vent and possible postnatal depression

i feel like i cant cope and dont know what to do, SO supposed to take over when he comes in from work so i can cook tea feels like i do that then i end up with LO back,,,,,, and he supposed to have him for a few hours so i can have a break,i do ALL night feeds and through the day(he works 7am till 3.30pm) feels like i never have time to sleep.i do try to sleep when LO sleeps but he only cat naps and its getting to the point where because i have no chill time let alone time to sleep im emotionally and physically drained and when LO throws a hissy fit and wont settle i end up shouting and then break down because i feel like a bad mother.......

please help
advice needed
TIA x

I know how you feel mama.

My doctor told me to take one 30 minute walk a day by myself. Best advice ever!
It relaxed me, I started losing weight, and I had more energy.  

Another thing you could do along with the walk is picking one night a week when your SO wakes up with LO and let's you sleep in.

Quoting Mommy2a Prince&Princess:" I know how you feel mama. My doctor told me to take one 30 minute walk a day by myself. Best advice ... [snip!] ... thing you could do along with the walk is picking one night a week when your SO wakes up with LO and let's you sleep in."

he knows how exhausted i am and he still plays games on laptop when he knows i need a break when he supposed to take over....i suffer from depression before i got pregnant anyway and he knows this but feel like im on my own when all i want is for a few hours just to maybe catch a bit of sleep and take a bath.....

You are not a bad mother you are just tired. Maybe see if your SO can take over for one night so you can get some sleep. Tell him you really badly need a break. You get so much more stressed and emotional when you are extremely tired plus all the hormones from just having a baby. Maybe if you have family or friends near by you can ask them if they can come over in the day and give you a small break so you can take a nap or just have some time to relax. Trust me getting some sleep will make you feel so much better. Also i would talk to your doctor if you think you might have pnd.

Quoting Blah:" You are not a bad mother you are just tired. Maybe see if your SO can take over for one night so you ... [snip!] ... me getting some sleep will make you feel so much better. Also i would talk to your doctor if you think you might have pnd. "

wish he would do 1 night of feeds but once hes asleep a foghorn wouldnt wake his arse up..... so its down to me just would like a bit more help as still recovering from c-section arghhh it sucks

You're not a bad mom.
Being exhausted and mentally drained can make anything 100 times worse. You need to really express to your SO that he needs to help out more. When you start to get more sleep things won't seem so hard to handle. The first few months are tough-I like to refer to it as the 4th trimester because the first 3 months of a newborns life is just a survival game for the moms. Make sure you're eating right, and try to get out of the house on your own for a little each day. You gotta take care of yourself before you can be any good to your LO. You'll find your groove soon. Best of luck!

thankyou going to talk to SO tonight

pm me if you ever need to chat hun, i had postnatal depression twice  

i know how you feel i feel the same way with my lo and when i do it makes even more upset afterwards

It just takes time to adjust, you wont feel like this forever its just abit draining at first xx