So me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2 years. About a year ago everything became rocky, we both made many mistakes that led us with trust issues and we actually didnt talk for about 2 weeks. Then we sat down talked everything out and we decided to get back together. Then a month and a half to 2 months later I found out i was pregnant. At first he still wasn't really serious and was still acting like the 20 years old he is and going out and acting sketchy. Thats when i told him he needs to start being serious in this relationship or im out and we are just going to have to have split custody or something. He became seriously committed and was the best boyfriend in the world and everything I could ever ask for. He stopped going out, maybe every once in awhile but not nearly as much as before, he was spending all his time with me and preparing for this baby to come. We were living together with a friend, but the place we had was way to small for the 3 of us plus her so we decided to move back into our parents houses about 3-3 1/2 weeks ago. He live 15min away from me now. Everything was fine we were still seeing eachother and being the same close, deeply inlove couple. Then about 2 weeks ago he started a fight which got escalated because he was so mean and lasted about a week. Everything was fine for a few days then I found on his facebook that he had commented on a pic of a girl that was one of his friends saying "mmm ;)" during our fight, he said he was sorry and knows he betrayed my trust last night but then he went out with friends and got so drunk that he couldnt walk home from the house he was at which was only a street away from him. When i confronted him he wouldnt tell me who he was with or whose house he stayed over or anything... its like these last whole 9 months never existed and everything that we had acomplished together our closeness everything has gone to smurf, like how can i trust him with everything if he is just going to act so immaturly and wont take any of my feelings seriously? So what should i do apologize for telling him i dont trust him anymore and and saying that we might be better off seperate if he expects to keep doing these things or should i just give up?

I'd give up personally.

Quoting C's Mommy ✿:" I'd give up personally."

 

Sounds like he doesn't give a smurf.

personally i'd give up....however if you truly wish to be together perhaps giving it another try would be wise. It truly depends on whether or not you want to give it another go or if you think you'd be better off without him...guys are strange...my dh couldn't hold down a steady job for a looooong time...then when we had our LO he buckled down and got a good job so that I can stay at home with my LO...he's managed to change himself for the better, but it took alot of work on both our parts...if you don't think he's going to buckle down and try to work things out with you, you might be better off going it on your own

mabey he needs a reality check and u should give him one tell him ur done he might realize he needs you or he wont but either way ur better off! i left my sons sperm donor when my son was 5 months and its the best thing i have ever done i am so happy wit my bf now and were exspecting my 2nd and his 1st u diserve someone who will take care of u and ur baby !! good luck 

Sometimes you need to walk away. If its meant to be it will be. I dated someone for a year we went our separate ways 8 years later we got back together we've been married three years now and expecting our first baby any day now. He needs to appreciate you but you can't make him some times you can't appreciate a good thing till its gone but don't wait move on with your life

I would give up abd kick his ass to the curb, but that's just me if u wanna work it out or not it's really up to you but just don't sacrifice your happiness by dealing with his crap   lots of luck!

He sounds sketchy as hell and personally I would walk away.

Men often have a hard time changing and accepting life before baby arrives. And honestly, if you would break up with him over a comment on a picture on Facebook, I think he's not the only one who needs to do some growing up.
If you guys can't keep your smurf together and stop fighting and youre only trying to make it wokr for the baby, then it makes no sense to be together, you can co-parent without beig a couple.

Quoting MommaSav2:" Men often have a hard time changing and accepting life before baby arrives. And honestly, if you would ... [snip!] ... youre only trying to make it wokr for the baby, then it makes no sense to be together, you can co-parent without beig a couple."

Its not just the comment and i think that if you are in a relationship you should be commenting on a friends pic of her half naked saying "mmm ;)" but after he apologized i forgave him, just later last night he decided to go out and get so drunk and stay out and he cant even tell me with who or whose house all of a sudden? I think if your in a relationship then you need to be open and have communication. I understand that a father becomes a father once they see their baby and they change and mothers are mothers as soon as your pregnant but i just dont see how he could change and be absolutely amazing then as soon as we move he starts all of this smurf again? and I know we can co-parent but like I also have put a ton of effort into this relationship and i dont know what to do flush it away because he has changed or just wait it out. My baby will be here at any point now and I really cannot be stressed out, my hormones are crazy, and i just want everything to go back to be perfect.

<blockquote><b>Quoting aminahan:</b>" Its not just the comment and i think that if you are in a relationship you should be commenting on a ... [snip!] ... any point now and I really cannot be stressed out, my hormones are crazy, and i just want everything to go back to be perfect."</blockquote>




A couple of days of poor choices hardly indicates a complete regression. And from what you've said it kind of sounds like your routine (with the exceptiong oftyne last 9 months) is to fight, break-up, and get back together. If you really want it work, breaking up has to stop being a go-to reaction to fighting. That is not how adults deal with relationships. You have a disagreement, you have your argument, you move on. Every fight does not call for the break up discussion, especially not now that there is going to be a baby brought into the picture. That is not a stable situation and you baby needs and deserves stability.
If his behavior for the last 9months has been great, why are you so quick to throw it away after a couple weeks of poor decisions? That doesn't make sense. He's already proven he's capable of getting his smurf together, have a talk with him and let him know he needs to get back on track.
In the mean time, when we had or first baby we were living separately and it really took a toll on us. Co parenting and trying to be a couple when you aren't living in the same house and one parent the baby majority of the time is really hard. We found our own place ASAP and it helped a lot. If I were you, I would start looking for a place for the three of you. It will be really difficult for him to understand what your going through when he isn't there to witness it 24/7. Kwim?

as someone who is older; maybe I can give you another perspective on things. I think you might be blowing things out of proportion. Unless he has been unfaithful to you, and going out and having sex with random chicks, I would ditch him.. but if its friendly flirting online.. who really cares. I would try to work it out with him for the sake of your child; if he doesn't grow up then screw him.

There is no reason for you to apologize, let him go!