seriously.. don't need a daily reminder!!
posted 6th Nov
its been four weeks exactly since my abortion. every damn day, I'm getting bombarded with emails, pics of babies, friends finding out they're pregnant, anything and everything baby related possible. its starting to drive me insane!!! i know this was my choice, but do i really need a daily reminder of what i gave up?!? i don't regret my decision, for the most part, but goodness, i don't know how to get the heck over it...
last week, i got an email from some site congratulating me for making through my first trimester. i cried for hours and hours, hating myself more with each tear that fell. i want this empty feeling to go away! when will it....?
quoteposted 6th Nov
Are you subscribed to any parenting/pregnancy sites or newsletters? Just ignore them.
quoteI have 1 child & live in
Utahposted 6th Nov
<blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" Are you subscribed to any parenting/pregnancy sites or newsletters? Just ignore them."</blockquote>
i unsubscribed to all the ones i knew i signed up for... these are sites ive never even heard of.
quoteposted 6th Nov
I've never had an abortion, but I've had a few miscarriages and have had similar emotions. It was like a slap in the face whenever someone announced their pregnancy. Quite honestly, it still hurts.
quoteposted 6th Nov
*hugs!
I know it sucks Im right there with you..
Just let yourself feel whatever you need to feel, time will make it easier.
quoteposted 6th Nov
I don't know if it's something you'll ever really be over, momma.
I've had a few miscarriages, and I'm still smurfed up over them. Even after having a baby, I get upset when my friends find out they're pregnant and go through all the excitement..I can only imagine the feelings would be that much worse if I had decided to have an abortion.
Just try to take solace in the family you have now. Don't doubt yourself or second-guess yourself; your decision was in everyone's best interest.
I'm so sorry. I just hope it gets easier for you.
quotesmurfs?posted 6th Nov
I'm sorry. When I miscarried I felt the same way and I swear there were like ten people who found out they were pregnant right when I miscarried. It was hard to watch. Even though I was pregnant again by the time it came around, a girl I went to high school with gave birth very close to my EDD and it killed me.
quoteI have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in
New Yorkposted 6th Nov
thanks guys! i think time will heal all, just hurts now! thankfully, my son is helping me ease my mind and remind me that i may have lost something, but i still have an amazing blessing in my arms
quoteposted 6th Nov
Quoting klorraine89:" its been four weeks exactly since my abortion. every damn day, I'm getting bombarded with emails, pics ... [snip!] ... cried for hours and hours, hating myself more with each tear that fell. i want this empty feeling to go away! when will it....?"
I have never had an abortion but a family member of mine is going through something similar at the minute. Just remember you did it for your own reasons and it wasn't your time. Don't be so hard on yourself. I have lost a baby through miscarriage and to be honest I don't think you ever get over loosing a baby but you will learn to move on. Just takes a little time. =) xxxx
posted 6th Nov
Right after my miscarriage in august, my 16 y/o sister found out she was pregnant. (along with what to be every female I knew) it hurt badly, like pouring salt in a wound. I'm sorry you feel this way. I hope you find some type of closure soon.
quoteI have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in
Texasposted 7th Nov
Oh honey I know how you feel. I had an abortion. Im at peace with it now. But I placed my youngest son for adoption and I know that burn and sting it has when you get those types of emails and see people like that. It hurts. With time it will get easier. <3
My inbox is open anytime you want to talk.
quoteposted 10th Nov
It's been almost 3 years and while I don't think about it every day I still think about it and it still makes me sad from time to time.
quoteI have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in
Texasposted 19th Nov
I'm not sure of your situation..but maybe this will help? Instead of thinking about the things you gave up..maybe think of what you have gained..you will be able to support your son better, no struggles for that baby, no tears, no lonely night's wondering why the father doesn't love it as much( like I said ..I don't know your reasons or situation..these are just common reasons) your son will be able to get more mommy time with you and just you etc..I know its hard to look at it like that..and I'm not sure if you could ..I have never actually had one.
quoteposted 25th Nov
Quoting klorraine89:" its been four weeks exactly since my abortion. every damn day, I'm getting bombarded with emails, pics ... [snip!] ... cried for hours and hours, hating myself more with each tear that fell. i want this empty feeling to go away! when will it....?"
I suffered PAD for 3 years so I definitely understand your pain. I was so upset for the longest time about other people in my life being pregnant and having babies. I didn't get over it until I became pregnant with this LO. I definitely know the hurt, and I'm sorry you're going through it.
23 posts
5889 posts
60683 posts
4575 posts
5605 posts
7454 posts
81 posts
1660 posts
31955 posts
4432 posts