The hardest thing...

For a mother to hear there child say is....

where is my daddy ?



Every single, second of the day..Alyssa asks me this question & it just smurfing breaks my heart.
I hope, she stops asking  

I'm so sorry...Idk you situation with your BD but mine is in and out of my son's life, I think he is so used to it he doesn't even ask for him...

That would be tough.

What do you give her for an answer?

Quoting Kimber-Lily:" That would be tough. What do you give her for an answer?"

It is very tough.

I just tell her that he is away working.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" I'm so sorry...Idk you situation with your BD but mine is in and out of my son's life, I think he is so used to it he doesn't even ask for him..."

BD, was in her life for the majority of it & she is a total daddy's little girl
& he is currently in prison.

 

Devon&Evan see their dad once a month (or, once every other month), So, they barely know him. They don't ask for him, though.

I don't think they even know what a "Daddy" is,I think they just call him Daddy because that's what I tell them to call him, cuz they'll switch from Daddy to Jason to Weinee when they're talking about him to me (which is very rare & usually only after they hear me and my mom talking about him).

It sucks being a single mom.

Broke my heart too. Feels like they just wipe their hands clean and you're left to pick up all the pieces.

I used to tell me son, "You're dad loves you. I don't know why he doesn't call you, but I hope he will one day."

I waited almost two years, but this month he decided to call. They're going to reunite later this month. It's nerve wracking and terrifying. I'm so scared he's going to build up this relationship and then smurf off again.

The most important thing to remember is that your child and their father's relationship has nothing to do with you. If they want a relationship, they will. Just keep picking up those pieces and being that loving constant  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's Mama *:</b>" It is very tough. I just tell her that he is away working."</blockquote>



My motto is, always tell them the truth, they just don't need all the gory details. Maybe you should sit her down with a third party, like a counselor or something and try to explain to her where her dad really is, but that he loves her very much? Kids are smart. They know when they aren't being told the truth. Maybe it would help her understand and cope.

Quoting lilredsmurfy:" Broke my heart too. Feels like they just wipe their hands clean and you're left to pick up all the pieces. ... [snip!] ... to do with you. If they want a relationship, they will. Just keep picking up those pieces and being that loving constant  "

that's like my BD..

they build up a relationship & then he leaves...he was there while she was an infant but she doesn't really remember that, now that she's older...she's starting to wonder where he is.

& the worst part of it is, on her 3rd birthday..September 21st..she got all ready so he can take her out for dinner & that's the day he got arrested.

Telling her daddy wasn't coming, was heartbreaking.

Some guys are smurfing smurfs

Quoting Asher's mommy [Expecting :" <blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's Mama *:</b>" It is very tough. I just tell her that ... [snip!] ... her very much? Kids are smart. They know when they aren't being told the truth. Maybe it would help her understand and cope."

yea, she's only 3 years old though.

so, I really don't think she'll understand what prison is.

This too shall pass. I promise.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's Mama *:</b>" It is very tough. I just tell her that he is away working."</blockquote>




My daughter is 3 she asks me the same thing all the time and I tell her the same he sees his daughters for 30 mins on Sundays if he shows up :/ if you need to talk pm me

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's Mama *:</b>" yea, she's only 3 years old though. so, I really don't think she'll understand what prison is."</blockquote>




Well I wouldn't expect so. You could say that he made a mistake and got in trouble and he had to go away for a while to fix it. That's what I mean by the truth without the gory details... You tell them the truth in terms they can understand and handle emotionally.

My LO, is nine months this month. She talks to her "Dada" And says "Dada" all the time, He was gone once for two weeks to IL . Once she realized he was gone she had a melt down..and was very unhappy for several days.. but no sooner did she get over it, he came back.. But this time is diffrent.. He wants to leave for good..and who knows when or if she will see him again.. and im not looking forward to the melt down, or much like you when shes oldenough to understand it.."Wheres my daddy" well he says hes leaving for school Whatever.."Hes in school" is only gonna work for so long..I have no idea how im gonna explain to her.. that we wernt enough for him.. and that he changed his mind..

Quoting SingleMomSwagg♥:" My LO, is nine months this month. She talks to her "Dada" And says "Dada" all the time, He was gone once ... [snip!] ... work for so long..I have no idea how im gonna explain to her.. that we wernt enough for him.. and that he changed his mind.."

that's disgusting !

men are pigs, your daughter does not deserve that 



if he leaves for good, it's his loss & you try to be the best mother & father to that little girl.
when, she's older..she will thank you