Quoting Leslie Graham-Newton:" This is just it You have someone to protect not just you but that little boy and its not safe for him ... [snip!] ... understand how a man can't man up for the choices he himself made. I am sorry and if you'd like to talk you can always PM me!"Oh my god.....that is awful, is she and the baby ok???? I am so hard headed just like my mother was, my mother put up with an abusive man for 14 years. I only put up with it for a few months. He was never violent at all before I was pregnant, and about 2 months ago it all started hitting holes in my wall and breaking stuff, he even broke my phone so I couldn't call the cops on him last night, and in order to get out of my own house I had to jump out of a window that was a little taller then me. I do want my son protected, I just pray that things will go smoothly and that he won't try to fight me for anything. I have officially decided after what happened last night my baby will not have his last name. I thought a baby would make things even better then they were, but I was wrong it made me see who that man really is.
Quoting Leslie Graham-Newton:" if you have it documented that the abuse got physical? non you went to the hospital to get monitored ... [snip!] ... get monitored they should have that on file. Even if he has a job but doesnt have a place of his own it sounds very unlikely. "Yeah i agree.
Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" Oh my god.....that is awful, is she and the baby ok???? I am so hard headed just like my mother was, ... [snip!] ... name. I thought a baby would make things even better then they were, but I was wrong it made me see who that man really is."From what you have told us about how he acts toward the baby i could probably see him fighting for custody just because he would want to make it hard for you rather than to REALLY have his son. If you have documentation like the other post said you should be fine because most court systems don't put up with that. Which is another reason you need to get the restraining order for more proof that you had to protect yourself from him.
Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" Oh my god.....that is awful, is she and the baby ok???? I am so hard headed just like my mother was, ... [snip!] ... name. I thought a baby would make things even better then they were, but I was wrong it made me see who that man really is."
The baby is perfectly fine adorable actually. The baby daddy keeps trying to see her though even though he tried to kill her...I know alot of guys aren't excited when they get someone pregnant or find out but it still doesn't matter. I am hard headed but there is a difference between being hard headed and being naive you don't want your son hurt if he is pretty much telling you to kill the baby what makes anyone believe he is going to be a good father? Most women are naive in this kind of situation and don't go about it like you are most would forgive and forget until it happens again that is how most women end up getting killed it is an abusive relationship and I have heard of plenty of women who just let it happen day and day again and they say oh he'll change he just wasnt in a good mood last night kinda thing and it doesnt matter once you try to hurt the innocent life of an unborn baby then it becomes serious enough for someone to go to jail. If he is showing signs of doing physical damage whats to stop him from "accidentally" hitting you or the baby? That is wrong on so many levels it is your home not his he shouldn't be touching that home unless he contributes in the bills/or his name is on the lease billing him for those holes and what not. From the sound of it you'd be a lot better off without him. Babies scare most men. One of my friends thought it would help her relationship...she is now a single mother the father has not once had anything to do with the baby since she was 6 months pregnant he was constantly cheating and abusing her. This later on will help out so much but now I know it might be hard as hell. Imagine your baby in your belly and imagine what would have happened if he really hurt him?!?!?
Quoting Leslie Graham-Newton:" "He is just awful for doing that at all!!! I am taking protection, I mean he got up and put his hands on my throat threw me back on to my couch then tried to keep me from leaving my own house, elbowed me in my stomach, and covered my mouth so people couldn't hear me scream for help. There is no way I would EVER let that one go. I couldn't stand seein my mom get hit much less ever letting myself stay with a man who does stuff like that. I am glad that girl and her child were okay!! He doesn't at all deserve to see his daughter no matter how much he wants to. I sit here now and end up crying thinking about my belly and the baby I am carrying inside of the little kicks I feel all day everyday and think of how much love I have for that little baby I have never even met. I want him to have the world!
Quoting G-Gina:" The pain you felt each and every one of those times... your baby felt too.... the baby you loved and ... [snip!] ... other hurt your baby. Too much damage mentally can be done by this man to both you and your child. I wish you all the best x"I don't want him seeing him, my only question is am I wrong if I don't want his family in my sons life too? I mean his mom did some smurfed up stuff a month ago and now his sister said she doesn't care that i was in the hospital or care what her brother did, but please for me not to keep the baby away from her too. Would I be wrong too?
Quoting Leslie Graham-Newton:" I wouldn't allow them too because they could always take him around the POS sperm donor which isnt healthy ... [snip!] ... donor which isnt healthy for anyone.If she doesnt care than than that is proof enough that she shouldnt be around end of story "
Quoting G-Gina:" I wouldn't let his family see your son either... IF they really cared then they would have been there ... [snip!] ... He needs and deserves a happy mum. You need and deserve to be happy. These people will not make you happy nor do they want to."
Quoting Tabitha Barbour:" I don't want to. And your right now that i think about it they never text and ask how the baby is or ... [snip!] ... that made it easier to say sianara to it all for them. I guess anyone involved with him will not be involved with my child."I'm glad you have made that decision. Now is the time to put you first, By you I mean you and your precious little fella :O) For years I have always put everyone else first... now I'm being selfish and putting US first... my children and I....