Quoting Ryloonjimama:" Yeah I did, some smurf about not being able to rely on your BD... and some smurf about your parents put ... [snip!] ... like you should be able to afford to pay full child care. If you can't, shame on you... after all, that is YOUR job, right?"

Did I ever shame anyone for applying for government assistance? I don't think I did. So why shame on me? I also don't recall saying that I am financially stable on my own. I said that I was raised in a very financially stable environment and that I've never had to apply for anything from the government. I am a full time student soon to be graduating that has a job that is soon to be a single mom. So yeah, It will be hard. But I am not going to make it harder for myself by not working and depending on my BD to provide everything for my child! I don't have to apply for financial assistance for child care..I could just be a "SAHM". But what type of future will that provide for myself and for my child?   And just because I am applying for assistance... doesn't' mean I am going to get it....

Stop taking bits and pieces of what I am saying and twisting it.  

Also, both my parents worked. We were very wealthy and my parents always told me it was up to us to pay for our education. DH'S family is the same way. His father makes so much money but has told all 5 children its up to them to pay for school. Something about that's the way the world works. You've got to work hard on your own to get anywhere in life and things won't be handed to anyone regardless of how much money their family has. I can see their point but I will gladly pay for my DD college. I mean I'll encourage her to work hard in school and strive to receive a scholarship but if she's doesn't I don't see a problem with us helping her out.

Quoting Brittney Ivanov:" <blockquote><b>Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:</b>" how you are acting is ignorant . your situation ... [snip!] ... rather stay at home with my child, it's what I want to do. And I don't think anyone should be frowned upon if they choose to."

Money isn't everything to me either...but stability is....there's a BIG difference.

Quoting S&T+1:" 14 out of 20 people are the majority."

I can tell you have never taken basic statistics.  

Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:" The op has no real income and neither of them have a job so why do you think its smart for her to stay home when her mans job isnt guaranteed nor is his school money "

Because that's what she WANTS to do. I remember my mom teaching me the lesson of "When you're an adult sometimes you have to do things that you don't want to do." I don't think OP and the other girl got that lesson.

<blockquote><b>Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:</b>" The op has no real income and neither of them have a job so why do you think its smart for her to stay home when her mans job isnt guaranteed nor is his school money "</blockquote>


I didn't say it was smart. I was confused as to if it was a good decision because I didn't know if all her money would go to child care. Like of there's nothing leftover how would it help? But I had that question answered and if child care is covered she should definetly get a job and have extra money around for emergencies etc....

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" I'm not rubbing anything in her face! I am just showing her that getting a job can make her life A LOT better. Two incomes is always better than one. I was just using my parents as an example."

What if getting a job means you will never see your child/children or they are somehow neglected because you are never around, is it a better life then? 2 incomes isnt always in the best interest of the family in my opinion.

Quoting Brittney Ivanov:" Also, both my parents worked. We were very wealthy and my parents always told me it was up to us to pay ... [snip!] ... to work hard in school and strive to receive a scholarship but if she's doesn't I don't see a problem with us helping her out."

So you chose not to go to school?

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" Do they say you can use the extra money for whatever you please? If not, that's a really sad way of taking advantage of people that are trying to help you."

It would be called a refund dumb ass. my DH is going to school for welding and has the post 9/11 bill and he gets refunds every semester right along with every other college student.

Quoting Kendra65:" What if getting a job means you will never see your child/children or they are somehow neglected ... [snip!] ... because you are never around, is it a better life then? 2 incomes isnt always in the best interest of the family in my opinion."

As a mother's its my job to ensure my child isn't neglected. So me working will have no effect on how well my child is taken care of.

Quoting Arianna's Mama =]:" It would be called a refund dumb ass. my DH is going to school for welding and has the post 9/11 bill and he gets refunds every semester right along with every other college student."

Yeah I am a dumb ass...because I've never had to apply for a loan and I just don't know how it works....which I later sad.

Good for your husband though!

Quoting Brittney Ivanov:" <blockquote><b>Quoting º×ß¡±©µ×º:</b>" The op has no real income and neither of them ... [snip!] ... answered and if child care is covered she should definetly get a job and have extra money around for emergencies etc...."

Washington state covers childcare for families with special needs children they are top priority i had to wait on a waiting list to get help where as my friend who has no job but has a special needs child was able to get child care the day she applied .

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" You can help by getting a job...."

Stop already you DO NOT know her full situation get off your high horse and give her a break or heres a clue read the whole damn OP before opening your mouth

<blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" So you chose not to go to school?"</blockquote>

If you had read what I said you would've seen I'm 2 classes away before I can apply to nursing school. And I'm an er technician and a health unit coordinator. So yes actually I did go to school. But when I had my DD I chose to stay home instead of finishing. Why are you still being rude?! I apologized and everything if I came off that way and you still want to try and put me down? I'm not an idiot. I made a choice to stay home and my DH wants me to and I respect his opinion too. And again he's supportive if I want to finish my nursing degree. But DD is only 6 months so for now I don't worry about it. And when you have to pay for it yourself it's harder for some people to go to college. It wasn't hard for me but for some it may be too much. Idk I haven't been in that situation.

Quoting Arianna's Mama =]:" Stop already you DO NOT know her full situation get off your high horse and give her a break or heres a clue read the whole damn OP before opening your mouth"