Not sure how to get over it...Maybe just my hormones

So i'm almost 38 weeks and I am massive. Like huge. I haven't gained alot of weight, but the belly is soooo big. I weigh 130 lbs and I weighed 100 lbs before I got pregnant. I was 10 lbs underweight, but I was happy...
I'll go ahead and throw in I have been battling anorexia since I was 10. And no, i'm not one of those girls who say that just because they skip a meal here and there, i've been hospitalized many many times due to it... SO NEEDLESS TO SAY
I have body image issues. And being pregnant has thrown that to a whole new level... I have done so good and I should be proud, I have never binged or purged or skipped out eating ANYTHING while I have been pregnant/ I want only the best for my son...but you don't know how hard it is.

So I saw on facebook that my husband liked a picture of some girls ass... it was on this http://www.facebook.com/OFCBigBootyFemales. He gets on facebook at work and sometimes I get on to talk to him while he's gone or whatever if I'm bored...

BUT WOW. That really smurfing hurt my feelings. I honestly consider that cheating... when I talked to him about it he said " You know I'm an ass/leg man"...well I don't have an ass or legs...and I think it is rude and disrespectful towards me that he would like such a nasty ass thing on facebook...

It's been 2 weeks since it happened and I'm still so upset about it. I think about it all day every day... I want to just scream at him...He never calls me pretty or sexy anymore... I'm carrying his son, but he's more interested in girls with ass??

No he hasn't ever cheated...and I'm sure it's my hormones...but wtf
I just feel like he should try to be a little more understanding  

What would you do?  

I don't think I'd get over that any time soon. That's cruel.

I personally wouldn't be bothered by it. I think it's just your hormones, that is not cheating by any means. Sorry it's been bothering you, I'd let it go, it's not worth stressing you out like that. Also, good for you for doing what's best for your baby.

I don't like how he said he's an "ass/leg" man....he's YOUR man...so your body should now be his preference.....if it bothers you this much tell him...so what if your hormonal- he should be extra sensitive about that towards you anyway...ESPECIALLY since he knows you have body image issues AND you are hormonal.

I'd be annoyed that he was writing off your feelings like that. I think it's creepy to lurk or search for fb pages like that though.   If he knows about your body image issues he should be more sensitive and respectful imo.

That's not cheating at all.

Just because he likes those, doesnt mean he doesnt like yours. If he didnt like how you looked, he wouldnt be with you right now and coming home to you every night. Cheer up and let it go!  

And that is great you are overcoming your sickness for your baby!

I would be offended myself. Even if he likes `big ass`s and legs``, it`s inappropriate. If it hurts you, then he shouldn`t do it. What`s more important, your feelings or creeping some half naked girls on facebook?
Girl's always feel like they have to compete, your man should make you feel otherwise.

did your hospitalizations included any out patient therapy afterwards? Obviously u still have body image issues that need addressing. From the time i was 17-19 i dealt w/an eating disorder.....My DH helped me through it w/o needing medical intervention (yes , a decade later i still struggle w/the urges) What my DH really helped me realize was that i couldnt be a hypocrite by getting angry if he commented on another females shape when i was destroying my own body (making it less attractive to him)....He prefers alittle ''cushion'' and said, every time i skipped a meal or threw it up, it was like a slap in the face to him. Sorry you are feeling so hurt by his insensitive actions but dwelling on it is unhealthy and unneccessary stress.

No way. I would be upset too. He should respect you more and your situation.
I was anorexic pre pregnancy. Thin and happy. I was 95-100lbs. I didnt care what people thought, I felt good about myself. I gained a bunch of weight during pregnancy. When I had her I was 140  Couldnt wait to lose this weight, mainly because I wanted to fit back into my jeans (size 1) and I didnt like my maternity jeans. My baby girl is 2 weeks today. I lost 20lbs when I checked last week, I dont have a scale myself but I checked at my grandmas house. Still cant fit in my jeans :/ but im trying to be patient with myself. I havnt exercised yet either, im still heavily bleeding. But I will get there!
But what your SO did was mean and inconsiderate. but your LO will be here soon and hormones will die down, but just seeing him nothing else will matter. plus for the first few weeks all you wear is pj's. Be patient with yourself   and if you plan on BFing then just continue with your prenatals because I know postpartum, even now, I never have an appetite.

Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" I don't like how he said he's an "ass/leg" man....he's YOUR man...so your body should now be his preference.....if ... [snip!] ... be extra sensitive about that towards you anyway...ESPECIALLY since he knows you have body image issues AND you are hormonal."

That's what I think! And then I actually feel GUILTY because I think I deserve him to be understanding.... UGH!  

Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" did your hospitalizations included any out patient therapy afterwards? Obviously u still have body image ... [snip!] ... face to him. Sorry you are feeling so hurt by his insensitive actions but dwelling on it is unhealthy and unneccessary stress."

Yes. I completed 2 outpatient programs but the problem with those are I'm good for the first 2 -3 months, and then here it comes again...It doesn't ever "go away" I'm always thinking about my weight. I just wish I could be normal. Therapy doesn't help. I CAN control it, because I'm pregnant, as weird as that sounds. But after baby is here, there won't be anything holding me back and it scares me...

Quoting ☼ Mª mª:" Yes. I completed 2 outpatient programs but the problem with those are I'm good for the first 2 -3 months, ... [snip!] ... I'm pregnant, as weird as that sounds. But after baby is here, there won't be anything holding me back and it scares me..."

i know the feeling....breastfeeding and pregnancy is a big help to ''ignoring the urges''......if i hadnt been pregnant and bfing so many times then i would definately struggle more. Remember u cant expect your SO to be understanding and and considerate of your ''illness'' when it doeant even make sense to you why u do it.....besides the fact that then he would be ''enabling'' you to continue w/destructive behavior. My SO threatened to leave me when we were 19 if i didnt get the disorder undercontrol , he said he wasnt going to go threw the pain of watching me struggle daily and waste away......we forget that our ''sickness'' effects others !

Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" i know the feeling....breastfeeding and pregnancy is a big help to ''ignoring the urges''......if i ... [snip!] ... going to go threw the pain of watching me struggle daily and waste away......we forget that our ''sickness'' effects others !"

It's going to sound bad, well it is, but the only reason I want to breastfeed is because I heard it helps you lose weight... HOW SICK IS THAT!?  

And you're completely right. He says it's stupid to feel how I feel, but that doesn't help either. I usually hide it from him. I lost 15 lbs before he noticed but I was so happy... I guess I'm more angry at myself because I want him to be proud of me for what I'm doing and he could honestly care less. To him i'm no more beautiful now than I was when I wouldn't eat...But I try so hard to be healthy and he would still rather look at other females... Whether he wants them or not isn't the real issue to me it's that he's looking while I'm here fighting every single day to make amazing choices for my son and I don't even get an "i'm proud of you"... We need therapy lol...

Quoting ☼ Mª mª:" It's going to sound bad, well it is, but the only reason I want to breastfeed is because I heard it ... [snip!] ... every single day to make amazing choices for my son and I don't even get an "i'm proud of you"... We need therapy lol..."

he's not going to be proud of u because he knows u r going to continue to make illogical choices!

Quoting 5 blessings so far....:" he's not going to be proud of u because he knows u r going to continue to make illogical choices!"

I mean proud that I've been gaining weight and eating like I'm supposed to! I don't expect anyone to be proud of my 'bad' choices , but those aren't the ones I struggle with