Quoting ナdeℓis ϟ:" http://www.care.com/special-needs-seattle-wa-p1049-q1943706.html Just saying...."
So i'm supposed to drive across the state every day I would have to work to get appropriate child care? That makes perfect sense. Not to mention I already said I do NOT feel comfortable leaving my kids with someone I don't know OR trust.
You can spout your smurf like you know my situation, but you don't. I wasn't born into some rich ass family who could provide everything for me if I ever ran into financial trouble, I had to work for everything I have, my mother had to work her ass off to support us, and compared to my meth addicted sister and my alcoholic brother, i'm doing pretty damn well. Yes we have some state help, and some help from my tribe, but that's what it's there for, to help needy families until they get on their feet. You don't know anything about me or my family, and you damn sure don't know how hard it is to raise a child with special needs, obviously.
We are doing just fine now, and our girls get everything they need. We have run into a few money troubles here and there, such as our car breaking down a few times but guess what, we figured out how to pay for and fix it BY OURSELVES. I don't have to hope and pray for smurf, because I've always been able to make sure my family is taken care of, no matter how I do it, and I always will be able to, I will make damn sure.
I am 20 years old with two children, one with special needs. And I have been able to make sure they have a roof over their head and food to eat, and they are both two very happy, thriving little girls, because of ME. I was about to go off to college across the state, then I found out I was pregnant with my first. My plans changed, but I wouldn't trade being their momma for the world because those two little girls mean everything to me. I may not be able to give them everything they deserve, but I make damn sure they get everything they need, and I always put their needs before my own. And yeah, for now our family may need some help from the state, but I'd rather use that help now when we actually need it, then to live my life doing some crappy job, living in a crappy apartment, because I chose to get a crappy job now that I know I would be able to get, instead of going to school like my SO is doing to better our education and widen our job range so we can better support ourselves in the future. At least me and my SO are working towards giving them the best future we can, and in order to do that we need some help. There is no shame in admitting that. We are young parents who didn't do everything right before we had kids, but we are doing everything we can to better ourselves so in the future, we can give our girls everything I want for them. And when Ness is older and doesn't need so much help, I will definitely be going back to school. But right now, depending on if we get approved for SSI or not, she needs me NOW. You can make me feel like crap all you want to, I know that if we get that extra money from SSI each month, that the best thing I can do for my baby and my older daughter is to stay home and raise my kids myself, instead of having someone else do it for me.