Quoting Arianna's Mama =]:" Thought I would add in also I am a SAHM"

Good for you? You made it quite obvious though.  

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" Because that's what she WANTS to do. I remember my mom teaching me the lesson of "When you're an adult ... [snip!] ... an adult sometimes you have to do things that you don't want to do." I don't think OP and the other girl got that lesson."

You're a ridiculously judgemental bitch.

I'm not going to get into my life story, but I grew up in a house with just my mum who was forced to leave her job because of my brothers needs and it was less than ideal but she always made it work. Three kids and we never ever went without anything. &My brother had a lot of medical finances. She sure did sacrifice and go without a lot, which isn't ideal, but it's what you do for your kids to make the best out of a bad situation. If emergencies came up, she dealt with them.... because sometimes life isn't ideal for everybody but you always find a way to stretch it further.

My dad came along when I was all grown up, feeling guilty about never doing anything for us or helping my mum financially at all... he gave me land and a house. Which obviously helped my situation a lot, so I'm not in the same one as my mum was put in.... but because I know, that sometimes what a child needs emotionally is a hands on parent, that's the reason why I said, I would stay home. No doubt about it.

I guess you wouldn't even try to begin to understand what people mean, because like you said "you would never have to walk an inch in her shoes anyway."

Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:" do you have anything intelligent to add?"

Yeah IMHO OP should do what she Thinks is best for her family and not get bashed because of her financial situation I know plenty of SAHMs that can not afford to do that but they make it work because they would rather be home with their kids. And with her LO having DS it seems to be the best option I know if DD had special needs I would be a SAHM no matter what but that this point I chose to stay home with her because we choose not to pay 475$ a week for day care.

Quoting Ryloonjimama:" You're a ridiculously judgemental bitch. I'm not going to get into my life story, but I grew up in ... [snip!] ... try to begin to understand what people mean, because like you said "you would never have to walk an inch in her shoes anyway.""

Your situation and her situation are completely different. There is no comparison.

Quoting Arianna's Mama =]:" Yeah IMHO OP should do what she Thinks is best for her family and not get bashed because of her financial ... [snip!] ... a SAHM no matter what but that this point I chose to stay home with her because we choose not to pay 475$ a week for day care."

Shes not being bashed. the OP has no guaranteed income its not in her families best interest to not work and if you could read the state would cover child care costs

<blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brittney Ivanov:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ... [snip!] ... have no business staying at home. All I said was that I will forever thank my mom for working even though She didn't have to."</blockquote>


I see your point. Both my parents worked as well and a lot of the times I wished my mom was home. But now that I'm older I appreciate it more. She was super mom. Able to work AND come home and cook dinner and drive us everywhere and just gosh it seemed like she could do anything! I think it's awesome when women can find a perfect balance between work and children. While it may not be the life I choose for now ( because yes anything can happen) I look up to the moms who work; and I look up to the ones who don't have to and choose not to.

Quoting Brittney Ivanov:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... because yes anything can happen) I look up to the moms who work; and I look up to the ones who don't have to and choose not to."

I guess I just wasn't a "needy" child? Not being rude.... 
I don't ever remember a time where I wanted my mom to be home with me. Probably because I was too busy having fun in daycare or at school.

OOO I take that back. I used to get really horrible period pains when my period first started in middle school. I felt like I was dying. I wanted my mom then....but before then...not so much....  

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" Your situation and her situation are completely different. There is no comparison."

not to mention two different countries

Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:" not to mention two different countries "

I didn't realize that.  

Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:" Shes not being bashed. the OP has no guaranteed income its not in her families best interest to not work and if you could read the state would cover child care costs "

Depends there are a few families around here that were denied for that even with SN children you don't know everything.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" I guess I just wasn't a "needy" child? Not being rude....  I don't ever remember a time where I ... [snip!] ... period first started in middle school. I felt like I was dying. I wanted my mom then....but before then...not so much....  "</blockquote>


Lol. I was pretty needy BUTTTTT that's a whole nother story! Too long and too painful to tell. But I turned out fine with school and activities and nannies to keep us busy i guess? Haha.

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" Your situation and her situation are completely different. There is no comparison."

I'm not sure how it's that much different from my mums situation. Atleast the OP has someone standing beside her, doing his best to support the family. My mum got $1200 a month to raise 3 kids.... the complete opposite of financially stable, in fact.... but my point was, that she made it work, because she had to. It's not ideal, but not impossible.

Maybe the OP can choose to work, but the fact is nobody can give her SPECIAL NEEDS baby as much love, care and attention as she can.

Quoting Arianna's Mama =]:" Depends there are a few families around here that were denied for that even with SN children you don't know everything."

i know about the state i live in which is the state the op is in so i know a little more about how the system works here

Quoting Ryloonjimama:" I'm not sure how it's that much different from my mums situation. Atleast the OP has someone standing ... [snip!] ... her, doing his best to support the family. The fact is, nobody is going to give her SPECIAL NEEDS baby better care than she is."

That's not necessarily true...But I know nothing.

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" That's not necessarily true...But I know nothing. "

I didn't say you don't know anything, but you clearly have no experience about what it means to have a special needs child. She's going to need one on one care and attention. That can't be provided by a daycare.