re: adoption situation-would like peoples 2cent worth

Quoting baybe girl:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Subtle As A Hurricane:</b>" I've never been through this, but ... [snip!] ... they told her? I just don't want her growing up feeling like an outsider or anything because we told her too early or anything"

She always knew. I once heard a story where her dad told her to do something, but she told him she wouldn't do it because he wasn't her daddy. (She was 2-3.) Her dad said it really upset him. Now, her dad is her dad. The bio dad isn't even in the picture. She also has her dad's last name.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Subtle As A Hurricane:</b>" She always knew. I once heard a story where her dad told her to do something, but she told him she wouldn't ... [snip!] ... said it really upset him. Now, her dad is her dad. The bio dad isn't even in the picture. She also has her dad's last name.  "</blockquote>




I've heard a lot of stories like that only happening when they're teens some were from just finding out and some always knew. I'm hoping Marina just never cares.. we don't hide it but we haven't sat her down to tell her yet. I was wanting to know if I should wait until she can understand and grasp thing better because she was there when me and hubby got married but she didn't seem to comprehend what getting married meant