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think it completely depends on the EXACT situation and the EXACT type of person you are with and EXACT reason why you didn't tell them

its really a situation specific thing...

I don't tell SO every little thing, especially if its something small & dumb that would cause an unnecessary arguement

Quoting bugs mommy☮:" think it completely depends on the EXACT situation and the EXACT type of person you are with and EXACT reason why you didn't tell them its really a situation specific thing..."

That's true, what do you think about the examples I gave?

Like buying an extra beer at the pub


^ if the person said they had one drink & had two i don't think that is a big deal.
if they say they had one and came home wasted or drove drunk. yes be mad.

Or if you were at the supermarket and you saw someone your SO doesnt like, and you didnt tell them, only because you knew it would just cause an unnecessary argument or they would bitch you out about it,

would depend on why they didn't like the person, if you talked to the person, and if your SO is overly jealous. if it was just a hey how are you i don't think it matters. but if SO over reacts over something that small, i wouldn't tell them.

Or if you went out for coffee with a friend but you didnt tell your SO because they would whine at you for spending money (Even though your financial situation is fine, they just always bitch about money)
i would always tell my boyfriend if i was meeting up with a friend, just silly to lie or hide that.

Or do you think it's ok to leave out details for the sake of avoiding argument?
as long as you don't lie yes.
but if its tiny things that you would be mad about them doing
then i don't think its ok to leave it out, because that is like lying.

I don't think so. If he asked about something specifically I wouldn't lie to him about anything but I don't tell him every little thing. Not because it will start an argument but I just don't think he cares enough to know.
Last week I went to lunch with a friend but never ended up mentioning it to him.

Quoting bugs mommy☮:" think it completely depends on the EXACT situation and the EXACT type of person you are with and EXACT reason why you didn't tell them its really a situation specific thing..."

agreed! Like running into an ex or something is a thing I wouldn’t hide from SO but the buying something SMALL I wouldn’t tell him. An extra beer I don’t care

My SO doesn't bitch over stupid things like that :/
We don't tell each other every detail of our days bc we don't find it necessary lol

I don't feel I need to chronicle my every move for my husband. Sometimes I'll "ask" to do things, just so he feels good about knowing about it, but he really couldn't care less. We're happier with "Hey, I'm going to my mom's today." The only thing in our relationship that even the little things are discussed is if it costs money. My husband has NO idea of our monetary situation from day to day so he'll call and ask "Is it okay if I get __________________" and I'll tell him yes or no based on what bills are due and what we have. However if he sees someone I don't like or vise versa.. I really don't care. Not like he's bringing them home.

Like buying an extra beer at the pub
-Tell them if you paid for it and money is an issue, or if they asked, or if you're an alcoholic, otherwise, why does it matter, unless you weren't supposed to be at the pub. It depends.

Or if you were at the supermarket and you saw someone your SO doesnt like, and you didnt tell them, only because you knew it would just cause an unnecessary argument or they would bitch you out about it,
-Why the hell would you tell them just about randomly running across someone? Don't need to hear a rant, unless there's some good reason why they need to know where this person has been.

Or if you went out for coffee with a friend but you didnt tell your SO because they would whine at you for spending money (Even though your financial situation is fine, they just always bitch about money)
-If they ask what you did all day, or whatever. You don't HIDE it, but you don't have to necessarily account for every second of your day. It depends.

My husband is like my bestfriend so we pretty much tell each other everything not because we feel we have to but just because we are almost always together and he's the person i talk to the most. If i went out with my friend and bought something i wouldn't feel like i had to report back to him because he's not controlling like that but i know some relationships feel the need to be that way.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Autumn Whisper:</b>" Like buying an extra beer at the pub -Tell them if you paid for it and money is an issue, or if they ... [snip!] ... all day, or whatever. You don't HIDE it, but you don't have to necessarily account for every second of your day. It depends."</blockquote>



This

My opinion is if it comes to buying things, yes, especially if there are children in the picture because i feel that money being spent needs to be known to both partners, just in case something happens and things need to be weighted out to see what your spending on more or less each week and what is spent on the most that may not exactly be needed.

Although, if it's someone you see in a public place that's a different story because i mean it is not hurting anything that you ran into someone your SO doesn't like if it wasn't planned to happen.

I feel leaving out details of certain situations like seeing someone in a public place and spending money is a different thing.

I mean, ya it may cause an argument and overreact to it that you told your SO that you spent money, but i mean if you don't tell your SO and he/she finds out another way it may cause an argument too.

I don't know, I mean, "hiding things" makes it sound like you're being dishonest in some way. So, "hiding things" is a no go for me- it makes me think of criminal activity or cheating, etc.


I don't feel the need to tell my husband every little detail of my day, every little thing I buy, everyone I see...etc. nor do I expect to know all the small details about his day. Seems unrealistic to me.

I ask my guy everything. Doesn't matter what I do or where I go, I give him the respect of knowing you know? Just in case something happens to me or him, I'd like him to know where I was & how to get ahold of me or vice versa.