Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):" He called me just now and asked why I'm upset about it and I told him I don't understand how he went ... [snip!] ... Whatever you want... I am done fighting it, you get what you want" I don't understand why he's getting so smurfing nasty."
I am so sorry.
I'm afraid I don't know what his issue is.
No man I've been acquainted with has chosen to abstain from sex 'just to see what it does' - it's freaking obvious what it tends to do. It causes and tension and pressure, especially if it's a decision someone single-handedly took.
You are not the odd one in this, he is. I believe there is something going on in his mind and this is the way he's chosen to put it forth.
Perhaps he's self-validating that he's important to you by means of threatening to abstain from sex, or it's a childish way of making sure you like him or something. Whatever it is, he's not right.
I'm not saying that people should screw like rabbits to be happy, not at all, I'm just saying if there's a decision to abstain, both people should agree.. especially if there's no real basis for the decision