opinions please

I have a problem
I live with my fiancé we have a 6 month old baby. I haven had a job since I got pulled from work when I was pregnant due to high risk labor. I been looking for a job for awhile now. I got a call yesterday about a job, it's third shift. my fiancé already works thirds. Im considering the job because it's hard on my SO to do it alone. we are hard in money right now. ivedone considered what to do with LO while we're at work. my mom gets him when she gets off and keeps him so we can sleep for work. we'll get him when we get off. the days Im off I'll keep him all night and when SO is off he keeps him all night. when MIL heard she continued to make me feel like smurf for even considering the job. it's the only job that's called back about anything. what am I supposed to do take it or leave it? please help and no bashing please.

My infant was still breastfeeding every hour at that age so it just wouldn't have been an option here.

It depends how bad off you are financially, and what financial assistance options are available to you? What accommodation etc do you have currently, could you downsize and budget more?

What hours are 3rd shift?

If you are surviving and have some clothes or furniture, old baby stuff etc that you can sell then i'd do that first. I'd rather sell everything i could and just be comfortable and at home caring for my baby and keep looking for another job.

My husband and I are in the same boat. I say as long as everything is figured out with your mom and you're not missing out on to much in LOs life go for it. Remind her bills have to be paid and if both of you need to work to take care of her grand baby/your child then so be it. That's what being an adult is about. Go momma!

I'll be with him from about 7 am til around 2 or 3 in the afternoon. the job is from 10 til 7

If you know you need to, take it

that's my problem. SO has been at his job a year and still makes min wage. he don't get that much on his checks. he has to pay bills since no one else in the house works.

that's my problem. SO has been at his job a year and still makes min wage. he don't get that much on his checks. he has to pay bills since no one else in the house works. on top of that he buys groceries and buys the baby the things he needs. keep in mind there are 6 people living in this house and NO ONE works but him. that's why I'm trying to find a job to help him out a bit.

i say go for it. and if you realize it is more of a hassle then it's worth, then quit. it's easier to quit a job then it is to get a job.

give it a try, see how it works out.

Why isn't anyone else working?The three of you need to find your own place.

as long as you can find someone to watch the baby i dont see a problem in it. You have to do what is best for you guys and if your having financial issues than take the job

<blockquote><b>Quoting joe's mommy:</b>" I'll be with him from about 7 am til around 2 or 3 in the afternoon. the job is from 10 til 7"</blockquote>


My kids would still be nursing through the night at that age so I wouldn't do it. Also, from those times it seems like your mom id going to have him wih her more than you'll have him home. That doesn't seem fair. You would literally only have him from 7 in the morning until 2 or 3 in the afternoon, then your mom would have him te rest. So he would basically be living with her, only spending 7-8 hours a day in your house, so you can get sleep. That isnt fair at all. I would look for your own place and look for other work. McDonald and places like that are always hiring.

Don't worry what Mil says 10-7 that little boy won't even know you are gone just ignore her people have to work

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" Why isn't anyone else working?The three of you need to find your own place."</blockquote>

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" Why isn't anyone else working?The three of you need to find your own place."</blockquote>




SO's sister is pregnant and due any day now. and her bf (not the father of the baby) goes to college so MIL supports them and barely helps us since SO has a job but he barely makes any money working min wage by himself