Need advice.

My son's dad was just arrested this morning. It was his weekend with my son. He was supposed to be bringing my son home at 4pm, but instead at 10 am I get a phone call from a police officer saying I need to come pick my son up from his grandma's house. My son's dad has been trying to talk me into working things our with him, but he has another kid on the way with another chick. I don't fall into his lies, I tell him no, but the fact that he went to jail this morning really is getting to me. He went to jail for family violence. He started a bunch of smurf with his mom and his mom called the police and he went to jail. He called me from jail begging me to wait for him blah blah blah. This is all so frustrating. This is the 2nd time he is being arrested for violence. NEVER violence towards our son. Just towards other people. Like his new baby momma was the reason he went the first time but she lied. She self harmed herself and blamed it on my son's dad and got her mom to lie for her too. This time is for real. I'm just now letting everything sink in from the shock. I don't know what to think or say. And if he has to stay in jail I worry for how my son will feel.

I would immediately get the visitation plans redone

Supervised visits only, if he HAS to see his dad

Let his ass sit in jail. If he is violent toward other people, he will be violent with your son one day even if it's not until he's a teenager. He just sounds like a handful of unnecessary drama.

I doubt the first one was a lie, especially if he's in jail for it now.

I wouldn't let that guy near me or my kids.

That's awful. Do not go back to this man. Do not. Who cares if it's not towards your child. Someday it could be. But the fact that he fought with his mom in front of your child is Bad enough. He is not worth it. You can be on good terms for your child but do not restart a relationship with him.

Is that what he told you about his baby momma? He obviously has anger issues I think you should move on why is he getting out of hand and arrested with your child there?

He is still in a relationship with his new baby momma & trying to get back with me too. I don't speak to her because she has started drama with me SEVERAL times because she is jealous of the fact I have a kid with him too. It is just all so ridiculous. She is going to bail him out of jail so he is never going to learn his lesson. I don't want this life for my son. My son just witnessed his dad be arrested.... what kind of smurf is that.

Quoting Dylan'smommy011:" He is still in a relationship with his new baby momma & trying to get back with me too. I don't speak ... [snip!] ... learn his lesson. I don't want this life for my son. My son just witnessed his dad be arrested.... what kind of smurf is that. "

File for sole custody ASAP. She can deal with his violent, immature ass.

& I know for a fact that she lied about him hitting her because I was with her when she called the police. She told me that I was lying about my son's dad trying to get back with me, and so I showed her the proof. She got pissed and got him arrested. She called the police at my house with no marks on her whatsoever. Went straight to meet the police not even seeing my son's dad in between that time and showed up with marks on her. She did it to herself.

Still sounds too much drama for me

I'm sick of it. I just want to live a nice happy life with my child lol. This really isn't the life I want for my son. He shouldn't have to go through this.

im sick of the drama how bout i dont post anything about you or your kid and you dont post anything about me or mine. if we ignore each other than there is no drama. can we please be mature enough to ignore each other

Gosh hope this man doesn't get anyone else pregnant, sounds like a WINNER!

He sounds like bad news   my son's dad was very violant, never towards me but after awhile the violance turned on me, cut things off with him asap -__- just don't and won't trust him around my son knowing how he acts. for your son's safety u should get supervised visits, lots of luck

Quoting Young mommie:" im sick of the drama how bout i dont post anything about you or your kid and you dont post anything about ... [snip!] ... anything about me or mine. if we ignore each other than there is no drama. can we please be mature enough to ignore each other"

This post wasn't about you. It was about my son & his father. Get over it or don't look at it. How bout that? (: