bleeding after sex

So my husband has been too scared to have sex with me (we have gone the longest every in the past 6 yrs we have been together). It has been probably 3 or 4 months .... I know WAYYYY too long. So, I finally made him have sex the other night....and of course BLOOD everywhere! I had to call the doctor and everything. It did not help my cause. Anyone else having bleeding issues...or scared husbands...what is a girl to do??

During my pregnancy when I had sex i'd bleed and go to L and D..and it ende up just being a broken blood vessel.

With my last pregnancy the father and I went to have sex and I was 8 weeks 5 days along and we hadn't had sex since i was 3 weeks or so and I bled and got scared and went to the E.R. and the baby died the next day. So with this pregnancy...HE IS NOT GETTING SEX AT ALL...

Could be an irratated cervix, when your cerviz is "disturbed" it can cause some bleeding because there is so much more bloodflow now than usual. This happened to me at 10 weeks, and my doc said just to take it easy...I didn't think we were being that rough!

Quoting Mommy Zãb£l:“ With my last pregnancy the father and I went to have sex and I was 8 weeks 5 days along and we hadn't ... [snip!] ... and got scared and went to the E.R. and the baby died the next day. So with this pregnancy...HE IS NOT GETTING SEX AT ALL...”

Freaky.

My ob (who I didnt see...just talked to on the phone) said it probably just irriated my cervix. The bleeding stopped right after. And that was 2 nights ago...and the baby is fine because it is moving around like crazy still.

Before I went to the E.R. I called them and talked to them on the phone and they said that if I filled one pad front to back and side to side in an hour that I need to be worried...I was bleeding but I couldn't have filled a pad in 3 hours...I still lost the baby...The doctor told me that sex had nothing to do with my baby dying and I told her flat out...Unless she is a scientist and did studies on it she can't honestly say that...the father does drugs and his sperm is filled with the chemicals...I am shocked I got pregnant the first time let alone the second time...

Quoting Mommy Zãb£l:“ Before I went to the E.R. I called them and talked to them on the phone and they said that if I filled ... [snip!] ... does drugs and his sperm is filled with the chemicals...I am shocked I got pregnant the first time let alone the second time...”

Scary...I hope you aren't having this baby with him (not that I am passing judgement)

Quoting Rinald1:“ Scary...I hope you aren't having this baby with him (not that I am passing judgement)”

Well both pregnancies are his...He is going to treatment though...He will be gone for most of the pregnancy...He is 26 and still thinks that he needs to do drugs to learn...I just want to his him...

well first of all i wouldnt be with someone who did drugs especially around my pregnancy or child. and especially if you think his drug filled sperm made u have a miscarriage. use ur head. and when someone is addicted to drugs, they dont get better. just like alcoholics.

Quoting Allen_Mommy:“ well first of all i wouldnt be with someone who did drugs especially around my pregnancy or child. and ... [snip!] ... made u have a miscarriage. use ur head. and when someone is addicted to drugs, they dont get better. just like alcoholics.”

I totally disagree with you...I was doing drugs for 11 years of my life and I have been off of them for over a year now...WE DO GET BETTER...I was an alcoholic and I am not anymore...I am not going to be a bitch and drop him out of my life or his kids life just because he does drugs...Our world isn't perfect and if you can't accept someone that has a flaw then you aren't a person...USE YOUR HEAD AND WATCH WHAT YOU SAY

i wasnt judging you but somethings about ur story is a little off. you did drugs for 11 years and been off for 1? that means you were doing drugs when you were 7? thats really great.

Quoting Allen_Mommy:“ i wasnt judging you but somethings about ur story is a little off. you did drugs for 11 years and been off for 1? that means you were doing drugs when you were 7? thats really great.”

yes I was...NO ONE IS PERFECT...Nothing about my story is off...My brother was doing drugs and I wanted to be like him...So I did drugs and then friends and boyfriends got me into it harder...Why don't you go judge someone else...