Friends denial

My friend has a 3 and a half year old son that is delayed in speech and development. Maybe half, if not less, of what he says is not understandable. He also can not do many things on his own....dressing, eating(when he does eat by himself he shoves everything in his mouth and chokes), he can't wash his own hands, can't use a cup, falls down a lot. He also flaps his hands when he's upset or excited and barely makes eye contact. FINALLY her sons pediatrician noticed these things and wants to test him for autism and give him speech therapy, etc... My friend refuses saying he's fine, etc... I don't know what to say to her to change her mind. I have a 3 year old son also(he is 6 months older than her son) and they are SO, SO different. I KNOW all kids are different and develop differently but he is noticeably delayed...which is FINE but he NEEDS help and she won't do it. Any ideas on what I can say to her...?

I would try to stay out of it, honestly. Drop hints that you are concerned, but don't fight with your friend

That's a tough situation.. its important for him to get the right care it he is delayed, but maybe do some research o n your own and point out some facts. Best of lu ck

Stay out of it? He's not your kid. Maybe eventually she'll get it but there's not much you can do to make her realize if she doesn't want to. If his doctor said something and she didn't listen I doubt she'll listen to anyone else.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♥Sweetpea:</b>" Stay out of it? He's not your kid. Maybe eventually she'll get it but there's not much you can do to ... [snip!] ... her realize if she doesn't want to. If his doctor said something and she didn't listen I doubt she'll listen to anyone else. "</blockquote>


Omg your avi :-D

That's touchy. I would try to stay out of it unless she asks you for your opinion on the situation. And, in the case I still wouldn't push. I'd try to come off on her side and tell her to do it to make the pedi happy. Like I said, it's very touchy so I'm not quite sure what I'd do.

Quoting Mama♥Sweetpea:" Stay out of it? He's not your kid. Maybe eventually she'll get it but there's not much you can do to ... [snip!] ... her realize if she doesn't want to. If his doctor said something and she didn't listen I doubt she'll listen to anyone else. "

omg your avi is so cute, i literally just laughed out loud  

It's really nothing you can say to her, but that's sad the earlier the parents get help for their children the better it is so for the sake of the child I hoope she does what the doctor ask

Quoting P.S I'm pregnant ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♥Sweetpea:</b>" Stay out of it? He's not your kid. ... [snip!] ... his doctor said something and she didn't listen I doubt she'll listen to anyone else. "</blockquote> Omg your avi :-D"

It's cute, huh? I laugh very time I see it.  

I have an aunt and uncle who are like that- they totally deny the fact that something is going on with their kids. One of their sons is only a few months older than my daughter Adina, he's 4 now, and he STILL can't talk! The entire family has told them over and over again that something is going on, and they refuse to get him help because they don't want to hear anything is going on with their child.

I'm getting my daughter help because she's a bit delayed in some things, and even if her delays are slight, I'm doing my best to fix them so her life is better in the long run. just keep trying with her, If she ignores these signs now, that childs life will be far more difficult later.

She may be in denial or she may still be dealing with the news. Maybe. She's embarrassed or just not ready to talk about it. Unless she approaches you I would stay out of it.

You described my nephew and my niece right to a T. And honestly they are 11 and 13 now and their is nothing wrong with them at all. When they are excited they still tip toe walk and and flap their hands and arms up and down and its strange. Both were tested when they were young, but they are fine. They were just slightly delayed.

And my niece was only had dislexia, and my nephew was fine, horrible in math but thats about it. lol

I think if she doesnt want to get him tested so beit. Its not your child. Butt out.