3 y/o hitting pregnant stomach

I have a 3 1/2 year old to whom I've already told he will be a big brother soon. Wen I first told him ofcourse he thought it was funny and that he had a baby in his stomach too. However, ever since last Thursday when I got my first u/s and brought it home, he's been acting very strange and jealous. My parents came over this weekend and wanted to see the pictures of the u/s when I handed them over to my mom he quickly snatched them from her and said "no! Don't look at that" he wanted to rip them up but I took them from him. I tried to make him feel included in everything when I speak of the baby. I always ask "Brandon, would you like to show a picture of your baby brother or sister to so and so" sometimes he's fine, sometimes he isn't. Lately he's been climbing all over me and I feel like he purposely hits me in my stomach to "hurt the baby" I explain to him that he needs to be careful with my tummy since that's the babies home for now. But he just stares at me and says "mom I think your baby is crying" HELP! Any suggestions on what I should do?

My 4 year old is pretty aggressive with my stomach. She often jumps on it and runs into it and pushes hard on it. She is not happy about her baby brother. I just tell her that it hurts me and she's got to be nice. Then she stops for a bit.

I know it sounds bad but maybe you should avoid the subject of the new baby while your toddler is in the room if possible. He knows... he won't forget. Just don't let there be constant reminders because it's obviously aggravating him. And as far as the climbing just be careful... when you see him coming just reach out for him so that he doesn't jump on your belly. Let him get over it on his own. He's still a baby himself. He means no harm I'm sure you know that though.

Just keep talking and explaining to him. Maybe have some special activity where there is no mention of the baby. Ask him about his feelings about the baby and remember to tell him that he will still be just as loved when the baby comes. Maybe all the talk about the baby is making him feel like its getting more attention and the only way for him to get attention is to act out.

And spend some extra quality time with him now... because baby will take most of your attention when he or she gets here.

I think I'm going to talk to my husband and try to avoid talking about the baby so much in front of Brandon. I'm sure he'll warm up to the baby once he/she is here. Thanks for the suggestions

It sounds like he's feeling like this baby is gonna take away from his time with you. Talk with him and let him know that he can't hit your stomach and that he needs to be very careful with you. Also try doing some stuff with him...make him feel special just mommy and son time( no talking about the baby that will soon be there). He just needs reassurance that your still gonna have time for him. Thats fine to include him when you do talk about the baby I think that will help him alot but also don't talk about it soo much that he starts feeling like baby is taking over already. Gradually bring up the baby every now and then. My daughters two and she hit my stomach twice I ended up going in to the hospital because any type of hit to the staomach can be dangerous for the baby. I explained to my daughter that hitting my tummy can hurt baby Logan and you don't want to give mommy and baby owies right? and she responded by rubbing my tummy and giving it kisses. Does he have his own picture of your baby? One thats just or him? The ultrasound lady that did mine gave my daughter one and she absolutley LOVED it. I don't know try that you can always speak with your doctor and let him or her know about what your sons been doing and howhe's been acting and see if he or she has any suggestions...your son isn't the first jealous child. It's perfectly normal. Just don't let it get out of hand because that could potentially dangerous for you and the baby.

Once I got pregnant, I noticed how rough DD was with me (my belly specifically). I don't think it was her trying to hurt me or the baby, I just don't think I ever paid that much attention to how rough she played with me before I had to be cautious about it.

My DD, also 3.5 wasn't very happy about the baby at first either. I stopped asking her questions about the baby, or talking about it in front of her really. Once we found out the gender, I brought it back up and started trying to include her in things. When we went to the store, I would let her out of the cart to pick something out for the baby (a small toy, clothes, etc.) and that made her proud. Now, at almost 35 weeks she's ecstatic about the baby. She kisses him goodnight, shakes my belly telling him to wake up, etc. It will get better, hopefully! Just give her time.