re: is this sketchy :/

Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):" He called me just now and asked why I'm upset about it and I told him I don't understand how he went ... [snip!] ... Whatever you want... I am done fighting it, you get what you want" I don't understand why he's getting so smurfing nasty."

I am so sorry.

I'm afraid I don't know what his issue is.

No man I've been acquainted with has chosen to abstain from sex 'just to see what it does' - it's freaking obvious what it tends to do. It causes and tension and pressure, especially if it's a decision someone single-handedly took.

You are not the odd one in this, he is. I believe there is something going on in his mind and this is the way he's chosen to put it forth.

Perhaps he's self-validating that he's important to you by means of threatening to abstain from sex, or it's a childish way of making sure you like him or something. Whatever it is, he's not right.

I'm not saying that people should screw like rabbits to be happy, not at all, I'm just saying if there's a decision to abstain, both people should agree.. especially if there's no real basis for the decision

It sounds like your relationships is one of extremes. Extreme highs and low and different variables..I would be suspicious. Any man turning down sex to me just is weird though..

My DH was like that. After the first ultrasound (at around 10 weeks to confirm timing) we didn't have sex again until I went overdue with my DD and not until after delivery with my DS. I wouldn't immediately think cheating but that is me.

Quoting Mama Rice:" My DH was like that. After the first ultrasound (at around 10 weeks to confirm timing) we didn't have ... [snip!] ... until I went overdue with my DD and not until after delivery with my DS. I wouldn't immediately think cheating but that is me."

What was your DH's reason?

I don't know what his smurfing problem is. I ignored his rabbits comment and we talked about the election for a bit and then suddenly he said " I am not going to joke, or play, or kid. From now on, i am going to be blunt and straight forward with you... "

To which I replied " I think we need to talk later. Not through impersonal texting when tone and intent can be misread and cause more problems than necessary."

And he said " whats to misinterprut? I dont want to joke around. I want to be serious and ADULT. If you cant understand then i cant help you."

Like i'm being the smurfing child in this situation?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" My DH was like that. After the first ultrasound (at around 10 weeks to confirm timing) we didn't have ... [snip!] ... until I went overdue with my DD and not until after delivery with my DS. I wouldn't immediately think cheating but that is me."</blockquote>


He's been to two ultrasounds. We came home from the last one and smurfed.

maybe im grasping. but the threesome thing, maybe he is just trying to get you to cave and be okay with it in order to have sex at all? which is very malicious but eh, crazier things have happened.

Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):" I don't know what his smurfing problem is. I ignored his rabbits comment and we talked about the election ... [snip!] ... to be serious and ADULT. If you cant understand then i cant help you." Like i'm being the smurfing child in this situation?"

Okay? I don't get him..

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tasha & Nika:</b>" Okay? I don't get him.."</blockquote>


I don't either :/ I don't understand what set this off, what's his reasoning, how he wants us to fix it, and he won't smurfing talk to me

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tasha & Nika:</b>" What was your DH's reason?"</blockquote>


Just uncomfortable having sex while I was pregnant with his kids.

<blockquote><b>Quoting LACEYY--:</b>" maybe im grasping. but the threesome thing, maybe he is just trying to get you to cave and be okay with it in order to have sex at all? which is very malicious but eh, crazier things have happened."</blockquote>



Maybe, but I don't know. That's as good a guess as any.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" My DH was like that. After the first ultrasound ... [snip!] ... think cheating but that is me."</blockquote> He's been to two ultrasounds. We came home from the last one and smurfed."</blockquote>

I wasn't saying that I thought your SO/DH had the same problem. That is just what triggered my DHs choice to abstain.

How long have you guys been together, did you get pregnant right away & is this his first kid?

Quoting Misty Walls:" How long have you guys been together, did you get pregnant right away & is this his first kid?"

I was just about to ask the same... based on the reason he gave for wanting to abstain from sex.

Kinda sounds like he's trying to push you away   imo