re: Here it goes

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" Ok...so I am confused.....your son's father ... [snip!] ... put their pictures side by side and apparently they look alike...and I have to accept that until when/if he gets a test done,"

Lol...having three baby daddy options is a lot in my opinion...at least I'd be going nuts if I ever ended up in her shoes...it is something you will have to accept and it's good you have that attitude...and you left him because of the fact that he is the father? I assume he cheated or he lied to you?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" Lol...having three baby daddy options is a lot in my opinion...at least I'd be going nuts if I ever ... [snip!] ... you have that attitude...and you left him because of the fact that he is the father? I assume he cheated or he lied to you?"</blockquote>




No. He didn't cheat.....that I know of. And no, I didn't leave him because of her child. I was with him the entire time it was going on and even after he got his name on the birth certificate...which he said he only done because he got a test....which I just found out recently he didn't.

I left him because after getting pregnant, he kept asking me for an abortion because he couldn't handle gaining two new children at the same time. His words..."i just found out about her one so how am I going to handle your baby coming too?" And we had been talking kids for a while...I can't say we were actively TTC but we weren't taking any actions to prevent pregnancy. After she came back into the picture I saw the mess about to happen so i started getting him to pull out. That's when I got pregnant after months of taking no precautions. Lol.

The excitement of my pregnancy was pushed to side so I can help him through his situation with her. And I stood by his side the entire way through it. She came to the house with the child to get him to sign papers to put his name on the birth certificate while I was there. He didn't let her come in though. Lol.

I was the supportive pregnant girlfriend. after he got his name on the birth certificate, I was already almost 10 weeks pregnant. So because her child was already here...he wanted me to get rid of mine even though it was basically planned to make it easier for him! If he would have left it at me saying no, we would have been fine. But he kept pushing and pushing and being rude about it calling me selfish and inconsiderate. So I ended up leaving him because it was emotionally draining.

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" Lol...having three baby daddy options is a ... [snip!] ... and being rude about it calling me selfish and inconsiderate. So I ended up leaving him because it was emotionally draining."

I would have done the same and I hope he feels like a assbag..has he been trying to get back with you? Does he come to appointments? I deal with the "woe is me" bullsmurf on a daily basis...mostly over child support....while my son's father wanted nothing to do with my pregnancy, he was there once L.O was born and never misses a visitation...perhaps your son's birth will bring you back together, if that's what you want....it's a lot easier that way, financially and in terms of getting a break...but it's not always for the best.

Quoting Peppa pig:" I would have done the same and I hope he feels like a assbag..has he been trying to get back with you? ... [snip!] ... what you want....it's a lot easier that way, financially and in terms of getting a break...but it's not always for the best. "

No. He hasn't been trying to get back with me. It will never happen even if he wanted to. I lost all respect for him when he changed his number on me. He told me that since we aren't together anymore, there's no need for him to support me through my pregnancy and that he'll see me in March. I haven't heard from him since begining of August. He was super butt hurt that I left him.

He'd have to do a lot of growing up before I consider taking him back.

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" No. He hasn't been trying to get back with me. It will never happen even if he wanted to. I lost all ... [snip!] ... of August. He was super butt hurt that I left him. He'd have to do a lot of growing up before I consider taking him back. "

yea he does need to go grow up....it still sucks going through pregnancy alone....I can write the book to What to Expect when You're Expecting and Your BD is a Douche Canoe

An opinion is saying I don't think being a SAHM is hard, not saying those who are , are lazy and sit on their ass all day and don't mine mooching off their husbands.. That's being a bitch. "Shrugs"

Quoting Isaiah & Delilah's Mama:" An opinion is saying I don't think being a SAHM is hard, not saying those who are , are lazy and sit on their ass all day and don't mine mooching off their husbands.. That's being a bitch. "Shrugs""

   Yep.

And where are you getting the money for college then, OP, if not from your mommy and daddy, or trust funds? Do you really want to tell me you're going to law school, I think it was, out of your OWN pocket, with no loans of grants?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ★Bαtgirl:</b>"    Yep. And where are you getting the money for college then, OP, if not from your mommy and daddy, ... [snip!] ... Do you really want to tell me you're going to law school, I think it was, out of your OWN pocket, with no loans of grants?"</blockquote>




I refuse to be all nice to someone who said those things about me, if everyone else wants to go for it, I refuse to just think she's "stubborn" no she's just a bitch about the whole thing.

True on the last part you wrote!

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting DisneyMommyTTC#3:</b>" Not trying to bash you or rub anything ... [snip!] ... back up, we would probably still be happily together. But the combination of the two just pushed him over the edge I guess."

If people are smurfs to to others, they will always be an smurf to you eventually.

If he gets overhwhelmed and runs away when smurf gets real, he was/is severely lacking in character, and is really an overgrown boy, rather than a man.

Quoting Isaiah & Delilah's Mama:" An opinion is saying I don't think being a SAHM is hard, not saying those who are , are lazy and sit on their ass all day and don't mine mooching off their husbands.. That's being a bitch. "Shrugs""

Those are both opinions actually. one just happens to be more harsh.

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:"    Yep. And where are you getting the money for college then, OP, if not from your mommy and daddy, ... [snip!] ... Do you really want to tell me you're going to law school, I think it was, out of your OWN pocket, with no loans of grants?"

What? my tuition is being paid for by my parents. I said that pages ago. Go back and read. I said hopefully my son won't have to worry about paying for his either. Clearly you don't know how to read or you just skipped over it. I never said I'm in law school either.

Quoting Isaiah & Delilah's Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ★Bαtgirl:</b>"    Yep. And where are you getting ... [snip!] ... for it, I refuse to just think she's "stubborn" no she's just a bitch about the whole thing. True on the last part you wrote!"

Trust me, I do not need you to be nice to me. So keep refusing. I'll live!

Quoting DisneyMommyTTC#3:" If people are smurfs to to others, they will always be an smurf to you eventually. If he gets ... [snip!] ... and runs away when smurf gets real, he was/is severely lacking in character, and is really an overgrown boy, rather than a man."

I agree. I'm not saying much in his defense. He has been acting like a boy.

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" What? my college is being paid for by my parents. I said that pages ago. Go back and read. I said hopefully my son have to worry about paying for his either."

Yeah, see, I'm one that believes a higher education should be mostly paid for by the person who wants it, not the parents. How much have you really had to pay for in life? Not the big expenses, like college, obviously...

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Yeah, see, I'm one that believes a higher education should be mostly paid for by the person who wants ... [snip!] ... wants it, not the parents. How much have you really had to pay for in life? Not the big expenses, like college, obviously..."

Well that sucks for you. I feel that if I am making the decision to bring a child into this world, it is my responsibility to ensure that they get through college if what they chose to do. That's just my job as a parent if I want what's best for my child.....if I want my child to suceed. The child didn't ask to be here. I'd feel worthless if after high school I told my child "you're on your own!" That's not a responsibilty they should take on. Luckily my parents feel the same way!


And I've paid for enough in life. I can happily say college isn't one of them. And I'll forever thank my parents for being as invested in my futuRe as I am.