So my DD is almost 3...

She turns the Dec 14th.
But, I always have her bday party at the end of November.

Last 2 years, Id get her a gift for the party, and another small gift on her actual birthday.

This year I have some money issues and I have to still buy the cake supplies, (Dora mermaid theme -- kill me) And do all the party deco and snacks.I do not have the money to get her something for the party...would it be ok to give her a gift on her actual birthday instead?

I think I sound dumb, but what if shes like.... "hey mommy what did u get me?"
lol I feel poor.

I would give her the gift for the party. She may not realize it is her birthday on the actual day to be honest. And you don't want it to look like you didn't give her anything

My son is having a big party, he is going to get lots of gifts from other people so I see no point in giving him anything at his party. We are saving the presents we bought for his actually birth day.

Shes going to be having a pretty good party, family, and lots of friends, I think if I tell her mommy will get her something special for her birthday she will be ok with it.

If not Im off to the dollar store