<blockquote><b>Quoting Nova and Nessa's Momma:</b>" Obviously, that's why my SO is going to school and I said I was planning on going to school when my DD ... [snip!] ... have every advantage handed to them, to be able to just go to college and get a good job. Some people need help getting there. "</blockquote>




My mom put herself through college and worked her way up to vice president. She came from nothing. She didn't use me as an excuse to why she can't continue with her education to provide a better future for me. My father built his company from the ground up starting when I was 6 years old. He came from nothing. He wasn't even raised by his mom. He didn't Use me as an excuse to not secure his future either. I'm sorry that I was born to parents who have ambition and goals who not only worried about the present (like you are) but also the future. Say I'm trying to convince whoever but ill say it again, I will never know struggle. I'm sorry you lack the ambition my parents had.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nova and Nessa's Momma:</b>" Obviously, that's why my SO is going to school and I said I was planning on going to school when my DD ... [snip!] ... have every advantage handed to them, to be able to just go to college and get a good job. Some people need help getting there. "</blockquote>


I'm really sorry that you feel like you have to defend yourself to that snotty nosed bitch. You know your life and the needs of your family better than anyone, do what's right for you and your gorgeous girls.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... posts because to me, it looks like she's got some plans. I saw that you unsubscribed... Why did you even come back in here?"</blockquote>




I came back because I can. And sure, she says she has plans but I'm smart enough to know that if a person is making excuses now, theres no saying they won't make them in the future too. Once her daughters are both in school, I can garuntee you that she will find some other reason not to work.

If she was really interested in school she would start some online classes or something to do from home while she's waiting for whatever she's waiting for,

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nova and Nessa's Momma:</b>" Obviously, that's why my SO is ... [snip!] ... bitch. You know your life and the needs of your family better than anyone, do what's right for you and your gorgeous girls."</blockquote>



Her family needs stability like anyone else's. But she's too selfish to begin to provide it. She'd rather live off the government.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ... [snip!] ... in school she would start some online classes or something to do from home while she's waiting for whatever she's waiting for,"</blockquote>


I can guarantee that you have no idea what you're talking about when you say she'll probably never work.

i went back to work when my oldest was 6 months. 6 months later I was pregnant with my second and my SO gave me the option of being a SAHM which I decided was what I really wanted, to be there for my babies and I've been home ever since (going on 4 years now). Sometimes I wish I was at work, how much easier it would be to get a break away from the everyday demands of two little people. I was even starting to apply for jobs until I found out I was pregnant again which has really shaken things up, but that's life.

Being a SAHM isn't about trying to be lazy, it's very far from it unless you neglect your children... but for it's about wanting that bonding time with my children in the most crucial years of their little lives. Some people want it, some people don't, some people can't... Just because you don't understand that doesn't mean you should presume to know everybody's intentions.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nova and Nessa's Momma:</b>" Obviously, that's why my SO is ... [snip!] ... trying to convince whoever but ill say it again, I will never know struggle. I'm sorry you lack the ambition my parents had."</blockquote>


You didn't have Down Syndrome or any other special needs.

It's not an excuse, it's a condition.

With that, I'm done. Your small mind just doesn't want to consider any other factors.

I would definitely say yes! Being a stay at home mother of a daughter with severe medical needs myself, I can tell you from experience that your daughter needs your more than ever right now. It will give you ample time to make sure all her needs are met and no one else can do that for her better than her own mommy   You have plenty of time to get a good job.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" I'm looking on the Washington Department of Early Learning website and it says that they can apply for ... [snip!] ... totally take everything I read on a forum as truth, but it's better to read into things yourself and do your own research. "</blockquote>




in Washington State parents with special needs children are top priority for child care assistance. people like me with kids with no special needs are put on a waiting list where as people with special needs children are put at the top of the line

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:</b>" She said it was a situation her friend was in. You have no way of knowing if the situation was like ... [snip!] ... the opportunity to feel any semblance of superiority. I'm glad this thread gave you the ego boost you so desperately needed. "</blockquote>



my friend's daughter has Cornelia de Lange syndrome meaning that she needs special care all the time

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nova and ... [snip!] ... family needs stability like anyone else's. But she's too selfish to begin to provide it. She'd rather live off the government."

You are 21 years old and are pregnant with your first child who isn't even born yet and by the looks of your page, I gather that you are having "baby daddy" issues but you want to get on the case of a woman who already has children and one who happens to have medical needs who is living at home happily and has no baby daddy drama and you want to tell her what is best for her kids and her family?! I just don't see how you are in any position to give any advice to anyone regarding how to raise a family.

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nova and Nessa's Momma:</b>" Obviously, that's why my SO is ... [snip!] ... trying to convince whoever but ill say it again, I will never know struggle. I'm sorry you lack the ambition my parents had."

How can you say you will never know struggle? You are 21 years old for Christ's sake!! You haven't even lived life yet!! You've probably had everything HANDED to you!

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nova and Nessa's Momma:</b>" Obviously, that's why my SO is ... [snip!] ... trying to convince whoever but ill say it again, I will never know struggle. I'm sorry you lack the ambition my parents had."

And were either of them raising a child with Down Syndrome?   You seem to forget that crucial part of the whole conversation in every single argument you post. If she didn't have DS, I would probably be going back to school and trying to get a part time job and everything. But raising a child with DS is no walk in the park, it is hard. We've been told that she probably won't be walking until she's 18 months or more, and that's typical for children with down syndrome, and that's if we work really hard with her physical therapy like we have been. Not to mention all the appointments and follow ups she has to go to. You may have come into this thread with good intentions, but your just making yourself sound like a judgmental bitch. You unsubscribed for a reason, and if you keep coming back, obviously your just looking to start smurf. So please, just stop and go educate yourself.

I didn't go through and read everything, but I worked for Best Buy for 3 uears. Unless he gets hired on as a manger position, he wont be making that much, even in sales. And the company just did a major re org back in July, so there are even less management positions. I loved working there and it was a really fun job, but it wont be near enough to support a family of 4. It's really hard to get a full time spot there, so he most likely won't be working every day. He will have to average less than 32 hours a week or the company gets in trouble. The discount is nice though!

And if you can afford it, stay home with your babies!  

Quoting Shanaddy:" I didn't go through and read everything, but I worked for Best Buy for 3 uears. Unless he gets hired ... [snip!] ... a week or the company gets in trouble. The discount is nice though! And if you can afford it, stay home with your babies!  "

No, he wouldn't be working full time, but he did say he would be working daily. Not full shifts, he said 3 hours at the least, but he would be working daily. He would be working in the back.

I'm pretty much over this whole post tho. I don't have to explain myself anymore. People can pick out what they want from what I say and use it however they want. I know that we're okay financially, and we are using the help because we need it, and we're not abusing it. That's why they have a cutoff limit on assistance. We won't be on it forever, but while he's in school, it's what we have to do. I would much rather use assistance than have no home or anything for my girls. My SO is doing his best to get a part time job while he's in school and I just found out that we did get approved for SSI, so I'm going to do what's best for my girls. What she'll be getting in SSI is what I would be getting at a job anyways, and if I get a job, they'll reduce it. So i'm going to use that help for her and make sure she gets the proper attention she needs and deserves.

Quoting Nova and Nessa's Momma:" No, he wouldn't be working full time, but he did say he would be working daily. Not full shifts, he said ... [snip!] ... they'll reduce it. So i'm going to use that help for her and make sure she gets the proper attention she needs and deserves. "

Yay, Im glad you got approved although I never doubted that you would lol