all over him. lol He was full of crap, it got on his phone too. You know what? I didn't help him clean it up either. I sat there nursing Victoria just laughing. He did the same stupid smurf with our son only he was peed on by him. 3 times!! You would have thought the first time was enough! LOL Point being, you can preach and try to be in control all you want but you HAVE to let him learn a few (non vital obviously) things on his own and really allow him to care for the baby. Let him feel that he knows what he is doing and he can handle it without ridicule or you "fixing" it. Show him how to change the diaper properly (including pointing the penis down in the diaper) and just allow him to take control of a few things. He needs that confidence and bond with the boy. ;)