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You have a REALLY good reason to feel that way. You've essentially made a life for yourself where you're at and he wants to uproot you. Are you happy where you are? If you are, you need to convince him to stay. I think you're probably going to be unhappy where he's trying to move you.

No you're not. Dont let him have say so when all his reasons are just crap. Yours on the other hand are not. I'd tell him if it were me that I was not going and hes a selfish ass for even asking.

Quoting Bogey Woman:" You have a REALLY good reason to feel that way. You've essentially made a life for yourself where you're ... [snip!] ... are? If you are, you need to convince him to stay. I think you're probably going to be unhappy where he's trying to move you."

I've lived her my entire life. His other family lives here to & they'd hate to see us leave. I know I will be miserable there! I will have no car & no friends. I def don't want to hang out with a drunk all day! My DH will be working long hours. He says I can make friends, but to me my children are most important! My family cares about our daughter, his Dad doesn't care about her at all!

No you are not. He's being an inconsiderate jerk.
Who the hell quits a job after learning that there is a new baby on the way?! And wants to uproot his family to go live near people who mistreat his family?
If I couldn't convince him, I would be putting my foot down. I would let him know that I am NOT moving, and he could get another job or go live with daddy all by himself.

Quoting Cheℓs +2 [12wks]:" I've lived her my entire life. His other family lives here to & they'd hate to see us leave. I know ... [snip!] ... friends, but to me my children are most important! My family cares about our daughter, his Dad doesn't care about her at all! "

Do you have somewhere you can stay if he decides to leave? YOU don't have to go.

Quoting ProginoskesII (SuperKink):" No you are not. He's being an inconsiderate jerk. Who the hell quits a job after learning that there ... [snip!] ... my foot down. I would let him know that I am NOT moving, and he could get another job or go live with daddy all by himself."

  Especially the quitting the job part!

I keep telling him that I'm not going & he's calling me selfish because he says it's a good thing for our family, I disagree & so does everyone else! I'm kind of dreading him coming home because I don't want to fight about it. I realize he'd miss us but I don't think it's a good idea for our daughter.

If he leaves I can stay with my parents. Luckily they have 2 spare bedrooms.

Quoting Bogey Woman:"   Especially the quitting the job part!"

I was SOOOO pissed! He has a bench warrant out from a different state for unpaid fines. We can't pay it off until mid February & he thinks that's why he won't be able to find a job.

Quoting Cheℓs +2 [12wks]:" I keep telling him that I'm not going & he's calling me selfish because he says it's a good thing ... [snip!] ... I don't think it's a good idea for our daughter. If he leaves I can stay with my parents. Luckily they have 2 spare bedrooms."

He's calling YOU selfish? Pot, meet Kettle...lol Do you think though that you being unhappy would also be a bad idea for your daughter?

Quoting Bogey Woman:" He's calling YOU selfish? Pot, meet Kettle...lol Do you think though that you being unhappy would also be a bad idea for your daughter?"

Right! lol My daughter seems my parents & sister everyday! She loves spending time with them & gets so excited everytime she sees them. My Dad is a mechanic & is always helping fix my car, & does stuff for me when my DH leaves. I think my daughter would go crazy not seeing her family. I don't know what to do. He keeps saying that it's a good opertunity but I disagree.

Quoting Cheℓs +2 [12wks]:" Right! lol My daughter seems my parents & sister everyday! She loves spending time with them & ... [snip!] ... would go crazy not seeing her family. I don't know what to do. He keeps saying that it's a good opertunity but I disagree."

And you're married to him, which doesn't help your situation :/ I can respect that you want to stay with him, but what is HE going to do when you're unhappy? Stuff like this, LIFE changing stuff, can ruin a relationship pretty easily.

Quoting Bogey Woman:" And you're married to him, which doesn't help your situation :/ I can respect that you want to stay ... [snip!] ... but what is HE going to do when you're unhappy? Stuff like this, LIFE changing stuff, can ruin a relationship pretty easily."

Yeah. When he had his job his Dad would call asking him to come work for him & he would always say no. Then I would ask if he ever had to would we move there & he said no way in hell, I made him promise & now this happens! I think his Dad is putting things in his head. I will not be happy there, I try explaining to him that money isn't everything! I mean if he can't find work here we can move an hour or so away for him to work. I would be okay with that. I could still use my doctor & my daughter could see people that care about her! Plus her birthday is coming up, it's exactly a week after Christmas & I don't want her spending it with his Dad & wife!

Quoting Cheℓs +2 [12wks]:" Yeah. When he had his job his Dad would call asking him to come work for him & he would always say ... [snip!] ... Plus her birthday is coming up, it's exactly a week after Christmas & I don't want her spending it with his Dad & wife!"

I don't understand why he would want to change everything all of a sudden. Did he quit his job just on a whim? Or was it something he had planned out? I mean, you've got another on the way, he can't just expect you to move...something seems off to me. Like he's running away from something maybe?

Quoting Bogey Woman:" I don't understand why he would want to change everything all of a sudden. Did he quit his job just ... [snip!] ... another on the way, he can't just expect you to move...something seems off to me. Like he's running away from something maybe?"

He had been having problems with his foreman. He called the office to say something about it & they said there was nothing they could do. I told him just ignore the stuff that was happening & do his job. He quit instead. His Dad wasn't in his life from 3-15 years old! None of his other siblings like him. They don't even call him Dad, they call him by his first name. My DH is too nice sometimes & it screws us over!