re: Toddler acting out..

Quoting I♡C.:" His doctor is also aware he has behavioral issues and she's been trying to help me through them with ... [snip!] ... handle himself when he's upset without spitting and yelling. That's not what Mommy and Daddy do and so no clue what's going on."

my daughter started doing things like that a few months ago, Ive been around alot of kids and never have seen anything like... I know htey are all differant, but something in my gut told me something was up.. it.It started out with just spitting, then became long drawn out tantrums that lasted literally an hour and up to 3.. nothing worked.. she eventually started hurting herself, and others inthe middle of these fits. I told her pedi aout this and we both agreed she should be evaluated..just in case...
she has good days and bad days. The last bad day we ended up going through 12 hours of back to back tantrums.. it was awful!
she went through evaluation and scored above average on her developemental skills but
turns out she has a sensory disorder and some behavioral issues and will be starting play therepy soon.
good luck mama.

Quoting I♡C.:" I have no clue other than the fact when it isn't HIS way, the world comes crashing down and he doesn't ... [snip!] ... without upsetting him more. His doctor is aware he gets frustrated easily and she too, is trying to give me helpful advice."

Is his vocab pretty good? It's hard because they can't really express themselves the way they want too and it frustrates and angers them. What I do....well, am still kind of doing, just not as much. Is I put her in the corner while she's throwing a fit. When she's calm, I take her out, get on her level just talk to her. Ask her why she's so mad. If I have a general idea why she's so mad, I'll ask her if that's the reason why, because next time if it happens, she'll have some words to put behind her feelings kwim?

It's hard. Takes a lot of patience, but you two will get there.

Quoting Just Ames:" Well sure such as tiredness or just being in rare form. 3 is a very challenging stage. Very. And I don't ... [snip!] ... And I don't feel it's always due to an underlying cause other than being in a difficult stage of life (communication wise)."

Not always, but I can understand her wanting to find out if there IS an underlying cause of it... I work with 3 year olds in school, at the daycare, (internship) and I've never seen any do what she was saying, the way she was/is saying it.

Does he still have communication issues? Maybe look into resuming speech since your hours are fewer?
Toddlers are often frustrated, and for obvious reasons.
I agree with someone who posted before me- you need to look at your reaction to his behavior. Having him take a few minutes to collect himself and then talk through the emotions and try to help him find another way to react to the situation next time is a good place to start.

It's a normal developmental stage. Toddlers are moody and unstable. Part of parenting is teaching them how to handle life's obstacles. Don't look at it as something wrong, just something to work through.

1. sorry i don't really have any advice, but with talon whenever he goes through a crazy phase i just ride it out and try not to go insane until he outgrows it.. as hard and annoying and frustrating and helpless as that is/feels  
2. that persons response is exactly why i never post on here anymore and instead blindly go through parenting with no advice from other moms who may have been in a similar situation..  

Quoting thechelseamonster:" Does he still have communication issues? Maybe look into resuming speech since your hours are fewer? ... [snip!] ... parenting is teaching them how to handle life's obstacles. Don't look at it as something wrong, just something to work through."

His speech is excellent. He's picked up quite a bit from his cousins since I've began working. He speaks 2-3 word sentences which is good for his age or so says the pediatrician. He tells me why he's upset when he is, but it's silly stuff. Just not getting his way with stuff if I tell him no for some reason. I'm just trying to figure out how to help him vent his frustrations in a better way...that's the whole idea on my OP   I am working hours all over the place and truth be said, the therapists were going to cut back anyways and one was going to quit since they thought he was pretty well caught up so I'm not too worried about therapy at this point, but if at the 3yr appointment he's still like this, I'm going to talk to her about preschool or something to help socialize him even a bit more and maybe seeing the other kids will help teach him different ways of communicating, etc.

Quoting T♥B:" 1. sorry i don't really have any advice, but with talon whenever he goes through a crazy phase i just ... [snip!] ... anymore and instead blindly go through parenting with no advice from other moms who may have been in a similar situation..  "

That's what I'm gonna have to start doing, or just talk to Moms I know like you, Susan, etc. Ya know? :-/