re: Baby Fever and Dealing With Loss

Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" I'm on OKC and POF. Most of the guys in my area are just skeezes though. Haha. If the right one comes ... [snip!] ... around, I'm more than open, but I won't be hitting up the dating scene actively until I feel like I have my ducks in a row.  "

I just now saw this, lol. But I met SO on POF! It takes a while to weed through the creeps.

Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" I was already emotional, and this made me cry! Lol. Thank you so much. All I have in the world that's certain right now is time. I'll just have to be patient. "

<3 S/he'll (I don't know your sexual orientation, so I'm being fair   ) will come along! I promise  

Quoting kthx.:" I just now saw this, lol. But I met SO on POF! It takes a while to weed through the creeps."

When you live in a rural area, they're all basically creeps! It's all rednecks and ghetto rednecks (for lack of a better word that isn't so offensive and doesn't start with W if you know what I mean).

And as for your second comment, I wouldn't turn down the right girl if she came along. Haha. I haven't dated a lady before, but the past two years have taught me never say never!

Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" When you live in a rural area, they're all basically creeps! It's all rednecks and ghetto rednecks (for ... [snip!] ... the right girl if she came along. Haha. I haven't dated a lady before, but the past two years have taught me never say never!"

I've dated a girl once (I'm bisexual). Dated her in 7th grade when I came out. Broke up because her mom found out and freaked. Then started dating her again when I was with my ex, and juggling a boyfriend and a girlfriend was smurfing HARD  


I'm really picky with females. A lot of them are way too clingy

Quoting kthx.:" I've dated a girl once (I'm bisexual). Dated her in 7th grade when I came out. Broke up because her ... [snip!] ... juggling a boyfriend and a girlfriend was smurfing HARD   I'm really picky with females. A lot of them are way too clingy"

That's the only reason I haven't ever dated a female. I'm smurfing crazy, all my female friends are smurfing crazy, so chances are I'd have a crazy ass girlfriend and I can't handle that.  

I'm actually more attracted to girls than I am to guys, but I'd totally be down to dating one...I just haven't found one I was into romantically.

Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" That's the only reason I haven't ever dated a female. I'm smurfing crazy, all my female friends are smurfing ... [snip!] ... to girls than I am to guys, but I'd totally be down to dating one...I just haven't found one I was into romantically. "

I feel you 100%  

And yeah, the whole romance thing. It sucks. I feel like A LOT of bisexual woman.... are the kind to say they're bi when drunk, to get attention, and then say how gross sex is with a woman (I've seen it before). So I'm wary. SO and I have a POF profile right now looking for a 3rd, and all of the women are so smurfing annoying. I understand it's just about sex... but damn, get to know me a LITTLE bit before banging  

Quoting kthx.:" I feel you 100%   And yeah, the whole romance thing. It sucks. I feel like A LOT of bisexual woman.... ... [snip!] ... women are so smurfing annoying. I understand it's just about sex... but damn, get to know me a LITTLE bit before banging  "

Yessssss. Smurf. That's why I don't even say I'm bisexual. It has an awful connotation to most people these days. However, I am proud to say that most of my friends recognize me as an extreme LGBT advocate. Whenever someone makes a non-alt-lifestyle friendly status, people have started saying things like "Omg dude wait until Terra sees this."

 

I've always been interested in open/polyamorous relationships, but I'm monogamous to a fault.   Good luck finding one that isn't too horny or weird!

Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" Yessssss. Smurf. That's why I don't even say I'm bisexual. It has an awful connotation to most people ... [snip!] ... in open/polyamorous relationships, but I'm monogamous to a fault.   Good luck finding one that isn't too horny or weird!"

It shall be a challenge  

I'm so sorry I'm in the same boat however I have been approve for disability. I too was in the hospital. I have a baby but I could never have another pregnancy I feel. Since I had so many problems with my pregnancies but I long for another baby. It is just not feasible and I keep telling myself that

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" I'm so sorry I'm in the same boat however I have been approve for disability. I too was in the hospital. ... [snip!] ... I had so many problems with my pregnancies but I long for another baby. It is just not feasible and I keep telling myself that"

My OB told me I need to take a few years before I even think about having a baby. I have scar tissue all over my uterus and it was tilted and all kinds of crazy stuff...the fact that I even had a baby is a fluke. I'll have to do some serious evaluations if I ever TTC (which I hope to do when I find the right person, because I'm hoping for a VBAC!)

I'll never be able to have a baby on accident again I think. =/

But you never know! Keep your head up and enjoy what you have! Surprises happen every day momma. <3

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" My OB told me I need to take a few years before I even think about having a baby. I have scar tissue ... [snip!] ... again I think. =/ But you never know! Keep your head up and enjoy what you have! Surprises happen every day momma. <3"</blockquote>




I do keep my head it is very hard but I'm nowhere stable enough for another baby. Plus there's no one special in my life right now.

We shouldn't be 21/22 and be dealing with this

Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" My OB told me I need to take a few years ... [snip!] ... enough for another baby. Plus there's no one special in my life right now. We shouldn't be 21/22 and be dealing with this"

I know people say you're supposed to wait until later in life to worry about a family...but I would rather have mine now, spend it with them while I'm healthy, and then start going downhill when I have adult children to take care of me.   Haha.

No lie. If you had issues like I did, I think a lot of that has to do with not having the pregnancy every one else gets. It's never easy, but sometimes it's incredibly hard.

I think part of mine is not being in a relationship, too. I live in a rural area, where everyone seems to get married right out of high school. I mean, that's not bashing anyone who does, but people look at me like something's wrong with me because I'm 21 and not married I think. Haha. I'm working on it, though. =P

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" I know people say you're supposed to wait until later in life to worry about a family...but I would ... [snip!] ... people look at me like something's wrong with me because I'm 21 and not married I think. Haha. I'm working on it, though. =P"</blockquote>




I live in an area like that too there's kids getting married when they are in high school. I was on bedrest from 19 weeks until I delivered at 32 weeks and some of it was in the hospital. I feel envious of people who have "better" pregnancies. Plus I don't want to lose another baby