re: i'm scared my son is gonna be spoiled..

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" Now there's an ignorant thing to say. "

Maybe it was ignorant, since I don't know OP or her history...but judging solely on this thread alone, she's not a good person. Hopefully she raises her kids to be better people than she is. If not, then well...I stand by my previous statement.

Quoting Ms.Eagles:" Maybe it was ignorant, since I don't know OP or her history...but judging solely on this thread alone, ... [snip!] ... person. Hopefully she raises her kids to be better people than she is. If not, then well...I stand by my previous statement."

You're an idiot. Oh wait, maybe now my daughter shouldn't live with me. I was mean on the internetz!

Quoting Taylor Migliano:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:</b>" i guess i have to learn to ... [snip!] ... compete with that? But you can afford 8,000$ purses and donating 10k to Sandy Relief. You can't give the kid his own room?"

Thats because she is a lying sac of dog smurf. And not the fresh kind, the kind that is all white because it is old, dried up and crusty.

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:" change your avi please.. i get frightened every time you post."

Way to be a TWAT waffle.

Quoting Ms.Eagles:" Maybe it was ignorant, since I don't know OP or her history...but judging solely on this thread alone, ... [snip!] ... person. Hopefully she raises her kids to be better people than she is. If not, then well...I stand by my previous statement."

If you were familiar with OP, the statement would still be true.

OP, you have yet to answer everyone's questions about custody.

Quoting the grace life:" OP, I'd just use the time to really love on him...doesn't mean you have to tolerate his attitude. Make sure the rules are clear, and consequences also clear. Enjoy him while you have him. Good luck! "

so far i've done that. we did all his favorite things earlier today, now he's out with my DH getting dinner.. thank you  

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:" nothing. I just don't want him to be mean towards his younger siblings with his toys to Lizplustwo, ... [snip!] ... dad, he can play with his toys by himself without having to worry about someone breaking it or losing it or having to share it."

Maybe he doesnt want to share his toys because he shareseverything else with them. Its not such a badthing for him to have a few things for himself. IF you want him tell him and try to make things work and spend time with him and make him feel special.

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:" change your avi please.. i get frightened every time you post."

Seriously....wow!

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:" nothing. I just don't want him to be mean towards his younger siblings with his toys to Lizplustwo, ... [snip!] ... dad, he can play with his toys by himself without having to worry about someone breaking it or losing it or having to share it."

Why does he have to share his toys? If they are his toys and he doesnt want them broke by younger siblings then I dont see the issue. And if its a new toy then I really dont see the big deal of him not wanting to share. Maybe he would like to play with it before someone else breaks it

Quoting I'm Marbles:" Way to be a TWAT waffle. "

 

Quoting Lizplustwo:" If you were familiar with OP, the statement would still be true. OP, you have yet to answer everyone's questions about custody."

i thought it was pretty smurfing obvious. my BD and i have joint custody. we agreed that he would keep Josh and i would get him some weekends, all holidays and most of the summer.

Quoting I'm Marbles:" Way to be a TWAT waffle. "

   

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:" so far i've done that. we did all his favorite things earlier today, now he's out with my DH getting dinner.. thank you  "

I can understand you wanting him to share and be respectful. You need to let him know that these are the rules and if he can't share, then he won't get to play with the toys until he can play fair. All the kids should also have some sense of "self" though. They are having to share mom with so many other children that they need something that is all theirs. Does that make sense?

Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 35:" i thought it was pretty smurfing obvious. my BD and i have joint custody. we agreed that he would keep Josh and i would get him some weekends, all holidays and most of the summer."

He needs to know that mom's house and dad's house have different rules.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Maybe he doesnt want to share his toys because he shareseverything else with them. Its not such a badthing ... [snip!] ... things for himself. IF you want him tell him and try to make things work and spend time with him and make him feel special. "

I agree with this as well. Sometimes, there's definitely valid reasons to allow a child to just have their own space/stuff. It's just a balance that has to be found.