Sad sad sad...

I can't shake being sad. I know it's part of the hormones... But it blows. I'm alone all day, everyone lives in another city so I have no family or friends here. My SO works all day and night 2 jobs so I'm with our newborn 24/7 so he can sleep to function. I feel like I'm so smurfin ugly now with my post partum body, it's disgusting, and I just want to cuddle and feel intimacy with him. Idk how to open up to him and let him know how I feel I just keep it bottled up. I hope after a few weeks I feel better... Thanks for reading my cry baby post.

Quoting Rydicule91:" I can't shake being sad. I know it's part of the hormones... But it blows. I'm alone all day, everyone ... [snip!] ... him know how I feel I just keep it bottled up. I hope after a few weeks I feel better... Thanks for reading my cry baby post."

I'm sorry mama  

aw   Just tell him how you feel girl. Usually what we think of ourselves is not what others think! I can't tell you how many times I go in the bathroom, look in the mirror and feel disgusted and literally as soon as I walk out SO looks at me and tells me how beautiful or 'hot' I am. Your SO is probably just exhausted and doesnt think about all of these things. But definitely have a talk with him on a day that he isnt dead with exhaustion and cant sit and take you seriously!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tiffany Cobb:</b>" aw   Just tell him how you feel girl. Usually what we think of ourselves is not what others think! I ... [snip!] ... things. But definitely have a talk with him on a day that he isnt dead with exhaustion and cant sit and take you seriously!"</blockquote>




I just don't wanna sound needy or hormonal. Or ungrateful that he wants provide for us. But I have this horrible feeling our relationship is gonna go to smurf, idk if he is fine not being intimate or sexual at all or if its gonna affect him and he finds it elsewhere. And now I sound like I don't trust him. Ugh I'm a wreck

Quoting Rydicule91:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tiffany Cobb:</b>" aw   Just tell him how you feel girl. Usually ... [snip!] ... or sexual at all or if its gonna affect him and he finds it elsewhere. And now I sound like I don't trust him. Ugh I'm a wreck"

no way! Of course you would feel that way.. you're a woman and most of us rely on how we look/feel to determine what others think of us. if we feel fat and ugly we think everyone looks at us like we're fat and ugly. You are beautiful and i'm sure he thinks the same of you. If anything he should be so proud of you because you carried your child for 9+ months(assuming the baby didnt come early) and labored him/her! And I don't think you sound like you don't trust him. you just want to make sure you know where his head and his heart is. And no matter if you have no kids or 25 kids, you should still want to be intimate with one another. Maybe on his next day off you can set up a little romantic scene and initiate everything. You definitely have to talk to him though. Most men have to have everything spelled out for them. I learned that the hard way lol

I really hope you feel better soon hun   I'm sure your SO still thinks you're gorgeous, even if you don't see yourself that way right now. It's an adjustment. If you bottle things up you'll just explode everywhere, it's always best to get how you're feeling out. I hope things get better real quick   You deserve it! x

Thanks that helps. I got a lot of stuff to work on.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tiffany Cobb:</b>" no way! Of course you would feel that way.. you're a woman and most of us rely on how we look/feel to ... [snip!] ... definitely have to talk to him though. Most men have to have everything spelled out for them. I learned that the hard way lol"</blockquote>




I will try to! I gotta wean this baby to sleep in his crib or bassinet . He only sleeps on my chest and I haven't slept in the bed since he was born 11 days ago .

Quoting Rydicule91:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tiffany Cobb:</b>" no way! Of course you would feel that way.. ... [snip!] ... to sleep in his crib or bassinet . He only sleeps on my chest and I haven't slept in the bed since he was born 11 days ago ."

DD was like that too! She slept on my chest the first month she was alive and after that we co slept with her. We also could never put her down without her fussing lol I got a little swing though when she was about 2 months old and it was magical for those times that I needed to sit her down for a minute or wash the dishes/etc.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tiffany Cobb:</b>" DD was like that too! She slept on my chest the first month she was alive and after that we co slept ... [snip!] ... was about 2 months old and it was magical for those times that I needed to sit her down for a minute or wash the dishes/etc."</blockquote>



He is too small for the swing we have   I'm too scared to co sleep idk what to do I sleep for like 4 hours a day in naps total, I'm dying.

Quoting Rydicule91:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tiffany Cobb:</b>" no way! Of course you would feel that way.. ... [snip!] ... to sleep in his crib or bassinet . He only sleeps on my chest and I haven't slept in the bed since he was born 11 days ago ."

LO only seems to want to sleep in his bassinet during the day.. at night he wants to be in bed with SO and I. Last night I took his onesie off and tickled his legs to keep him awake (he wakes up hungry within like an hour otherwise) and gave him a really good feed, changed his bum, put him back on the boob until he fell asleep then snuck him into his bassinet. Slept for a good 4 and a half hours straight, and only woke up twice all up. Which was a huge relief after him waking up every 30 minutes to an hour the night before :S

<blockquote><b>Quoting SulleyNZ:</b>" LO only seems to want to sleep in his bassinet during the day.. at night he wants to be in bed with ... [snip!] ... and only woke up twice all up. Which was a huge relief after him waking up every 30 minutes to an hour the night before :S"</blockquote>




Idk what I'm gonna do I gotta wean him off somehow

Quoting Rydicule91:" <blockquote><b>Quoting SulleyNZ:</b>" LO only seems to want to sleep in his bassinet ... [snip!] ... up every 30 minutes to an hour the night before :S"</blockquote> Idk what I'm gonna do I gotta wean him off somehow"

Does he cry as soon as you put him down? Have you tried moving him once he's already asleep?

<blockquote><b>Quoting SulleyNZ:</b>" Does he cry as soon as you put him down? Have you tried moving him once he's already asleep?"</blockquote>




A few minutes after and yes he wakes up within 10 minutes after i put him down and once I pick him up he is fine and passing out again. I guess I'll just have live with it until he feels better in the bassinet

Quoting Rydicule91:" <blockquote><b>Quoting SulleyNZ:</b>" Does he cry as soon as you put him down? Have ... [snip!] ... once I pick him up he is fine and passing out again. I guess I'll just have live with it until he feels better in the bassinet"

Hmm.. the only thing I can think of is swaddle him and make sure he has as big a feed as you can give him before putting him to sleep.. Maybe warm up the bassinet with a heat pack before you put him in as well. That sounds so stressful